Would you reveal secrets of an organization that you belong to?

I'm curious as to other's points of view. I don't know if my actions and beliefs in this situation are extreme. I don't see harm in telling my wife. She won't tell anyone, and even if she did, it would not be the end of the world. I'm wondering if I am holding a normal belief. More importantly, I know that it would not kill me to tell her, but I know that she is troubled - even if only slightly - by the fact that I won't tell her. So I'm thinking that I could be going overboard with the secrecy.

What I believe is right doesn't necessarily(and most of the time does not) reflect what is right. I just kinda would like to hear some other opinions.

If I was sure I was right, I wouldn't have a bad feeling. I wouldn't think badly about anyone who confided in a loved one with that kind of secret. I just wonder if I should loosen up some.

 

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Fears Glen.

 

That's the way I feel. We are talking about this at work now. A couple guys here have told their wives and exo girlfriends their frat's secrets. They think it is no big deal.

 

Dafuq is going on in this thread?

 

Moral dilemma.

 

As long as you're not a Mason....

 

As Long As You're Not A Muslim...



Cheers Glen.

 

It is still an oath though. I'm probably sounding more serious than I actually am. No one is going to die either way. I just feel kind of bad not telling my wife, but I don't think telling her is right.

 

You Don't Tell Us How Old You Are, But Don't You Think It's Time

To Move On From Your "Frat Days" And Finally Become A Man....



Cheers Glen.

 

Is your word any good or not? Some people still think if a man's word is no good, niether is he.
That's the simplest of it to me. Can you be trusted at all and what did you sacrifice your word for? Torture? That's a pretty high degree. Money? That's pretty forceful on some, but still...that line of thinking. A wet hen having a fit seems to be the lowest rung on the ladder.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

That's why I keep them absolutely sauced at all times! Ahahaha! (That was just irresistable. Sorry ahaha! Back to topic....)

 

You Have A Brain......................???



Cheers Glen.

 

Meh, it was in school, it doesn't matter anymore

 

I have moved on, I am not involved with it anymore, not for over 20 yrs. It's not the organization that is important - it's the oath that I'm talking about.

I just started thinking about this while in a bored state. The problem does bother me a little but it is no big deal. I just wanted other opinions to compare with mine to determine whether I'm being too anal about telling the secrets of an organization that I am no longer active in to my wife when I have taken an oath not to do so. Others in my organization have done so in the past and I have learned tonight that some of my coworkers have done so against their organization's oaths.

 

I Guess It All Comes Down To What The Oath Is, Many Married Friends Of Mine

Have Told Their Wives Secrets, And Years Later When The Marriage

Gets Stormy, Those Secrets Come Back To Bite Them

On The Bum....

My Advice Would Be........Zip Your Lip....



Cheers Glen.

 

You have friends?

 

Thank you all for your opinions. It looks like the majority of opinions in the posts tonight/today favor my stance, however the argument that it was in school and is not important any more is just as valid and is share by my coworkers and my wife.

I know other people that I feel go over board on a belief and don't realize many people think that they are extreme. But since I don't set the standard for right or wrong, who am I to call it "over board"? At least I see now that some people agree with me.

My lips are sealed for now. Thank you all for your posts - some really good points were made.

 

I'm just coming of a night shift. I don't know if I'm making sense now. Good night/day.

 

Welcome to the club! Not that I'm in the club.And there really isn't a club in the first place.But if there was a club,and I was in it,I would certainly welcome you to it.