and why? It seems to me that giving oneself pleasure anally would be more desirable/accessible than receiving it by another person. I feel there are variables of angles, speed, timing...etc that are much easier to control if one is by him/herself. What do you think?
i much prefer anal play with my partner by having her lick and rim my anal area, followed by anal pegging me with one of our strapless strapon dildos (which she gets stimulated by as well) and she knows how to work the strapon dildo in such a way that she can get me to a "squirting orgasm" very easily, but on some occasions if she has had her pleasure and orgasm'd from us or her doing other stuff before hand, she isnt really inclined to partake, but is happy for me to do my thing while she is there with me. on my own i dont have much control over anything really, because having to hold a slippery dildo (i use nuru gel) with one hand and getting the right action going just doesnt do it for me. the only times i do get satisfied and actually achieve a squirting orgasm on my own is either when riding our Sybian in a particular position with the 6" dildo attached, or if i am lying on my back on the bed with my knees folded back and rest them on my shoulders, and i use one of my wifes battery operated G-Spot stimulator toys on myself in a particular way that gives me the the same squirting orgasm. and yes, as wierd as it seems, i do have an orgasm (well thats what i call it) and i do squit as well at the same time, and its such a dam nice feeling
care to elaborate more, like who's post was your reply aimed at, the thread creator (OP) or maybe mine if you are male, and have never had an squirting orgasm then your missing something really great, then again you must be into Anal play pretty heavily to achieve it. when i say "squirting" i refer to my penis secreting small flows of precum during the pre-orgasmic play, and when i reach "orgasm" i actually squirt "pee" from my penis. it is basically the same thing as a woman having a squirting, or gushing orgasm, and is bought on in me the same, or similar way that i bring my wife to have her gushing orgasms as well, either by intercourse or using her vibrating G-Spot vibrator.
Despite having tried on many occasion to stimulate myself through Anal Masturbation, although it might be reasonably pleasurable I never found it had much to offer, and even thought that the whole prostate orgasm thing was an Urban Myth. That is, until I lost my Gay Virginity & was penetrated, resulting in the most intense orgasm I had ever experienced, with semen ejaculating from my totally flaccid penis, without even having touched it. Ever since then I've still not managed to achieve any form of stimulation through Anal Masturbation, but when being penetrated, that's a different matter.
your experience seems to be very similar to mine, in that i cant get much satisfaction on my own using any sort of dildo, simply because i need to put too much effort into using one hand just to hold the dildo and try to get myself in the right position, usually resulting in total frustration, and the dildo being covered with nuru gel and slipping out of my hands all the time (yeah sounds funny tho) being pegged by my wife using her strapless strapon dildo (well its more mine than hers) will almost always result in me having those magical squirting orgasms that some females enjoy, so i always look forward to her being in "the anal play mood" because it doesnt always happen that often.
Solo allows you to control how you use something to penetrate yourself with & how fast you do it & the positions you prefer to do it in.
personally i think the opposite is more accurate in my case, because i am not restricted to the positions i can use because i need one hand free to hold the (slippery) dildo, and it has to be a position that allows me to reach my anus and allow me to use the dildo in the manner i need to gain the pleasure i desire. when my wife does it, i can lay in almost any position and have her peg me, and there is hardly any interaction by me in any position, except when she is on her back and i straddle the strapon dildo and ride it, then i am the one who controls everything, however i prefer my wife control what she does, because she knows exactly what i like for me to achieve my squirting orgasms. maybe others are different, but me, give me a partner any time, and i love the intimacy of sharing with her orgasms with me as well, because the strapless strapon dildos are designed for her to insert the bulb end inside her pussy, which in tun rubs her G-Spot while she is pegging me. both of us dont orgasm together very often, usually i will first, then when she removes the dildo from me, she will grab the penis end and jerk it up and down until she gushes with an orgasms.
I'm sure I would enjoy the intimacy as well. However, I'm enjoying out-of-this-world solo orgasmic experiences. I'm refining a technique for using an inflatable plug followed by a 12" bendable dildo to have big orgasms that would last for up to two minutes at high intensity, followed by up to 10 minutes of milder ecstasy. I thought I was an outstanding strength & endurance athlete until I had few of those. In the last 10-60 seconds of the intense phase, immediately after I take the dildo/plug out, I find it extremely pleasurable to rub the sensitive skin/wall of the rectal entry in a very rapid manner--almost exactly in the same way that a woman would rub her clit when climaxing. They say knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers; I may have cracked the code to life's wisdom and figured out how to orgasm like a woman on my path to deeper understanding of the reality of our existence
Just as you experiment with various ways to achieve your heightened orgasm, so do we. It's a whole package for us. The arousal is intense before penetration....the expectation of it and everything that leads to it. After spending time watching, patience in technique, my complete attention and responsiveness to his pleasure; I have learned to read him and his body during our play and believe it or not.... him feeling my arousal, intensity and feeding into me, he has reached some wow! amazing orgasms. We also change up and indulge ourselves in self masterbation together. Only 1/4 of those times does he opt for the dildo. He has had a powerful orgasm a time or two, but for the most part that is just stimulation to add his stroke ejaculation. I enjoyed posting this. I had one other experience to share, but I figure I'm getting carried away and these are my experiences as the giver not receiver.
