I love submissive women, but they must be active. I hate when a woman just lies there with her legs spread and never moves. Boring.
I'm more dominant by nature but I'd love to see my wife get out of her shell and make some demands. Mainly because I'd like to experience that part of her psyche. The best way to discover a persons sexual needs is through their dominant voice, where they are direct about their sexual expressions without fear.
I prefer my girls to be submissive for the most part, but I occasionally like to switch it up. I have a few fwbs who are pretty good at doing the femdom thing without going too far down the rabbit hole, i.e. humiliation. That part's not for me
I know I’m not giving direct answer to the question, I would rather have partner is receptive to being submissive or being dominant. The act of being receptive to trying new things without hang ups. Is a big plus when playing around,
For me it depends on the mood of who I am with that we have going on that day. In Bdsm I'm a switch so I like variance. Not a lifestyle Bdsm, but it is a kink I appreciate. Sometimes I feel a need to be in control of the situation, sometimes I feel like being more the follower per say in the experience. It is very situational in how my partner and I feel at the time.