Would you let your 16 old?

I dont think "letting" your children do things at 16 is possible. If you tell a teenager not to do something they want to do the only way to make sure of it is to follow them around 24 hours a day. Kids are going to do what they want, if not in your home then in someone else's. It's not like you can chain them up in their bedrooms.

As someone who has had my share of fun on many illegal substances I plan on talking to my son very early about drugs and booze. I want him to be able to come talk to me when he thinks he wants to try something. If he is going to do something I would like the opportunity to tell him the good and the bad. I would not have a big problem with pot. If he is smoking in the basement or his room then at least I know what he's doing and that he's safe.

Hell, if I'm out of the navy by then I can pinch bowls out of his bag!

 

hi, I am new here... great site, by the way!

Anyway, I fully beleive that a person at 16 is capable of making that type of decision whether or not to smoke pot. I also don't beleive this should be an illegal substance (read the history behind making this illegal - blame on the Rockefellers and their oil cartells). Smoking pot is like anything - a matter of personal choice.

I don't smoke because I feel it damages the aura. And because it is "illegal" that if you smoke, tptb (the powers that be) have a type of controlling hold on you. It makes it easier for them to manipulate and control you electromagnetically thru their system of alleged cell phone towers and thru thier trumped up psychics. They have access to you thru your auras. So, I dont. But, to me, it is a matter of personal choice and individual sovereignty.

I do quite a bit of energy work, healings via energy and crystals. Fighting the NWO. Call me an etheric warrior.

 

Really? I guess my day never came.......Most people who smoke weed do NOT get into any trouble with it, or because of it. We aren't talking about crack here, it marijuana, for Heaven's sake.....

 

Let's face it... If the sixteen year old young man who started this thread ended up in the same "trouble" as Maggie, a.k.a. lactation consultant, a.k.a. boob inspector, I think he'd be pretty pleased.

 

I've thought about this. My son is 4 and my daughter is due to be born in 2 weeks. So, this is something dh and I have actually talked about. I smoked at 16 and turned out fine but I know some people who didn't turn out OK at all.

Truth is, you can't stop your kids from doing whatever they're going to do when you're not there. If you say "no" and they really want it, they'll do it behind your back. If you say, "yes" though you're condoning a minor doing a crime. So, it's really hard.

I still don't know what I'm going to do when my kids are teens. It scares the shit out of me. The only thing I can hope for is that I teach them to think for themselves, that peer pressure is for idiots, and to know what to do and what not to do. I can't condone a minor something illegal, even if I myself do it on occasion or something I did when I was their age.

Personally, I think weed should be regulated like alcohol and cigarettes and it should be legalized. And if it ever is legalized then I probably would be OK with it...so long as it didn't effect life itself.

 

I have a 9 year old daughter and we have already had a few chats about cannabis. A friend of ours has adrenal cancer and has an exemption from the government for him to use marajuana medicinally. We explained the medicinal benefits of it to her as well as the politics of it being illegal. We also had a chat with her about it when she saw our plant that we were growing for our friend. We talked about the pros and cons, why her dad and I smoke it, and the history of cannabis and hemp. We were totally honest with her, and did not attempt to hide the fact that we smoke it.
I feel that at age 16, you are a young adult, ready to make your own decisions. If you have taught your children well, they will usually make the right choice. Sure, they will make mistakes, but hopefully they will learn from them. That's what life is all about.
If my daughter is curious about trying cannabis, I will encourage her to wait until she is 16. Once she is mature enough to handle it, yes, I will toke with her. I would rather her get her pot from me, than buy it from some scummy dude in town, and get ripped off.
Some friends of mine have a 15 year old son, who smokes pot. They hold his weed for him and dish it out to him on weekends only. They don't actually smoke with him, as his dad says "I'm his father, not his friend." but they are honest about their habits and don't hide it from their son. They have a great relationship with their son, very open and honest. This way, they are able to set boundries that their son will understand and accept, rather than lie to him and have him lose respect for his parents.

 

I have never been a fan of hiding it from them. I think you cut yourself off from them if you are always running off to the bedroom or whatever and I think that it gives out the impression that there is something wrong with it. Why else would you hide? My step-sons understand we are old hippies. That being said, we are very discreet when it comes to their friends coming over. We don't want to upset parents that might not feel the same way.

 

Well i'm not a parent but my step mom has always been someone i could talk about doing drugs with, and which i havnt and would like to try, I think it's great, because if she advises me not do something i know theres a reason, but most of the stuff she doesn't mind me doing

 

Pot isn't stupid. It's just illegal. And Silver Clover if you're so damn smart, how about you do a little homework, ok? Rent Grass and learn about WHY it had become illegal. open your mind and try to learn about something before you act all self rightous and superior.

You're not risking grades for a job? I see you as the kind of person who stays in college for as long as possible because you're too scared to live in the real world. Grades aren't everything. Life is. Try and live it sometime and see how it feels. Education is really important, but it's not everything.

As for you calling the cops, I would be a hell of a lot more worried about myself than sticking your nose where it doesn't belong. Calling cops and getting involved when nothing is affecting you is just fucked up. You'll get your ass kicked for that. Worry about yourself. God knows you have a lot to work on...

oh yeah and that's coming from a straight A student who dropped out of school to travel and now I'm running a company. So your "qualifications" for being smarter than anyone else here doesn't mean dick.

 

I know this is an old thread but i'm gonna throw my ten cents in anyway.

I dont think I'm going to "let" my kids to any of that stuff. I dont know that I would stop them if I caught them, but I wouldn't say to them as they're walking out the door for the night, "Hey, you can smoke, drink, whatever, just as long as you're safe." I guess the thing for me is, part of smoking and drinking and all of that is finding a way to keep it from your parents. and i wouldn't want to have my kids miss out of that.

 

I wouldn't let them smoke weed, no. Not in this day and age. I know what kinds of people smoke weed these days, and they aren't all peace loving hippies. If the kid starts hanging out with those sorts, he could very soon start hanging out with dealers and move on to heavier drugs.

Sigh... It's times like this when I wish for it to be legalized most of all... Nice and clean weed from the store, wouldn't that be nice?

 

well, come June pot legalization move foreward or take a huge step back.

 

Well, I smoke weed myself so what am I going to do? Say no? I don't even feel like it's bad so what would my reasoning be? I'm not going to teach him to accept laws just because they're laws (in some places you're not even allowed to put a quater in someone else's parking meter...give me a break) But to accept them if they're right. I mean lets face it, people know not to steal or kill or all that stuff becausze it's wrong, not just because somene said it's a law. Not putting a quater in someone else's parking meter if you can is mean. Smoking or not smoking weed doesn't make a hell of a lot of difference. In fact, it would be better for him to smoke a little weed at the house, (even invite friends so they can all be safe) rather than get some alcohol from someone else's parents' cabinet and get some alcohol poisoning while doing it in secret. Or get some weed from a street corner dealer

 

I wouldn't smoke with my kids friends until he/she was 18 or older.

YOu never know when one of those brats would run thier mouth to someone about how cool so and so's mom is and have some asshole call the cops or Child protection

 

It would be nonsense to forbid my child (if I had one) to smoke weed, because about one third of people around this age smokes weed here (sometimes even 12 years old children), so (s)he would do it anyway. And I think that getting drung every friday is much worse. MOST of sixteens here get drunk reguralry. (Alcohol is legal for 18 and older, but noone cares)

 

My parents don't let me do anything. I talked to my mom about smoking pot and told her ive tried it... which is not a lie... but not exactly the truth because ive done a little more than try it LOL. So yeah, she was cool with it and just said dont get wrapped up in it... my parents arent going to let me do anything illegal, but they let me be a kid... they know they arent going to be able to watch me 24/7...even though sometimes they try. I know secretively they would love to lock me in my room until im 25...but what parent wouldnt? They all just want to protect their kids.

 

"I wouldn't smoke with my kids friends until he/she was 18 or older.
YOu never know when one of those brats would run thier mouth to someone about how cool so and so's mom is and have some asshole call the cops or Child protection"

Well, I didn't mean to smoke with him and his friends, just let him know he can do it at the house, and invite friends, but to tell his friends they're sneaking to do it. Believe me I know about kids/teenagers mouths! lol I had one haha

 

I don't think bad of anyone who provides a safe place for kids to explore pot. I just don't think I would have the guts to put myself out there like that! Kids don't mean to talk shit, but they like to brag about how cool their life is. I would never even admit I knew the kid if he ran his mouth!!!

 

There was a teacher in our area who would kind of hang out with kids, and he occasionally smoked, and let the older kids smoke in his house, so they would be "safe." One of the parents called the cops, and not only was this dude arrested, but they took his HOUSE away and sold it for their "drug program." It was SICK. I also know a mom who let older kids smoke in her house and she very narrowly escaped Child Protective Services taking her kids. I don't agree with ANY of this happening, but we live, sadly enough, in a weed-paranoid society. If you do decide to smoke with your own teens, DO NOT smoke with their friends, you could lose your kids and your house.

And, oddly enough, the charges against the teacher were dropped, but they still kept his house. Property can be seized in some areas, even if you are not found guilty or even charged with a drug offense. Just be CAREFUL. There are a lot of paranoid people who could really mess you up, if they wanted to.

I would like to see the laws that make cannibis unlawful change. But until they do, be careful, hippie parents.

 

That is America, country of freedom.

But is it really in US laws that police (or government) can take away someone's house just becouse he let children smoke weed there? I can't believe it.