Would You Ever Cheat And Why?

Would you cheat on your wife, girlfriend, boyfriend or husband? What would make you cheat. I have never cheated on my wife and don't believe I ever will. So what if anything would cause you to cheat? I have a friend who is cheating on his wife and he says cause she won't do certain things in bed that he likes. He says he loves his ass licked and she won't do that or anal sex. So he finds other women to do that with. My wife isn't into anything that has to do with her asshole and I'm OK with that. I would like to rim her but can do without that. I just don't think that there is anything sexually that would cause me to look for sex outside my marriage. What do you folks think?

 

Nope. Because I have good communication with my partner there is no need to cheat or fool around. There is no jealousy either, we are in it together. It's not uncommon for us to engage people for sex, majority of the time we participate together but at other times I fly solo, on her consent of course.

I feel communication is severely lacking in most relationships. When a guy gets bored and wants another, or a girl for that matter, why not try opening it in discussion with your partner? They might be into it too.

I don't like cheating scum.

 

Nah. I've always been honest. If I get sick of someone or feel it's just not working ill just tell them straight up. I have to much of a guilty conscience an I think it would just eat away at me if I cheated.

 

I can't always blame the cheater in some circumstances either. I mean the whole thing with wanting to try new things sexually, sex is like an adventure and there's always more people and more positions to try. We grow up watching porn, we wanna get amongst it too. If one partner isn't reciprocating them this becomes a problem but it all stems from the lack of communication too, IMO.

If I was actively out seeking a relationship, first thing I'd care about is the chemistry in the bedroom. If she's not suited to me there, I don't think she's going to be the one.

 

No. And I know for a fact my man won't cheat because I make sure he is sexually satisfied.

Sex is the most basic need of a man. If I can't help my husband meet his most basic need, then I'd expect him to find a woman who could.

 

when I was married I was known to eat dinner at my friends houses because their wives could cook....is that cheating?


no need for sex-cheating at my age....however as a younger man I was spotted with a woman that wasn't my girlfriend more than once


in my defense we didn't have the internet and I didn't have you people to keep me on the moral path...

 

^ yep

I have long ago...and have been cheated on also. It is very painful. I'd never do it again and if I was with someone that did that to me now...no forgiveness, it's over, done deal...good fucking bye.

 

I guess I'm the "cheating scum" Irminsul...and that's OK
I HAVE cheated, and never will again. This is my reasoning (Please don't take it as an excuse, as I had no excuse).

I was in a relationship for 2 years with an amazing guy that I thought I would marry. This is my high school mind of course, as I can see now that it was not an ideal relationship, even in the beginning. However, by the 3rd and 4th year he became extremely emotionally abusive. He would call me dumb, tell me to kill myself, bring me down emotionally. He would go to parties and not talk to me the entire time while he got girls drunk and talked to people about the size of his dick. He slapped me in the face with a used ondom once because I was switching birth control and asked him to use one. Etc.
Why didn't I leave?
I thought I couldn't find someone better.
In my young....well my younger mind I somehow gotten it into my head that I was ugly and worthless. That I would never find someone who loved me as much as he, or who would be there for me. Funny how that works, hey? You know things are very very wrong, but somehow you're convinced it's the best you'll get.

I was 18 at the time. Started talking to a guy from work. He was 30. It was more of a friendly talk. We would flirt a little, yes. Which is still cheating to me. We would role play dirty scenarios, but I never did anything with him in person. My whole work went to a christmas function. I was hanging out with 4 or 5 people and...well...the free shots and drinks got to me. A friend of mine and her man had a hotel room, and offered for me to stay in the room. They also invited the guy I had been talking to. When I started to come to I'd say..or the alcohol was wearing off, he was on top of me with his fingers in me. When I started crying he stopped.
I led him on, and while it still wasn't right what HE did, it wasn't right what I did. I told me ex the day after. He honestly didn't care as much as I thought he would.

About half a year later (now it was really bad, after I confessed to him), I was sitting at the kitchen table. My dad had some friends over, one of which was a male a few years older than me. I had always had a crush on him. We ended up playing footsies under the table. My ex and I separated soon after that, for unrelated reasons. That man I played footsies with lays next to me every night now. I don't know how I managed to say in that relationship, and I should've ended it before it got bad enough for me to flirt around.

I've learned lots from my experiences, and can't see me EVER cheating again. The nagging, guilty feelings it leaves is draining and sticks with you the rest of your life. Trust me on that. But that's all I can say about that.

 

Nope. For me.. it wouldn't be about the sex.. it'd be about the lying. I hate being lied to and I'm awful at lying. I'm too lazy to be a good liar. You have to remember what you said and to whom. Bugger that. And 'cheating' implies lying.

These days, I'm celibate anyway... so this doesn't come up. Nothing comes up. heh. My batteries don't cheat on me, either!

 

But if you know it may take less than a month to find the next one, what really is the difference?

It will sound the same to the chics

 

Personally i would not and for me it would be a deal breaker because of the trust issue, not the sex.

Those who I have known who did have affairs did so not because of the sex but because something in their relationship was not working be that communication or needs. . The initial thrill of the sex was short lived but the emotional needs seemed to stay. None of those who I know stayed with the person they had the affair with for a long period of time after they left their marriages. Only one couple has managed to stay together that were married and that was with a lot of hard work and a lot of years to solve hurt, trust and rebuild a relationship.

The odds of an affair becoming a permanent relationship are pretty dismal. Probably in part as the trust issue is bound to come up for most people.

 

Pick a wife based on how flirty she isnt with other guys, threatened by the likelyhood she will cheat, how jealous they will get and how that makes them feel....years later complain about it, then seek the services of sluttier girls, or guys in some cases...and pretty much everytime without anyone knowing.

Everyone can verbalise it whichever way it makes them sound, feel good about themselves. Its irrelevant. Its always about sooky little jealous feelings first. Its only unconditional love if there are no conditions

 

And rollingalong makes a good point

You go over your sister in laws all the time cos shes a really good cook, your wife cant cook for shit

Why is it only 'cheating' if its sex related

And I address that mainly to the guys, as the girls will consider it cheating if he emotionally bonds with another girl. Or the guys might act like its cheating if she emotionally bonds with another guy, but actually angry that he might be sinking the pink

 

The problem with this thinking is that guys like variety, not just quality. I'm not saying he's going to act on that temptation, but it exists.

 

Nobody can know another persons story completely. People make mistakes, as long as you learn from it.

 

People like quality and variety, not just guys

 

95% of girls might think like you do, but not all of them do

 

That is where a threesome comes in handy....

 

You had best make it clear you have to be one of the three.

 

Obviously....