Would you date a fat person?

No. I tend to not even hang out with overweight people.

 

Why? I mean obviously everyone has a right to hang out with whomever they choose and like whomever they choose...

I'm just curious is all..

 

Society has is judgemental enough that it gives ugly girls horrible self-esteem. In turn, they tend to develop personalities to counter this; hence the stereotype of the nice, fat girl, or jokes such as "why do fat girls give good head? because they have to". Personality traits I tend to find tiresome.

Obviously this doesn't apply to everyone, but I don't have the time or motivation to sift through the rough for the diamond.

 

asking someone would you date a fat person??? is like asking someone would you date somebody with a fat mouth.. really quite rude

 

Yeah, but we don't all equate "fat" with "ugly."

 

Yeah, I know not every single person on the planet thinks fat is ugly. But enough people do, especially in the media, that the effect I earlier described took hold.

And of course, I find fat ugly.

 

abit overweight yes. i dont know i actually preffer girls tht have some meat to them, not fat just filled up with nice curves. allthough personallity comes first.

 

Most guys would lose respect for their friend if he dated a fat girl, no matter how nice she is. It's the same with really ugly girls, or with overly masculine girls.

Most guys want either average or slightly above average, while some would even settle for slightly below average. They're usually scared off if a girl is too good-looking, so the cocky jerks and the self-unaware get to date them, unless she's got a really good and unintimidating personality, like if she exudes vulnerability for example.

So basically, it would take a lot for me to date a fat chick but I would probably fuck one if no one would ever know, because to tell the truth they can be lots of fun and are totally sexually frustrated, which would make them really wild and easy to please (or so I would imagine).

 

Only if they had a REALLY good personality

 

Only if they were really rich , old and forgetful

 

You can find exceptions anywhere. Bush has an mba.

Being fat is totally a life choice for the vast majority of people. You see a lot more fat middle class white americans than you do poor people living in huts.

 

I've never dated a "fat" person.

I am quite active and health conscious.

I like dating people who can keep up with me.

 

I'm with you Jemima, very materialistic question.

 

Thank you! I'm a fat chick who is steadily losing weight, which I finally decided I wanted to do for myself after years of suffering because of it. I never had to go without love or friendship as a result, but the biggest thing for me is the physical discomfort and the difficulty in getting around and finding things in your size, etc. It's fucking inconvenient to be overweight, and it also just hurts your body!

I lost a lot about 4 years ago and kept it off for a couple of years, but gained a bunch of it back during the course of a serious relationship and the subsequent breakup. Then after gaining almost all the weight back that I lost in the course of two years, I hurt my back at work, then had to choose between fucking it up more or losing weight. I chose the latter at the beginning of this year, and completely changed my lifestyle. I'm 5 feet tall, and at my heaviest ever I was 212 lbs, and on someone my height that's pretty damned obese. I am now at 176, which feels so much better, but still in the obesity range, and I hope to eventually be a muscular 120 lbs. I'm damned determine to reach that goal for my own well-being.

I am not insulted by people who simply say I'm fat. I am honestly more insulted by people who try to tiptoe around my feelings and tell me that I'm not fat, quite frankly. It's like they'll lie to me to spare what they view as the fragile feelings of a woman with low self-esteem, and that ain't me! I can be hard on myself at times, but I don't think I necessarily have "low self esteem," and it's insulting that they feel they would have to lie to me. I hate it when someone tells me I'm not fat. What I do like is when my friends and family notice the subtle changes in my appearance and give comments like, "that shirt looks bigger on you," or things like that. I don't always need to hear those things, but the positive encouragement is always nice.

As for who I'd date myself, a lot of factors go into attraction, and it's far more complex than that. However, since my obesity happened as a result of being self-destructive, I don't really desire self-destructiveness in a mate, in any form. Self-destruction, whether in the form of drug or alcohol abuse, or blatantly not taking care of oneself, or being overweight as a result of bad habits, are all kind of a turn-off for me. I want to be with someone who would motivate me to steer away from being self-destructive, not someone who would encourage it.

 

Hey, its everyone's right to date who they want to date....but all I am saying is that don't always automatically assume that the overweight person you see is that way because they are lazy and eat too much!

 

...cause you'd be wrong about 1% of the time.

 

Great post. Attractive even.

 

Well I find it offensive that because I am overweight people will automatically think me to be an overeater and lazy, because it is simply not true!

Besides - shouldn't a person be judged on what kind of person they are rather than their dress size?

 

I've dated people of all shapes, sizes, colors, ages. It shouldn't matter what someone looks like, its about who they are. I only feel sorry for the people who can't see past someones looks because you're missing out on knowing some absolutely beautiful people.

 

No one should be judged on their appearance, but unfortunately most people do jump to those conclusions.

In simple terms, in order to gain weight and keep it on, one must eat more calories than they use. There very exceptions to that rule: lipodystrophy is a disorder in which the body does not make enough leptin, which is a hormone that tells our brains when we've had enough to eat. People who are lacking in leptin do not have the ability to sense when they've had enough and often overeat because they still feel hungry. Those are extremely rare. There are also a few hormonal disorders in women which can cause a lot of weird things to happen to the metabolism. My sister, for instance, has polycystic ovarian syndrome which can cause some very disordered biochemical signaling within the body, and can make it more difficult for her to keep from gaining weight when she indulges.

Most people who I've known who are overweight do not suffer from any health problems which make them overweight, and few of the people I've ever actually known through others had a condition which would cause weight gain. In those cases it comes down to a simple, "you eat more than you use" equation. "You eat more than you use" is a statement of fact in most cases. It doesn't mean a person is neccessarily lazy.

I do not agree with judging people on their weight, or making assumptions about them. I have never, EVER not gotten to know someone based on their weight. I always go for personality first. I AM fat, remember? I've been there and know how it feels. So I don't judge others harshly. However, I am acknowledging the fact that we can't pretend that no one has any accountability for how they end up, physically or otherwise.

On a personal note, I didn't get fat from donuts, cookies, or cake. I got fat from having my job and house chores be my only real exercise, and by eating too many calories. Period. I never considered myself "lazy" - my house was always clean, I always worked, always met my deadlines. I never considered the food I ate to be unhealthy - I happen to like whole foods and health foods, and prefer them over junk. But I didn't take the time to go exercise for my own fitness, and I overate and didn't keep track of how much food I took in. I'm sure some people looked at me and saw twinkies and pie + total couch potato. That sucks more for them than for me. You can't take anyone's dumb ass opinions too personally. Just live your life and do what you feel is right, and be honest and unapologetic about it. But do be prepared for ignorance and bigotry on occasion. People just kinda suck sometimes.