Hello, I am a 32 year old male. I exercise daily and am generally in good health. I am often lifting weights in the gym, walking on the trail at the park, or walking through the mall. This creates a problem for me. It's not necessarily bad, but I am not sure if it's normal. I am almost constantly surrounded on a daily basis by women of all ages, colors, shapes, and sizes. Even older girls that I am not sure if they are under 18 because they are developed like a woman. Most of them are wearing spandex. I can often see their panty lines. What's the problem right? Well I have a sex addiction. Not just sex, but anal sex. When I see a woman who is attractive, I often immediately fantasize about spreading their cheeks apart, spitting on their hole and my penis for lube, rubbing the head of my penis around their anus, reaching around and gripping their breasts or rubbing their clitoris, and finally getting around in their butt. I can not help it, often i am distracted when talking to a woman because while I'm listening to her talk, I'm fantasizing about how good her mouth would feel wrapped around my penis and the suction around my hard cock. When a woman bends over in public, I am often caught looking by other women and given dirty looks, maybe they are jealous? Sometimes it is so bad that I have to find a bathroom to masturbate in when out in public, just to relieve the tension. Often I am so turned on that only 10 seconds of masturbating and I cum. I have a girlfriend and I feel bad because she doesn't know about my fantasies. She knows I love anal sex, and do does she, but we have been together going on 5 years and I can't help but to see an attractive woman with a thick butt and fantasize about how it would feel to be in her butt Yesterday I was at the gym, and a very tan woman who had a tight firm waist and a firm thick butt was wearing spandex and she was in an elevated position on the stairmaster and from the ground if you looked up you could see her panty lines curving around her butt and you could see the curve of her vagina going from the back to the front. I immediately had to go to the bathroom stall and masturbate into the toilet as quietly as I could. I do not bother any of these women. I don't stare at them, although a few times they have turned around quickly and caught me staring. I am often tempted to ask for a number as I know alot of women love anal sex, but I don't want to be unfaithful to my girlfriend. To make it worse my girlfriend had a sister who goes to the gym alot and likes to come around in her spandex and bends over right Infront of me. A few times I've had to go to the bathroom and jerk off to the thought of ramming her anus. Is fantasizing cheating? Is it creepy? I am masturbating every day to women I come in contact with. I also fantasize about my girlfriend too which does not make me feel so guilty. Our sex life is great.
I really don't know the bounds of your relationship, nor could I tell you the 'best' way to handle this. On the grounds of an 'addiction' - as long as it isn't stopping you from doing that which you love or harming yourself or others around you, it's fine. The fact that you have enough control to not feel the urge to whither those women is great. If this were one of my relationships, I would just be upfront with my partner. You guys have been going steady for a while now, so she might be perfectly fine. Or not. Once again, there is no perfect method for this. One thing I could suggest would be to try to jack off before going to the gym. That might hopefully lower your sex drive enough to wean yourself off the ass.
You are enjoying a fantasy. There is nothing wrong with that. You have anal sex with your SO and the experience triggers this to continue. I suspect there is no addiction here. Only a fantasy of having anal sex with women in spandex. It is not cheating either. If you were to act on this fantasy and woo another woman without the consent of your SO it would be considered cheating. But you are not. There's a lot more to having a sex addiction than what you describe. So fantasize, masturbate, and enjoy especially your GF's ass if she consents. If it comes to point to where you are placing others in peril with your actions then seek professional counseling for the issue.
Thank you for your kind replies. Here's an update: I've been jacking off multiple times before going to the gym. I basically jerk off until I can't cum anymore. It seems to help. I still look at the ass and fantasize and go oh God and bite my tongue, but I no longer have to go and Fantasize about spreading her cheeks and ramming her asshole while I beat off. Thank you for the advice.
