Would you be a golddigger?

Marrying for money makes me sick... Marriage really doesn't mean ANYTHING does it? I'm convinced. A lot of men think most women want men for their money I think and I'm not like that at all. Money isn't important to me. Yeah it'd be nice if my boyfriend's band kicked off and he was a rich rock star haha but right now we're both broke and I couldn't ask for anything better. =) Love and relationships are way more important to me than money.

 

Marrage is a waste if ur not going to profit finacially...
A man in this contry and have a wife for free , just by having a live in girlfreind... soon enough she will be acting like ur wife and u wont have to spend a bunch of money on a ring, or wait for her to devorce u and steal all ur money.
I dont see much of a problem with marrying someone for there cash ....
as long as they look decent ( gotta sleep in the same bed yea kno).
Plus , you can alsways have a affair, spend ur wifes money on someone u really like .


Im against marriage in general so im all for it if moneys are involved.

 

My baby is going to school to be a musician I cant be a golddigger im going to be broke and live in a box forever and im happy with that because I love him. But if he did make money i wouldnt leave him because of it.

 

How come every person wants to be a musician or in a band of some sort? Its like graphic designer, everey one is one.

And who said marry, marrige is just an excuse to let a woman tkae your money. Unless if youre religous then its important.

 

Regarding the previous post.

Doesn't two people who love each other making a public commitment to share the rest of their lives (aka marriage) have a value beyond money or pleasing invisible superbeings?

(or should that be "... making public their commitment..." )

 

i can't put up with an asshole for long. however, if i had to support my two girls and found myself too stupid to figure out how to do it, i wouldn't mind being a kept woman. my pride doesn't originate in what a specific man or anyone else thinks of my life and my decisions. if i was in love with two men, one was broke, one wasn't, odds are pretty good i'd go for the one with the money. pure practicality, i think.

 

I take it back. don't do it. it comes back to bite you in the ass when they don't get what they want in the end, unless you do actually go through with it and marry them. if you don't they're just fucking bitter. if i were them i would go shopping and smoke a joint and work on not being an asshole in the future so that you can actually nab a younger girl down the aisle in the future.
Is there any 'How not to be a dick' counseling classes availible for men? If not I need to start a company.
You know what else? Girls aren't lying when they say guys who have sports cars are making up for something else.
...grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

 

i've been with only one guy who was broke-like as in we can't go out and do anything at all fun all month broke. i left him because we hadn't been together long and it wasn't situational he was just always broke. i wasn't in love with him so i broke up with him. i just couldn't do it. he was a dud to though too...soooo boring. like the high school prof on wonder years-that kinda voice. OMG!!!!!!! But I'm not going to lie I woulda given him more time to let his personality show through if he made dating him actually fun

 

my fiance offered to be a stay at home dad one day. Since I'm in an honor society, with an honor degree in the process.

lol. does that make him the gold digger?

he is hot though. so I let him get away with it

 

I think that this is an issue that people look at in a very black vs white way. In society today it is important to be financially stable. Evolutionary psychology explains that women are drawn to men who can provide security and resources. Money is a resource and even though as an institution it has shitty meaning, we need it. Guys use girls all the time for their looks, and brains and it is amusing to me that these are overlooked yet a girl being with a man who provides financial security to them is seen as them not having "morals." If the female is open about the reasons she is with the man then there is no problem with it... most guys know that the women they are with when they are well off are with them because of their money, and if they dont then they are just blinded with stupidity. And a majority of the time the men are with those same girls because they tend to be attractive...

 

EXACTLY! I prob would have not wanted to go out with my fiancee if he was financially incapable of taking care of me or a family one day. But at the same time he would have not wanted to date me if I wasn't attractive or feminine. I really don't think he would like someone who made more money than him and always had to get the last word or was controlling or not really girlie.
I mean I am 9 years younger than him and prior to him have always been with people older than me so it would be delusional for me not to admit I want to be taken care of...but it would also be delusional for them to not admit they don't like the security that being with someone younger brings them.
Guys my age who do not think they should have to support a family and think women are gold diggers and blah blah blah are just lazy and are willing to sacrifice harmony in a relationship so they can be financially irresponsible or put off having a career.

 

The thing I think everyone should realize, though, is that money can go bye-bye. Jobs fall through, factories and financial institutions close their doors, etc. Even the most secure income can sometimes turn to crap.

Isn't it more important to be with someone who wants the same things in life as you? Someone who is honorable, trustworthy, and loving? Someone who loves you, and when/if children come into your life, who will do everything in his power to make sure this new person who is both a part of and separate from both of you, has a happy healthy life? Money can come and go. But love is something real, and it can carry you through a lot of times where money would leave you stranded.

 

Of course. I am soooooo in love and have never trusted someone so much in my life and I wouldn't fall out of love if something happened and he lost his job. I mean that's silly. What I am saying is when I chose to date him one of the things that attracted me to him was that he didn't seem like the frivilous type and is very responsible. I need to be with someone who does not let me spend a lot of money and who is responsible with it, who can take care of a family and all that good stuff.

I've been with guys who make a very good living and had nothing to show for it, nothing in savings and that turned me off. I would rather have someone who will provide me with a stable future because they love me rather than a bunch of extravegance because they want to impress me. The later shows mass insecurity imo and makes me think their not thinking of the future so obviously they're not taking how I am going to play into their life seriously.

 

i've already been through that with dave. we're every bit as strong and in love as ever. but when pure practicality takes over, and nothing better is in the offing, yeah, i would. hungry and homeless is not an option.

 

I love my boyfriend the way he is, but it would be a lot EASIER for us if one of us were rich. Of course I would like it if I had a rich partner, not because we could have prestige or fancy things, but because life would be easier. I wouldn't have to worry about paying the bills and I could just be happy in life.

 

I hate money. People wrap their lives around it too much. If my man was dirt poor, then I would still be happy because our love is true. Love is what keeps you alive. Yes, money is needed for things like food, water, and shelter. These things are all you need in life. I couldn't imagine marrying someone who I didn't love. Marrying just for the money must set someone up for a very empty life. Yes, you'll have material things, but not love. Love is more important than anything you could buy in life. "You can't buy me love..."

 

I think it's a little closed minded to say if you marry rich you won't have love.

 

If I revealed that I had won a VERY sizable lottery and I wanted female/s to share my money and be paid 10,000 a month on top of sharing--1 month or many months-your choice-would anyone sign up?

 

As unbelievable as it may be, money isn't a concern for me. First of all, I love people for who they are, not their wallets. Second of all, I want to be successful on my own. I don't want someone taking care of me, as I can take care of myself. Materialistic people sicken me.

 

who's the moderator. sorry but I've been trying to post a new thread and can't. someone help? I'll let you post it for me, it makes for good conversation.