Would/have you actually shared husband or wife with another?

I actually posed this question on the forum but am wondering. Not asking if you have a fantasy but have you actually done it? Let's not just have all the yes folks fill this up and be 100% honest. I am definitely #1.

1) Nope no way, never gonna happen
2) Maybe, if it were the right person/place. 99% sure we'd go through with it and have agreed.
3) Yeah but it was long ago and a one-time experimentation thing.
4) Yes, he/she has been with people I knew about and approved of.
5) Yes, and I was there watching

 

Many times, mostly joining in sometimes told to only watch. Sharing is necessarily as easy as you think.

 

Sallymae,
If I had to pick, it would be a combination of 4 and 5. We only play with straight couple, and when the chemistry is right between us. No one takes one for the team. In most cases, We have watched each other play because we all stay together, in the same room, and someone is always taking a break.
It is both intoxicating and erotic.

 

Years ago in our 30's, it was #4. In college, she had shown that she could have sex with others without it impacting our relationship, so I gave her permission to do have sex with others. She had to tell me about every event, require condoms, could only have one "date" with each man or woman, and involve none of our friends. She had several one time fucks with men she met at work and then decided to stop. Nothing since then.

 

Could it be that because you were so acceptable and permissive the taboo and titillation of it all became blasé or boring?

My spouse had a couple of affairs, none of which I knew of until after the fact. I don't regard this as sharing but I never had a problem with it given her reasons behind the affairs.

 

I think you are partly correct in your suggestion that she stopped because it was no longer taboo or "dirty" since I approved. The sex, itself, was not that good with younger men, but she liked the thrill of having (almost) secret sex. On the other hand, the sex with the one much older man was so good that she knew she probably couldn't match that.

 

Not pretending to speak for anyone else but I'd think that, if it were me, the taboo/forbidden part wouldn't be a motivator for me. If I had ever been with another man/men and decided to stop it would be because I became more mature and stable in my relationship. If a women feels stable in a relationship, I've known very few who ever want anyone else. We're just different than men. Men may cheat because of the "thrill" but we do it because we need something that we're not getting (companionship, love, communication, attention). My thought is that she stopped because she realized there was nothing she could get from someone else she couldn't get from her relationship with you. If women cheat, it's not for the reasons you hear from men (bigger, younger/older, thrill) it's because she's not satisfied. And women are much more likely to leave if she has an affair because it's usually not just a physical thing.

 

Truthfully, I find that amazing. We, my husband and I, were so enthralled with each other that neither of us could have said that to the other. It's kinda romantic in a weird way (no offense meant). Maybe it's because you were in your 30's and a bit more secure in yourself than we were at 17 and 19. We were both models in NY in our 20's and we've talked about how that whole life turned us both off to strictly physical sex. But, the way you put it seems loving. Thanks for the insight.

 

Sallymae,
Glad your still here. Your opinions are well thought out.
Who “really” knows why people cheat on each other. It’s all around us, even in business and in your work life. People will do anything to push you down, just so they can get ahead.
In a truly open relationship there is no cheating. Emotions and jealousy are always in check. Hence, why I chose #4 and 5. Your encounters are always together. After each encounter my wife always debrief each other. Likes and dislikes.

 

1&5.
1-because there’s no way my wife would ever share me. She is too jealous and insecure.

5-we’ve had several MFM threesomes with the same close friend. I had absolutely no reservations each and every time. sometime during this time frame she had a one nighter with a bi female acquaintance. I was out of town, but I had no problem with her exploring her curiosities alone.

 

My husband and me are in a cuckold marriage, I get all the men I want. He share me with his buddies, and coworkers as well as strangers.

 

Sorry if I am being naive but what does a "cuckold marriage" entail? Maybe I should know this but some help.

 

We are probably 4&5. We have been to swingers clubs where I have watched her with other men. I have also dropped her of at other men's flats/hotels for her to have fun. She would tell me all about it as I ate a licked her clean.
We have since got married but not played yet but I am looking forward to becoming a cuckold husband.

 

i guess its more a 4 yes he does let other guys do him so i guess im sharing but no i dont but 5 cause sometimes i do watch on a camera but they all know

 

#5 and I always participated as well .

 

4 and 5 but in on the action. She never gave me a chance to set back and watch.

 

I've been in the relationship where I was pretty sure she was cheating I stayed and was trying to look for definitive proof and I found myself over the week I was initially thinking about it starting to masturbate to the thought of what was likely happening and I quickly couldn't get it out of my head. I hadn't felt comfortable enough to tell her or anyone else that secretly I desired men as well and was bye sexual while I fantasized of being dominated and her watching I wasn't sure how I would approach her and tell her I knew the situation and that I wanted to be a part of it so instead when I came over I embraced her gave her a deep kiss lifted her dropped her on the couch and as I pulled her yoga pants and panties off I pretended to be oblivious to the fact that are p**** was still swollen. She didn't bother to resist one bit and I gave her the best oral I could and yet I had one of the most erotic and amazing moments of my life

When I woke up the next morning was no longer flying from the party before I met up with her and as I remembered and thought back at what had happened I was completely disgusted has it happens the next time I was flying High Again somehow I desired the experience once again. What the hell is it about that stuff that just turns me into a freak willing to do pretty much anything

 

I’m somewhere between 1 and 2. I’m not a no-never, but I’m way less than 99% sure. The people and circumstances would have to be right for me

 

Many years ago my wife had a fling with a former boyfriend. I knew about the lunch meet but didn't expect her to go any further than just lunch. She was late in getting home. I suspected something was amiss but let her have her space. She finally came clean about a week later which I was fine with. So I think since it was long ago and a one-time experimentation thing number three is my answer except I really didn't share her. She just went on her own.

On her part she knows I have been with other women and encourages me to do so. She had to become celibate due to medical reasons. So for the last ten something years I have enjoyed other women. You might say her answer would be number four.