Had two roommates back in the mid 80s, one male and one female. Both of us would fuck her but he fucked me too and she liked to watch us, good times
One of my wife's biggest fantasies is wanting to watch another guy suck my cock, then she wants him to bend me over or get me face down, ass up, and watch me take his cock in my ass. I admit, it's a big fantasy of mine too...
Since it's a fantasy you both share then focus together on making it a reality. Full-fill that erotic fantasy. I told my wife (2nd) early on while dating of my bi-oral encounters and she really wanted to see that. She was so turned on watching him and I suck each other that she got involved with us...sucking, pegging, prostate massaging, and her getting fucked from both ends. Two years with him his wife made us all a foursome and the evenings we're all together are simply fantastic. His wife and I take his cock up our asses and my wife practically creams watching as she'll have a front row seats. I'm on top of her (69) eating her pussy, she's sucking my cock, Carol will rim me open so Tom can fuck my ass. Unbelievably satisfying.
I told my wife some time ago to find a guy, we'd meet for a drink or something , just as a meet and greet but we wouldn't make a decision until she and I had talked it over privately. So far nothing, but time will tell...
When my wife and I have a threesome with a guy she loves watching me suck the guy! At times she will play with the guys balls while I'm sucking him and when the guys cums she usually holds my head with her hands so I won't be able to back off if the the guy cums a lot! She gets a little jealous when I'm with a woman but not when I'm sucking a guy! Crazy huh!
That it is, I would want to meet the guy, no expectation of anything happening on the first meet, then the wife and I talk it over in private whether or not he was one we wanted to play with....
Nothing wrong with that after all this is your wife! You meet a guy at a bar hell you don't know who he is but your way sound right to me!