Women who don't masturbate?

I know a married couple who are going through a bit of a rough patch. Their communication sucks right now simply because of some pre-conceived notions the wife has about men. The wife feels that all men want sex so a woman shouldn't have to do much if anything at all to get some. The couple is in their early 50s. He's 52 and she's about to be 51. They have been together some 20 years and they've probably had sex 4 or 5 times in the past year. The wife feels that she shouldn't have to do much to get him interested. She feels that he should just want to have conversations with her without her having to ask him anything. But given their marriage issues she still wants sex but can't seem to keep her mouth shut long enough to get it. She belittles him, keeps bringing up things from his past, feels that every time he talks to a woman, even in her presence, he's trying to get with her. She's controlling and demanding. The other night he told me that they were talking and she said something to the fact that she wants to get off and she asked him how he has been handling the lack of sex. She knows he masturbates from time to time. He told her that if she wanted to "get off" there's nothing stopping her. She said that she would not masturbate or use a dildo or vibrator when she has a husband. Are there women who feel this way? They don't masturbate at all. I've dated several women in my day and have walked in on most of them taking care of their own business. Do you think I was offended because they didn't ask me to join in or help them out? Nope, most of the time I'd stand there and watch till they finished or I'd take care of my watching them. I wasn't offended at all. This wife feels that if her husband isn't trying to get sex from her then he's obviously getting it from somewhere else.

Are there women, in relationships, who do not masturbate?

 

We 99% of the time, we are masturbation with acknowledgment and awareness of the othe. Most often joining in to have an orgasm as well.

 

But what do you think of a woman who says she will not masturbate because she has a boyfriend or husband at home? That on top of the fact that she's always bringing up this man's past and throwing it in his face, however, he still want desire her.

 

Wow, just Wow,
The way you describe this couple is a train wreck waiting to happen. The man has obviously been whipped down. Sad I say.
As far as masturbating, My wife does and is proud of it. We both do. Nothing to hid about it either.

 

My point exactly. I don't think there's anything to hide here. The wife has a major control issue if you ask me. She just feels that having breasts and a vagina and every man just has to have her. You can't continue to degrade a man but still expect him to want to have sex with you. No man would. Go on Amazon and order you a sex toy. Yes, you can get them there. What woman feels that since she's got a man it's his job to always get her off? Men have girls but we don't always need or want them around when that urge hits. Sometimes we just want to get it over and done with.

 

How can a relationship like this survive. That vagina isn’t that good.
Is she gaslighting him?
And speaking of the past, everybody has one, including her. To continually bring it up in conversation with others is wrong.
I don’t blame the guy if he masturbates every day.
She acts like she is doing him a favor if she opens her legs. And this is called a marriage.. I don’t think so.
Obviously, she has issues with herself

 

I wouldn't put up with that shit, that's for sure.

Sometimes I wish she would masturbate just to get to enjoy herself more - the old the 'more you do it the more you want it' thing - she never really has the opportunity to be alone to do it and would never just lie back and do it if I was around, well, because I would do it for her as she would me. She's either running flat out at work or here with me... Shit, I can and pretty much do it whenever I want WFH. Maybe I should be lieke, Honey, I'm going to the hardware store and can't be back for an hour, feel free to masturbate while I am gone, ok? I sure do.... Why do people insist on making such a great thing as sex such a problem? Just do it and everybody's happy.

 

Sounds like, KAREN material. I firmly feel like people with a happy sex life, is happy in other ways also.

 

I firmly agree with you.

 

Methinks there maybe more awry than just the sex there. I would have quit trying long ago.... Not sure why people choose to torpedo their marriages.

 

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Again, the more you do it, the more you want to do it.

 

My first wife rarely masturbated... I'm talking like maybe 5 times in 27 years.
The last 15 years of our marriage was sexless.
As soon as the kids finished college... I was gone.

My 2nd wife is completely different.
We have a healthy masturbation appetite, and we do mutual/assisted on a regular basis.

 

My wife is a mature, confident woman, who loves her body and what it is capable of. That said, she has no problem with masturbation. In fact it is encouraged in our house and nothing to hid. She keeps a small vibrator by the bed side and frequently masturbates in the morning to start her day. I can be drinking my coffee and hear her moan from her orgasm. I have watched her many time. It brings joy to my heart to see her enjoying her body. She truly is in touch with her body. It is as natural as life itself.

 

Due to health issues my wife has lost her sex drive but when she starts to masturbate I know her sex drive is coming back which is good for me. Unfortunately it comes and goes depending on her health.

 

When my wife still had a sex drive, she only really masturbated when we were doing it together. She preferred additional stimulation. One of my friends masturbates fairly often and in a variety of ways but has a hard time climaxing. Not just when she masturbates but no matter what kind of sex. She can hump herself to light orgasms in her jeans using a pillow and she has a decent climax if she uses a toy right on her clit with a finger gently pressed about a quarter inch in her ass. Usually her own finger. But direct clitoral stimulation or even penetration using a vibe or dildo is enjoyabe to her but won't cause her to cum. She rarely, rarely has an orgasm when fucked. Once in a blue moon and she doesn't really even know why she had one or what he did to make her climax. It just happens. She's usually on her back and she says if he gets it exactly in the right spot deep inside her, she'll cum right away. But she's tried so many different length and width toys and still can't get herself off while masturbating. Even using her own fingers, she can't do it. Just the little clit toy and finger back there or humping in her jeans. Her jeans work all the time. Sometimes three times a day or more. She says if she couldn't do it that way, she'd probably never masturbate.

 

My wife was never into masturbation until we became empty nesters and he wanted to try different things to 'spice up' our sex life. She started using a toy for the first time, and we both talked more about self pleasure openly. Now it's part of our life

 

I think female masturbation is the stuff of porn videos. I have talked with many women on the subject,and 99% have stated they have never done it

 

Respectfully, I call Bullshit.. Respectfully, and I don’t mean to be argumentative.
My wife and I are around a lot of LS women and they masturbate including my wife. For my wife, it’s as natural as a sunrise. She keeps a small finger vibrator at her bed side.

 

Totally agree. My wife does it. My sis in law talks openly about it (I know, she's different).
Women do it