You want sex with another man or men, but you're reluctant to act on your desires, you worry what people will think. Your concerns are holding you back from enjoying sexual gratification. There are many people who will tell you that sex with another man or men not your husband is inappropriate behavior and to be avoided. This is an old and outdated form of social control to make you comply to their standards, I believe women deserve the same sexual freedom men expect and practice. Women have been screwing men that are not their husbands for centuries, sometimes with their husbands permission and blessing other times not. I think a woman should have a say in what is acceptable to her, and be allowed her choice of what she desires. Without guilt, misgivings, or labeled by what society thinks. I personally believe that humans in general have always desired sex with multiple partners. It's our nature. This is bore out by the number of sex clubs, swinging parties, those practicing in a cuckold lifestyle, numerous singles bars for one night stands. It's becoming more common and acceptable to practice pleasure sex. No commitment or relationship required. History has been condemning promiscuous sex by women sense religion and righteous leaders decided to lay down rules for governing our society. A society ruled by oppressive men. A society where until recently women were treated as property or slaves. In some places it was and is proper for a man to have multiple wives, have you ever heard of it the other way around? Men have sought complete control over women until lately and women are only now venturing out of their oppressive lives to enjoy freedoms they never had before and that includes sexual freedom. If a woman is in an relationship where she has been given the freedom to experience sex with multiple men then she should not be condemned or criticized, it's an arrangement that is between her and her partner and to be accepted as normal behavior for them. Single women shouldn't experience any more grief than a man would in the same situations. How many religious leaders and governmental leaders are in the news due to being caught in a sexual scandal, or local officials as well. It's not really a bad thing but they partook in that which they themselves condemned. That's what made it bad, the do as I say not as I do leadership and that's BS morality. A morality that is long outdated and no longer applies to most of our society. There will always be pockets of oppression but our tolerance for a women's rights and freedoms is growing and those living in the past are dying out or being silenced. If you are a woman concerned about what others think then you've surrendered your freedom of choice, your rights to explore your sexuality. You need to embrace your desires, explore all your opportunities for sexual gratification. Live your life by your standards not someone else's. You deserve to be happy and worry free. Only you can decide on how to pursue your happiness, regret what you didn't do rather than what you did. Don't fear gossip and others opinions concerning your choices. Be the woman you want to be. Enjoy the opportunities that are presented to you and go forward on your journey through life.
I told my wife after we married that I didn't believe marriage to mean ownership. We don't own each other. She's always had a hall pass but has never considered using it. That's her choice. How can we ownership own one another if we can't even own ourselves
I've loved my wife even through the few extramarital relationships she has had. She has loved me the same even as I have had numerous other lovers. Women do not need to stay loyal while the man prowls around. Besides, who do you think the man is having his fun with? Yea, other women.
First, Marriage is a relationship, sex is personal. Let’s not confuse the two. Women’s sexual revolution continues to evolve in a good way for them. There is no doubt a sexual undercurrent is happening for women. Read the book “The Ethical Slut”. This book was a huge turning point for my wife when she read it. We understand after 25 years of marriage that we cannot be everything, all the time, to each other in bed. You don’t have to look far to find groups where women are “sexual free” to be themselves. Couples in very strong relationships are finding that consensual non monogamy can be enriching to their sex life. We have. My wife is a respectful, sexually independent woman, that knows her body, and knows what it’s for.
I think you are all thinking similar to how I live. Likely I am more to the extreme, but it is the similar notion of I should be able to live my sexual life as I see fit. I created an earlier thread about whether I was crazy because I didn’t want a long term romance relationship with anyone and that I viewed my desire for sex as a replacement for the competitive athletics that I used to be involved in. The pleasure, thrill, risk, accomplishment, etc., of sex itself is separate from relationship for me.
