Women and their games

did you get the old "you are really nice and I love to spend time with you...but I see you more as a brother" ?

 

I think thats your problem. It seems the women you are meeting just are not looking for a relationship or commitment. Recently I had a decent dude that wanted to take our friendship and be in a relationship, he is nice, sweet, reliable, always avaliable but its not what I want in my life right now. I'd rather be alone for the time being. I know he doesn't get that because he can't understand why I'd pass up the oppurtunity to have someone that would be dedicated to 'us' but its because my place in life right now isn't ready for that. I'm not playing a game though, I'd just prefer to be alone.

You may think someone is suited to you because of personality traits and interests but they have to want to be in a relationship too. Maybe, stop looking/trying and she will come unexpectedly.

 

You always want what ya can't have. When someone is available, and you know you can have them whenever you want, it makes it less fun. Everyone likes a challenge.

Plus, there's the whole the grass is always greener thing. If only I could have so and so.... then everything would be so much better. Then the second you can have them, it's like eh, whatevs.

You gotta play the game.

 

I always wanted to be with this one particular dude. I'm sure he thought I was okay... he's said that he thought I was attractive and stuff, but it was always a one-sided crush, so to say. Now that I have a boy, he's hit me up on different occasions trying to be friends, chill, hook up, whatever.... It's because I'm not available anymore. If I were to break up with my boyfriend, I'd probably be back at square one. You see what I'm saying?

It's funny you made a thread of this, because it's something I've thought a lot about recently.

 

Theres always Laundry and Sandwiches.

If it wasnt for women we'd all still be eating bread like the French, crusty little rolls, crust everywhere. And without those whites whiter than white, the Canadian Army wouldnt be able to be camouflaged (The real reason Michigan has never invaded)

 

So I was going through old threads I've posted in yesterday and I distinctly remember coming across one in which you stated, "I was being a nice guy and giving her rides but she wasn't putting out any poon, so now she takes the bus."

Is that how you define being nice in this thread too? There is a difference between being genuinely nice and and using your niceness as a bargaining tool for sex.

 

Hare Krsna

 

So the rules are if a guy is nice to you, he's just trying to get sex and is a pig
If he's not nice to you, he has issues with women and is a pig

 

I find it funny that guys constantly complain about the games women play but it always seems to be men who get caught up in "rules "

Who gives a fuck, really? I'm not personally concerned with rules, I was just calling rat out on only being nice because he expects sex.

I think guys who have the confidence to be honest about their intentions are sexy. You want sex? Say it. If you really like a girl and want more than sex, for the love of god tell her. If a guy is honest then he is free to be who he really is - he can be an honest asshole or an honest nice guy but at least the girl knows exactly what she's getting.

Men are definitely just as guilty of playing games as women. I don't really understand why either sexes bother.

 

That's been my approach since probably age 25. I think it saves a lot of frustration and misunderstanding.

 

It takes time. You think it's a game. It's actually called something I have coined as "circling". Each person is figuring out the other, and/or figuring out their own feelings. Things come up that make each cautious, then comfortable, then questioning, then confident, then alarmed, then reassured, and on and on. Most simply, if they are a good person then keep seeing them, and let it naturally iron out.

 

How come men are always attracted to jerkish women?
Why can't they pay attention to the 'nice girl' ?

 

I remember that.
Ah men.

 

Rat, did you even try to get any? It's not like a chick is just going to jump on your dick for giving her a ride home. It happens, but most of the time you have to be assertive and get what you want.

 

all the nice ones were taken long ago

there are some out there that separated and/or divorced the asshole but are now theyre too scared to take another chance on a new guy

 

i'm perfectly fine with having things handed to me.

 

There are women who enjoy being pursued by men that they have no interest in and sometimes when they stop getting that attention they seek it out. They call more, they flirt a little. I've seen this very recently with a girl I know and she appears to be genuinely oblivious to her manipulation and the frustration it is causing the guy(s) in question. She's just psychologically dependent on dragging dudes around by a string around her finger.

This might exemplify the behavior you are referring to, but I don't think it is the norm. Most women are simply accustomed to being pursued, it's coming at them from all directions. Perhaps they do enjoy the attention, but they do not intentionally seek it in that same way or to that extent.

So what I'm saying here is that you are either a magnet for manipulative girls that are just not interested OR (more likely) you are just perceiving games where there is simply coping mechanisms for relentless and constant pursuit.

 

Didn't you state in the escort thread that you believe Women to be "horrendous c*nts?" Then you stated that you "hated women."

I am wondering why you want a relationship with one - you are never going to have a successful relationship with any woman while you project that you hate them and they are horrendous c*nts.

 

i couldn't help it...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r2wTDX_jo8c"]Teenage Dirtbag (With Lyrics) - Wheatus - YouTube

 

People don't know when I am being facetious.

I don't think women are horrendous cunts. Well, some of them are, but definitely not all of them. Men are bad, too. People in general piss me off.

And no... I am not simply looking for sex from this girl. I genuinely like her, but when I feel like I am being used, it's hard not to want to use somebody back.

Besides, you guys don't know this is the same person I was talking about before.