wife wont do anything or let me see her naked

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Cheers Glen.

 

Of course she could be being calculated and manipulative, but when a person is psychologically damaged you can tell them they are playing the victim to get sympathy all day and night and that's not gonna straighten their head out.

It's certainly not your normal everyday thing for a woman to be ashamed to be seen naked by her husband so if that's the case, she may need some help breaking through those psychological barriers to not be a never-nude prude for the rest of her life.

Or maybe she just isn't attracted to him.

Maybe she's gay.

What do I know?

 

Grrrr, that one again, I hate all woman cos I dare to suggest one maybe manipulative.

Whats in the end, just more likely, psychological disorders that seemingly only surface when he husband wants to grunt on top of her or...

Or just not that into him. Or just not interested full stop. Or not even calculating the whole time, just was in a rush to get married and have kids...but all that didnt turn out to be as awesome as everyone makes out.

 

Yes this is true, my fiancé was not in the best shape when we first got together and he was TOTALLY embarrassed / ashamed of it. Not wanting to get fully nude, wanting to keep his shirt on, not wanting to take a shower together. I responded with a swift - HELL NO WTF - you're getting naked honey pie! I'm with you for you, and you need to accept it. People need to learn how to nip things in the bud, before they grow into bigger unmanageable issues.

He's not the only one either, my ex did the same thing. You might be thinking, oh she's a chubby chaser - lol. No... they are perfectly normal/average in size but were just self conscious about their bodies (not having abs, maybe a little moob action or hairy nips).

Althought I don't fully agree with Vanilla Gorilla because I don't want to think that she had malicious intent from the onset of their marriage. I do believe it is possible that she could be "over it" and is now complacently carrying on the motions w/o fulfilling the relationship.

 

It has to be very hot before my wife will allow me to take all her clothes off for sex. She is so skinny that she feels cold even on days when the temperature is in the low mid 20 degrees region. It's very rare that I get to see her completely nude and she has a things she hates about her body & it's poor condition that she cant put on any weight either.

 

I can sympathize with this. I had a gf who was a total minx when we first met. She'd come over with a hoodie on and lingerie underneath, great sex life. Morning sex before work every day, the whole 9. As soon as she moved in - all she did was nag and tried to use sex as some form of control. Not sure if that's what is going on with you but it was fucked up.

I'd have to ask her to give me head and it was not long and almost disgruntled.. I mean really? I'd go down on her and she would never return the favor so I stopped doing it and I seriously love that fine art haha. She had no problems about being naked though, not sure what is up with that. Ultimately the relationship was screwed. I didn't even feel close to her. I'd say get a mistress but that might make your situation worse being married.

All I can say is some chicks don't actually like sex. They see it as a chore to lure you in. Good luck.

 

I'm curious how this situation has been updated. My wife has serious sexuality issues too, but not like this. How do you have sex? Just pulling aside the panties? How is that comfortable for either of you? Also, you say she can get off from penetration alone? I think this is rare for women. If thats true maybe she finds no need to have you play or eat her pussy at all. She's fine with the cock and doesn't need more. Otherwise this is some serious self esteem issues on her part.

 

How did she give birth if she doesn't like to be naked? She is fine with getting naked for a stranger (dr) but not for her husband? Wow. She needs therapy to figure out why.

My DH got me to take off my undies (the first time) by performing oral.

 

my ex wife grew up with a mom that drilled into her head that sex was to have babies and she was dirty down there.

I caught her washing our daughter with a face clothe and scrubbing her down there and stopped her. she was not to give a bath to her because she had hurt her.

When I got my vasectomy she stopped having sex because now there was no point.

Now I work really hard with my daughter at countering what she teaches her but at least my daughter is smarter so she knows her mom is ill.

it's from some sort of abuse but it's hard to deal with if they wont talk about it.

 

And really it could just be she is not an exhibitionist in the bedroom and it's not a mental issue at all.
If my man didnt want to unload all of the laundry it wouldn't bother me because he is not a display item, he is much more then that. Many men and women are shy about some part of their body why push it?
Maybe if she didn't feel she had to run a peep show for the op she might let up on other stuff like oral. Sometimes the pressure of one thing can make her dread sex altogether.
Does the op get one thing and then won't let it go? Like maybe he tried for something she wasn't comfortable with but did and he wouldn't quit asking so she shut things down, like, once offered, then it's a given and she don't want that to happen anymore.
I had a friend who said she didn't shave her puss and never wanted to but her hubby bugged her till she reluctantly did. Then it started to grow back out and for weeks she was wanting to scratch all the time, at work, at night, it was raw and embarrassing for her, even the slightest bit of stubble bothered her. After it grew out some he wanted it off again, she didn't want to so he said he didn't like having sex with her now because the hairs went stubby and hurt his dick. She shut everything down and eventually she left him thinking sex with her was about what he wants, not what they would like. Her complaint was he pushed saying his buddy said it's great and he just had to know.
Another friend says her hubby is on this nudist camp kick. He brings it up all the time and lots when they are having sex. It turns her off and she has a problem getting to climax when he does this. He wants to do it so bad and she can't see why. The worst thing you can do is bring up shit in the bedroom that you know didn't get a good response already if you want real good sex. And yes some women don't like sex totally as much as their man does, many even do it more often to make him happy, might wanna make it as good as can be by not burdening her with your needs if bringing it up the first time didn't go well.
Many guys don't realize that sex for women is mostly psychological and if you toss in something not so appealing to that woman it might make sex a thing of the past quickly. Problem is peeps should be compatible, not spring stuff on each other later that could have come up when the relationship was building. Again, that's not saying new things shouldn't come up and be discussed but if you are an exhibitionist and want one who is then make sure of this before you commit, or any other slightly off the wall stuff. Everyone knows the missionary and the cowgirl, those are the basics, but other stuff might need to be learned and appreciated by both to make it work.
To go to a site and ask why didn't stuff happen right for you is like saying you messed up, shoulda, woulda, coulda... Try again. This goes for the men and women who complain their spouse won't do something.
And to say she is great about everything else,,, tis time to weigh those things and see if she was really right for you, or if you were really right for her. We can't fix this.

 

I read all of your posts in this thread, and honestly, dude, I think you're full of shit.

I could be wrong, yes. But I don't think I am.

 

. Hello, I'm sorry to hear about your experience with your wife and her poor self esteem. I had a similar situation when my wife and I had first gotten together. We had been intimate a couple times before we got married and I look back now and realize she was the same way as your wife. The couple times we were intimate it was in the dark, or at least in very low lighting. Then when we got married I asked her if she would please strip naked so I could see what she looked like naked. She was very hesitant about it and tried to change the subject but I wouldn't budge. I asked her again if she would please do me the honor of showing her self to me. And said that as my being her husband it was expected that she would let me naked. She had no problem showing off her boobs, as they were gorgeous and gave me a stiffy every time. I told her that from what I could see of her with her clothes on she couldn't be at all that bad and I wanted to unwrap her. I was compassionate with her and patient and asked her what was the issue that she felt couldn't be shown. She said that she had a weight problem earlier in life and she had a flabby belly and some stretch marks and just hated what she looked like and if I would see it I would have never married her because of it. Even now she thought that I would be disgusted with her if I was to see her lower body. I told her that she really should stop being so anxious about her looks. She is more than just a flawed body. So as we were discussing this issue in our bedroom one day, I told her, "you know, we really need to get this over once and for all. I love you, you are my wife and I deserve to see your body, ALL of it. So let's take a minute and bare our souls to each other and I want to see you now." She stood looking at me with her hands on her hips and she was looking at the floor. I kneeled down in front of her and I took her pajama bottom waistline and was ready to take it off when she grabbed my hands and she said no, and she was crying. I stood up and I just gave her a hug, kissed her and tried to reassure her that there was nothing about her that I found repulsive. As I held her, I slowly ran my hands down her back and into her pajamas and I let them rest on her butt cheeks. I asked her again while in that position if I could just take them off. I told her that since I had already had my hands on her butt and I like what I feel that it's just proper now to just go the distance and see and feel the rest. She wiped her eyes and her tears and said ok, but asked me to please don't say anything or be surprised by what's there. I said I would not. I told her I had flaws and I don't feel embarrassed by mine. So I slowly pulled them down and as I did she shoved her pelvis against mine, I guess as a last ditch attempt to keep me from seeing her. I backed up a bit and continued to slowly pull her pajama bottoms down. And as I did, I kissed her belly and all her skin as I went. Finally they just fell to her feet. She made an attempt to cover herself with her hands, but I grabbed them and held them and asked her to just put them in her hips. She did. So she is standing in front of me, baring her soul, scared to death, and her anxiety level must have been off the charts. I kissed her abdomenal area, down into her pubic hair. Then I stood up and looked her in the face and told her she was beautiful. There was nothing about her that I found repulsive. I have no problem looking at her with the lights on. I hugged her again and we were full body touching and I actually started to feel a stirring in my penis. She felt it and was surprised that I felt like that about her. Of course I was. I just continued to love on her and reassure her and let her know that I saw her body as a thing of beauty and not ugly. I asked her now that since we bridged this milestone could she please spend more time naked and not feel ugly or gross or less human. I told her that us guys see our wives differently than they do, and even if she has flaws we don't dwell on them and we see our wives as beautiful regardless. So I turned on all the lights, and even opened the curtains to show her that I didn't care about her flaws. This wasn't a beauty padgent. I asked her to turn around as i ogled her and just told her I loved what I saw and am very happy with her naked. She did open up and did start walking through the house naked and actually stated that she was enjoying being naked. She thanked me for being compassionate and patient with her as she got passed this and was so comfortable with her body as well as me seeing her naked that it didn't take her long to forget how she used to feel initially. After we got past this and she was able to stand naked in front of me, just to show her how much I love her and that I wasn't repulsed by her, I lied her on her back on the bed and I gave her oral sex, and believe it or not, after all her anxiety and her thinking I would not want to have anything to do with her she was able to climax. I was impressed that I could give that to her given her previous feelings. So now we enjoy each other's bodies and walk around the house and do things together naked and there's no further issues. So guys just be patient and love your wife as she is a diamond in the rough and with patience and continual love she will come out of her shell and body images will become none existent.

 

Very nice! Thank you for sharing. Happy for you both!!

 

your situation is exactly same as mine. Havent seen my wife naked or had sex since 2005. I frequent X Hamster and X Videos a LOT. Your wife will not change.