Wife, threesomes, etc. Our history and what else?

Ive been married a long time.. Weve had some adventures, nothing like some of the folks here I can tell though.
chronologically here it goes....I married young after only a couple girlfriends. Mostly looking for some feedback here, advice maybe? I dunno
she cheated on me once early on with an old boyfriend, and we got through that.
Once we hired an woman escort, orignally for her to play with, but it was sort of awkward, though I wound up fucking her briefly as well. Overall, it was just not a great thing, there were moments, like how excited I felt reaching into this womans shirt the first time, but this girl was kind of skanky, and not in a good way.

She suggested I have a friend of mine join us. I did, and they had sex, not much foreplay or anything..he was thicker than me but same if not shorter in length.(I am only packing a little under 6) .I stood at the side of the bed and held her hand, but he creeped her out after a short time and she signaled to me that she wanted it to stop. That was not viewed as a good experience...I was sort of werided out a tiny bit, I think if my wife had been turned on and enjoyed it, I would have enjoyed it more as well.

Mind you, these above were before the internet became what it is, porn was not readily available, I had no idea what wife sharing, cuckold, all that shit meant, or whatever.

We tried again later with an old boyfriend of hers Crazy right? She sucked his dick and he fucked her a while, we traded ends a few times...then it sort of fizzled out, he did not finish She was upset afterwards, just felt bad about it I guess.

Years went by and we started frequenting a small bar that our friends went to. She met a guy and I was sort of jealous about the time they were spending together there, but I didnt give it too much thought. I cant remember how it came up, but we decided to go over to his house afterwards, and that was something....
This guy was hung. I always roll my eyes when I read the wife sharing stories online and the shit is always the same stuff like "blah blah, im average, blah blah, my wife looks good, blah blah, my high school buddy wsa hung like a horse"----alright but this was that guy. He was not to thick, so when he got it out at first, I didnt think much of it, but it was damn near 10 inches long.
We were on either side of her, taking her from behind in turns, laying sideways. First him, then me, then him. I didnt realize everything that was going on at the time, but later I put it together. Id love to fluff it all out into an erotic story one time but thats not really the purpose here.

We did it again the very next night. I was suggesting positions this time, so I could get some better views, she got on top of him, missionary, etc. Im not sure he came that time, and I cant remember exactly how that one ended.

Big problem here though. She damn near left me for this dude, although we had some problems around that time as well. We worked that shit out, she has not to my knowledg seen him again, and I dont know that she ever saw him without me. its been about 7 years id guess since then.

The thing is, overall, theres not been a huge sucess rate with us with all this sort of stuff one could say.
Watching porn though, threesomes, wife sharing turns me on alot. I will go through a week here and there where I think its a great idea to have some guy fucking her while I watch and help.

DUring foreplay, one thing I love to do is have her on her back while I kneel beside her, my hand is between her legs and my head is leaned down kissing her and sucking her tits....she gets so hot and her legs come back, and I look down and imagine that my fingers running in and out are another man's cock. Drives me up the wall. THen when im fucking her sometimes she starts sucking on her fingers....again in my mind, thats some other guy....

Its just this thrill, almost a pit in the gut as well, like you know this is not right, but that adds to it I think. And the hottest thing Ive ever got from sex is to see my wife turned on and when she gets really hot, It drives me insane.....if that came at the hands of another man, wow.

As far as another woman again? DOesnt enter my mind much, sure, it would be cool I guess but I dont think shed like that. unless it was just the 2 of them and I was tied to a chair! SHe is generall dominant, I would not call myself a cuck though. I want to be there as well. Not ready to have her (not that she would) run out all over town and come back and tell me about it. (Not judging anyone peeps, we are all different)---

It nags at me though. She suggested some of these, ...I may have put the bug in her ear about the middle one with her old boyfriend. If she hadnt of almost left me after the last one, Id have called that a success in terms of what happened etc...a progression of sorts, and I still think about the sexy parts of it.

I dont know. Here lately Ive been thinking about it alot. Ive dropped a few hints about it, but she just puches me in the arm about it mostly. I dont know whether to press the matter or not. The guy from last time would do it Im sure, and he is married now, but still, that might be a dangerous proposition.

So I dunno if we will ever have another threesome, but who knows........

 

- Yours is a great and interesting story. I would say push a little bit more to get the wife to bring another man into the bed. It obviously turns you on a lot... and it seems she enjoyed it in the past as well.
- Perhaps set some ground rules in that you only play together. You get to interview the guy first to see if you're comfortable with him. - I also say, when she punches you in the arm, she's kinda toying with you AND the idea. I'll bet she needs More of your Assurances that such an arrangement will work out well for you.. and her.
- It's nice to have her tits in your face while another man is pounding her doggy-style. (wink) You can feel him thrusting his cock into her while you savor her tits.
- You say you want to "watch and help." - What is the "help" part you Really would love to do..?
Best wishes.

 

Sounds like the 2 of you have had a more interesting sex life than a lot of other people. If your wife loves you she won't leave you for another man no matter how much better he is in bed. The thought may cross her mind simply because of the new experience but that dies out quick. Talk to a friend of yours that you would like to share her with about the idea and invite him over. It doesn't matter if she knows he's coming over or not but don't tell her your intentions then work on getting her horny before he comes over. Maybe have a couple drinks to take the edge off or whatever. If she goes for it again then she wouldn't mind doing it more

 

Thanks for the replies! It feels sort of good to air this stuff out. Its hard to tallk about it directly with her.

I dont have that many friends really....none to chose from on my end so to speak. The ex of hers we did it with was the same ex she had an affair with, so I may have had some jealousy issues there. The last guy, I was ok with that until she said she wanted to leave me for him. And you know, jealousy is weird. Like, if I found out she had seen one of these guys without me in the past some time, Id be upset but also turned on, imagining about it.

At the same time, Im sure not at the point where Id be ok with her just seeing other people without me. And I wouldnt want the "lifestyle" to take over our lives. I would just love to enjoy it without any reprucussions, without either of us feeling bad about it, In any case, some of the roughness over the previous situations may have been my fault, some hers I guess.

She has said in the time since the last one that its probably something we shouldnt do anymore.
As far as what I said about helping out, its like helping to satisfy her...or at least being close enough to really experience her vicariously somehow. Like instead of sitting in the corner, I want to be holding her legs up...or I want sit on the bed, have her head in my lap where I could hold her and be close to her and be part of the experience in that way. Its almost sort of like I want to tune in to what shes feeling.....I dont really have any interest doing anything with the other guy, again to each his own tho.
Thanks again for the replies, looking forward to being a part of this forum.

 

That's a rule I forgot to mention is ex boyfriend's are off limits. Mainly because if he's coming back to sleep with her then he's still got feelings for her. But if she came right out and said you probably shouldn't do it anymore then you might want listen to her. It takes an extreme level of comfort to make this kind of lifestyle a normal thing.

 

Something the wife an I have often discussed, but to date, she has only ever gone alone. She does love to tell me all about it later though as she knows how it turns me on and always leads to great sex afterwards.
At first, my wife would never have entertained it. I think her real concern was that it would lead to me being with another woman. Whilst I wouldn’t rule it out, it certainly wasn’t my intention and I would never do this behind her back.
What truly broke the ice for us, was I simply put together a long email explaining how much I lived her and would love for her to truly let herself go, just like she would often fantasise about other men during sex. Well there was an older friend she would often flirt with, and after a few drinks at an office party, she asked me several times if I was sure. I obviously reassured her, told her I loved her and to go and enjoy herself. That night, after the party had ended, she did indeed go to his room. They have now met up a few times , but he lives far away so only maybe twice a year.
However, we will both be in the vicinity together soon, so I am also seeing if he would mind if we join him as a couple this time so we can both pleasure my wife together. Here is hoping it all works out

 

Wow, your whole take on it resembles my own vision on how it should be. I'm not a real cuckold either like you see a lot here. I don't feel submissive and I also want to participate and actually see and feel her enjoy that other cock.
And just like you we only had a handful of experiences which were great at the moment, but always spontaneous. Trust me, I have tried to convince her to do it more often and maybe introduce a stranger into our bed, but she really doesn't want to give herself up to a complete stranger. We have had only experiences with friends of us, the first two went well, and we had zero issues afterwards. The last friend (HER best friend) felt very awkward afterwards and basically avoided us for a year or so. Now he got a steady girlfriend and we have good contact again.

So you can have great experiences and bad experiences, sometimes it's just a lottery, but it surely would be best to avoid ex-boyfriends! That's too risky, even riskier than friends.

The good thing here is that she has been open to the experience in the past, so you have to find the right person in the right moment. I like the 'get her drunk with a willing friend' scenario as it worked wonders for us, but I have to admit, it's hard to find someone who's interested (some friends are too vanilla) or friends she's interested in (physically).

So just let her know you liked the experiences and you're craving for a new adventure. Try to convince her to find someone online, too see how she reacts to that. Maybe she gets enthusiastic. Maybe not.

 

OP, Talk it over with her, be open. If she was willing once maybe she will again. I know many women have experienced 10 inches would love it again. But if its been 7 years she may no longer have the urge. In which case she may do it for you.

 

I am a middle aged married guy in a long committed marriage. A while back, my wife was going through some stuff and seemed to lose interest in sex. I became frustrated and did something I had not engaged in for many many years - I turned to porn. The stuff has changed a lot since I used to watch it and this is due to the internet and easy public postings. I quickly discovered the amateur home-made variety which affected me deeply, largely because it it so real, not staged like the old studio stuff, and because it was so relatable. I could imagine my neighbors and colleagues doing this stuff behind their closed doors. My downfall was quickly landing on a site that featured wife sharing and permissive adultery. I was literally shocked when I saw the first couple videos that unabashedly featured an able bodied husband handing his wife over to strangers that went straight to their bed. The first time I watched the act of adulterous infidelity, I was floored - but even more shocking was to see the husband being so excited by the process. My imagination was hooked and I sought out other videos which, amazing, were plentiful - all showing similar couplings. My shock quickly turned to excitement - for what reason, I had no idea. After a while, I began to observe just how EASY it was for those participants to engage in blatant adultery. Those outsiders seemed to have no problem or hesitation in penetrating a married woman.
I have read many articles and forums on this subject and have paid attention to other men (and women) regarding the quality of their marriage while living this lifestyle. Like so many other husbands, I have to admit that this way of living seems quite appealing and even desirable. To put it simply - I has acquired a desire to try it. My wife is a bit younger and she is fit. I have dipped my toe in the water so to speak as I have started taking my wife out to clubs (dance clubs, etc) and have noticed how others look at her.
I am at a crossroads as nothing has happened yet, though my wife clearly seems to like "getting out". Before going too far, I would love to hear other's opinions on the the path I am on.
I would love to exchange email at jpeepers340@gmail.com

 

The reason it is so hard for people to fathom sharing there other half is because society has always put it in everyone's head that your not supposed to since the beginning of time.theres less than a handful of people in a relationship that don't at least think of having sex with someone else. I love sharing my wife. I don't really get involved in it anymore or watch her get fucked as we did that for years now I just let her do her thing. I get to play with her friend sometimes and her friend joins us on occasion so I'm satisfied and she pegs me so all of my desires are satisfied and so are hers. Really the biggest concern to have is how much does she actually love you. If she's not fully in love or getting tired of the relationship then she may leave you for a better partner. But if you are in love and both just in it for the fun and excitement with no plans of separation then do it. It puts a whole new spin on life

 

1 thing that helped us get used to it pretty fast was I lost my virginity to an mmf 3some when I was a teenager so seeing a woman get a cock other than mine was nothing new and when me and my wife first got together we're doing mmf 3somes with the neighbor 4 months into our relationship and she was only 18

 

My husband wanted to watch me with another man , so I fucked a friend of his, now I can't stop thinking about it and wanting to Fuck him again!

 

Have you fucked him again yet

 

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