Through general conversation brought up on my part, my wife says she is ready to entertain the thought of a "girlfriend" for some experimentation. I'm getting the feeling that she's most interested (for now anyway) of finding a women that would pleasure her. She be limited, in the beginning, of what'd she would be willing to do with the other woman. I'd be allowed to watch only, touching only my wife if I desired. My question is, how would she/we go about finding this 3rd person? We really don't have friends, so to speak, that would be interested in this type of thing.
How would SHE go about finding another girl to do a bunch of stuff to her she won't want to do back? If in another couple years it still hasn't happened, that is why
Think most straight girls say that they would let another girl do certain things to them but are unwilling to reciprocate. I know a lot that eventually caved in during the heat of the moment
Ya I think if your going to have sex with someone/anyone you should give as much as you receive. Same sex or not. If my wife was going to have sex with another woman, there is no way I would promise to just watch or only touch her. Hell if she is getting a taste of another woman's pussy so am I.
So in other words she wants the whole situation for her and screw you....and wants your permission to do it. Have fun with that.
In the world of swinging, the "Single Bi Girl" is the most sought-after unicorn. Sure, some of them exist, but they know exactly what their value is as well. If you seem to magically fall into that sort of situation, be wary. Plenty of them are actually lesbians with a fetish for married women with husbands that are easy to humiliate. My wife and I have encountered two of those. We had one of them over who actually asked me to leave the room while she was making my wife holler. I did, and promptly called her a taxi. The look on her face as my wife and I were throwing her out was priceless. I've been with my wife nearly 25 years, we don't let manipulators dictate terms to us. To the OP, your wife sounds like what people in swing circles call a "Pillow Princess". She wants to enjoy another woman, but doesn't want to reciprocate and clearly doesn't want YOU around for this. Good luck with such a selfish asshole in your life. But if you do work it out, do yourselves a favor and try this with a professional first. Hire a GOOD escort, one that costs a few C notes. Or invest in a trip to Nevada, we've been 3 times with GREAT success. Swinging is like turning your marriage over to "dating" and the rejection factor is very high. You'd be amazing how bad you can feel when people at a swing party only want to associate with one of you instead of both. It's actually worse than when they reject both of you. And it happens to everybody. Do not attempt swinging unless you are a very stable couple.
My wife just asked her girlfriends using me as bait. They thought I was hot. My wife is also bi but hid it for many years because no one believed in bisexuality in our time. She would have been labeled a lesbian in the closet and back then, that had some very serious consequences, not like it is today. Her family would disown her and if her employer found out he could legally fire her for moral violations. Our steady girlfriend of 30 years was a teacher so she dared not tell anyone either. The two girls had a policy of not telling anyone without a need to know. That even meant that in a threesome, they would not tell the girl unless the girl asked. My wife would see how far the other woman would let her go and take it from there. No need for explanations. We pretty much made it known that we like threesomes with girls. I would joke about it and indirectly let people know. There are a lot of women bi curious and divorced women needing sex and sick of men. I was lucky in that women wanted to have sex with me and willing to do it in a threesome with my wife. I had sex with every one of my wife's girlfriends. It would normally start off with drinking wine and smoking weed. My wife would get frisky with me and say that weed made her horny and she really needed sex. Then she would ask her visiting girlfriend if she would like to share me with her. They always said yes. Then once they were in bed and horny, they did not object to the occasional touch or kiss from my wife. Women were found in our everyday lives. Hair stylist, nurse, girls who worked with my wife, etc.. Women were and still are very attracted to my wife. At first I thought they were looking at me. One day at the mall I stopped to window shop while my wife kept on walking. I stayed back to see how many men looked at her but what I saw was mostly women looking at her. She is a chick magnet and that helped, especially on vacation when you can just ask any stranger to join you in bed. I was never shy about my sexual preferences. I always felt that great sex was the result of communicating your desires.
. . . sounds like a two-some disguised as a threesome Cheating in plain sight Someone is going to get hurt if you haven't already
A few months back I was stunned when one of my close gfs suggested me to have 3some. She explained that if I was willing, she would share with me and my husband in bed. She further elaborated that her partner had earlier suggested her 3some but in strange way. He wanted me to be fucked by a guy provided that guy, while penetrating me, allowed him (my husband) to fuck him at the same time (meaning thereby that guy's cock inside me and hubby's dick inside his ass). She had experienced so. Now she wanted to have fmf with me. I refused. But I still think would it be a funny experience?
My wife's best friend was staying with us after a nasty divorce. She was complaining about how she did not have sex for 8 months and the guys she dated were single for a good reason. Out of the blue my wife asks her if she would like to have sex with me. So we did and afterwards my wife came up to see who died due to her girlfriend releasing 8 months of pent up sexual frustration by screaming out her orgasm. I invited my wife to join in and then asked her to show her best friend how much she loved her. One thing led to another and we ended up moving our girlfriend into our home where she was in our life for the next 30 years. We did not know that our girlfriend was bi because in our day, bisexuality was not a recognized sexual preference by anyone, straight or gay. My wife discovered her repressed bisexually that night and we lived in what is called a poly triad. We each had our own bedroom. Our girlfriend and I worked and my wife was the wife to both of us. Threesomes was our normal sex and then one on one for quality time with each woman. We never had so much as an argument with our girlfriend. She knew that my marriage was the primary relationship and would always ask my wife if she was OK with doing anything I asked her to do with me that we had not done before, despite my wife telling her anything goes many times. We had a great life together and only split up due to fate intervening in the middle of retiring to another State. We were the perfect threesome but for many it can be a problem because the other girl will always be the secondary relationship and not have any spousal rights. You could kick her out and she would have no legal rights to your money, pension or alimony. Our girlfriend realized this problem when we moved away from her for two years before moving back to her. She wanted financial security for the future. She handled it brilliantly. She went to a dating site and found a man who was OK with her splitting her time between us and him. She never told us what their deal was other than they had an arrangement and she wanted to keep her two relationships separate. She did that. We never met her son or visited her condo. We did socialize with her husband a few times. She kept a separate wardrobe in her room in our house and traveled between us and vacationed with us, sometimes with her husband tagging along but disappearing after he handed his wife over to us for the rest of the vacation. My life, marriage and sex life was great and more than I ever dreamed of. I had the love of two women and sex with three is so much better than with two. There are a lot more things you can do with three. The problem is always going to be the other girl and how she feels as the secondary relationship. Will she want kids of her own, financial security, etc.. Online all you read about is the sex part but sex only occupies a little of your time together. There are real life issues about life and medical insurance, household chores, any restrictions on sexual acts, jealousy, etc.. Most fail but when it works it can be wonderful.
I think that she is doing the right thing. The first step is to invite a woman for your wife to play it and, I can assure you, if she likes it, in the future, she will allow you to touch the other girl. We are swingers and that's how we started. First, we had a girl and I (the female half) played with her. After a few times, I agreed that my husband should join. Then, we had a man...so yeah, that's how it started. Finding a female is pretty easy. We are using dating sites like swinginglove.club, where you can find single women and men, but also couples. Anyway, don't forget to talk about this and be sure that you are ready to do it. It worked for us, but that doesn't mean that it works for everyone. Good luck!
Show her this and see what she says. Two delightful lesbian beauties spread their legs to get pleased
If your relationship can handle it go for it. But think it through, it is difficult splitting up property and kids.
