Wife cheated with my married friend

Three weeks ago my best friend's wife came to my job. She produced a baggy full of cigarette butts and a crushed box. Many butts had my wife's color lipstick on them. She also told me there was a used tampon buried in the bathroom trash can that wasn't hers.
He is very well endowed and I know that's why she cheated with.
I have been finding myself thinking of those two having sex and I get an erection. Is that normal?

 

Personally I think it is normal as my wife has had a lover for a while now. As intimidating as it is knowing that another man is fucking my wife I also can't help getting an erection thinking about her enjoying the sex. It's confusing but you get used to it.

 

Monogamy is a social construct. I think your response is more common than people will admit to. Many people will admit that what hurt them so much about a spouse cheating on them was not the sexual act, but rather the lies and beak of trust. Many of these people are surprised by their response in this way. But, of course, each person is different.

The problem now is how you move forward. Something the two of you will have to work out, whether you want to give her the freedom to do this, or that she must stop for the sake of your marriage, and what boundaries you will insist on, and how she can regain your trust. And whether that is something she can agree to. If you just quietly allow her to continue to cheat behind your back, I would think that would become more destructive to your relationship, and in the long run, more difficult to make amends or resolve without pain and struggle, than whatever you work out together early on. But that is something you have to decide and then decide with her. Good luck.

An open relationship can be very rewarding and enjoyable for some people, but it obviously won't work for others.

 

mmmm, you could get an erection or you could get angry. Personally, I'd opt for the erection.

 

Yes, do you find yourself imagining him fucking her, making her cum before cumming himself deep inside her pussy? Do you think of that as you fuck her? If so, you’re just like me and many others.

 

You may want to reconsider calling him your best friend.

 

And if you find that exciting, imagine this:

You help your wife get ready for her date picking out some very sexy underwear and clothes. You want to have her right then and there, maybe some kisses on her breasts and a bit of fingering, but after that she makes you wait, as she heads out on her date. After a long hour or two she calls you to tell her that they are at the hotel, and he's in the bathroom getting ready, while she is already laying in the bed. You might ask what she is wearing, and she'll tell you, he's already taken everything off her. For the next hour or two you imagine what they are doing, knowing firsthand just how she feels to him. What she sounds like, how she moves. You imagine her climaxing on him, and him climaxing within her. After a long, very exciting, hour or two she calls you again, and tells you how they did it twice, and now she is getting ready and he will take her home. On the 15 - 20 minute drive home his cum, deep in her vagina, decoagulates turning to a k-y jelly like consistency. (And some may find it exciting that, by the time she reaches home, thousands upon thousands of his extramarital sperm have now swam from the back of her vagina, through the opening of her cervix, and are now swimming up through her womb in search of an egg.) You go straight to the bedroom and peel off her sexy clothes as she tells the story of everything they did. Then you peel off her wet panties, and push yourself inside of her, which is fairly easy being that it is a freshly-fucked pussy, and you notice how the deeper you stroke, the more slippery and wet she becomes, as if she had inserted K-Y deep inside of her. But it isn't K-Y and you know exactly what it is, as your stroking coats both you and her, inside and out, of this lover's deposited cum. You know your wife's body very well (something I would recommend in this lifestyle so that no matter how well someone else satisfies her, you are always sure to satisfy her well.), so you bring her to climax. And then you will add copious amounts of your own cum (because you have been hot and excited all night waiting for this very moment) to his seed.

You may fall asleep in each others arms, basking in the glow of aftersex. But sometime later in the night, one of you will be reminded of the evenings activities, wake up, and then gently wake the other one, where you will have another session of lovemaking. The next morning you might have her don the clothes and underwear of the night before, and you both reenact what she did with her lover, which of course will end in another round of lovemaking.

 

Or find a new best friend better endowed, and have him test her.

 

No way to tell if it's normal but it's your natural response so it must be good. I get hard when I know my wife is getting laid, whether I'm there or not. I get turned on when we talk about the guys she had sex with. And I love it when she has a sex date and comes home to me for more. It's not better but a different flavor of hot compared to sharing her with other guys. She doesn't hide anything and we agreed long ago that if she needs to get laid it's just her nature so no worries. We're family first so we don't get jealous and we don't fight over who has the most lovers in a year.
If you're getting erect thinking about your wife cheating you might consider telling her how it turns you on and give her a pass so it's in the open and not cheating anymore. Maybe work it out with him to give HIS wife a pass to swap now and then.
My first move would be to go down on her when she gets home!

 

This happened to me when I was younger.

 

I've seen enough of porn movies, or scenes to know how a woman reacts when a " sizable " penis is pounding away in her. Just that thought of seeing her enjoying herself like that. Then allowing him to ejaculate inside of her....that is something that I thought a guy doesn't do with another man's wife...!
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Not to be rude, or insulting to anyone...but if it was me, I'd like to know how his dick tastes. Maybe not a whole creampie, but perhaps right up to that point! But that's just me. Personally, I think your lucky. Try and enjoy....

 

I think that is part of the best part. That is the proof that she satisfied another man, when you slide into her and find his load at the base of her uterus. When she comes home, and you know that another man's sperm is swimming around in her womb searching out her egg (my wife always used birth control, but it is still exciting to think that millions of his sperm are swimming around in search of conceiving within her). I guess it is part of the forbidden fruit that makes it exciting.

When we first met and I was her lover and she my mistress, I always came inside of her. She hated condoms, has never once allowed a partner to use one since I have known her, and always wants to feel her partner cumming inside of her. So, even then she would go home regularly to her husband with a load of my sperm, though often he was away as he had started a business in another prefecture.

In fact, she has had a few partners that had their tubes tied, which was a slight disappointment, but still they filled her with cum.

 

Wife went to lunch with a former BF after we were married several months. She fucked him. I found out a couple of weeks later. Didn't make me horny at all. Years later she got real close to a coworker and they fucked. Again finding out didn't cause me to become horny or have an erection. Each time we talked about it and the reasons why. I love her so much I forgive her for anything. Since then I've fucked a bunch or other women, massage parlor girls, and had a fuck buddy for a couple of years. Wife knows I have and still do fuck other women. Not in detail but she knows and accepts that I enjoy having had a great variety over the years. For some couples like ourselves all that matters is we remain friends and support each other through everything.

 

Your turned on by it because it puts your wife in a sexual prowess your not used to, so it’s a turn on.
You think there is some secret she has sexually now that you want to find out and explore.
It’s normal to think these things, however you will soon see there isn’t some secret and what you expect to find will not be there.
Simple fact is for whatever reason she went outside your marriage for something she felt she needed.
You need to figure out now if you want to stick around.

 

I think it's normal. But we're all wired different. I personally enjoy hearing about my friends exploits and sometimes they wonder why I'm not envious. I'm not. I want to hear about how she got fucked or how it is to suck another guys cock or if she swallowed and how she climaxed. It's all exciting to me. I'm sure I get talked about too. A year or so ago I met up with one of my friends just to chat and have a glass of wine. I was surprised that she was at the bar with one of her girlfriends. It was just an accident that they were both there. Anway, at some point my friend had to use the ladies room and while she was gone this other woman asked me if I was going to sleep with my friend after drinks. I said that we hadn't planned on it and she smiled and said that it was too bad because she'd seen pics of my cock that my friend showed her and she had been thinking of how nice it would feel inside of her. I had no idea that those pics were being shared so I guess both sexed do things that can potentially create jealousy.

 

I think that's normal.

 

If you are all on the same page it's cool. Cheating behind your back isn't

 

OP has not responded back, assuming she did cheat. He should not feel bad I know many men in the same boat as him.