Wife cheated in the past?

That's such a good analogy. We had been married for 6 months and my spouse had the same thought. Had she made the right choice in marrying me? She spent an afternoon that turned into early evening with an ex before she came home. She was very loving and attentive upon her arrival. I didn't know who she was out with until I asked several days later. Upon hearing who it was I prodded for more info. She evaded the subject coyly and I decided to not open Pandora's box. 40 plus years later I hold to the fantasy that after tasting the grass on the other side she found it sweeter on my side. Probably the best decision made at the time. Over 40 years later we still have a solid relationship built on trust, forgiveness, acceptance, allowance, blessings, and understanding each others needs. My advice to the OP, don't open Pandora's box.

 

I agree Barry and good advice for the OP .

 

I think she really had a go back then.
That's ok. Things are good now, although sex has totally dried up.
I'm catching up on my reading now. LOL

 

On the sex side you may just need to reignite the spark . Perhaps a weekend away ?

 

My wife cheated on me 4 times during our engagement. She even went as far as saying that engagements didn't really mean anything. After we married she left me again for another guy. We worked on our marriage but it really hit a low spot when I put in my time at work and retired early. 35 yrs later our/her past has caused sever damage to my life.

 

She cheated on you and you still married her?

 

I would totally dump someone if I thought they were unfaithful.

I mean, if it's in the past and things are healthy and working in the present then I guess that would be different. But I don't tolerate that sort of thing. It's not ok.

 

Yes mam, still married her. Guess I was such a sucker. But being young, in love, and full of cum is my only real excuse. I had a very bad child good. So I ran towards what looked like security, 2 years the truth comes out. She admits everything

 

You can fix ugly, but stupid runs all the way to your bones.

 

Your marriage has lasted 16 years. It's possible she learned something from her fling which contributed to this longevity. I suggest you count your blessings.

 

Nothing wrong with giving her a chance. So what happened that caused so much damage to your marriage?

 

It's hard to explain. Simply put, I was deeply in love. She was deeply in lust.

 

So I guess that means you weren't deeply in lust. Maybe that's why.................