I'm 36 m, and describe myself as curious, been married 8 years and the wife borrowed my phone and found I was looking at Gay porn, I dismissed it out of embarrassment but she seems to have taken it alright, we haven't spoken much about it though. Any thoughts?
My thoughts are... Why is your wife in your phone? I've been married 44 years and my wife nor myself hve never gone in each other's phone or wallet or purse or other personal stuff without permission. I hear of this going on almost everyday anymore where the woman finds things in the others phone. A family member was just caught the same way. I asked him why he didn't lock his phone or tell her to mind her own business. He said they don't keep secrets. Lol..... Guess what? You already were by having the stuff in the phone without her knowledge. Duh!
Well the fact you haven't talked about it brother doesn't mean it isn't on her mind. It is. You should talk about it. Encourage her to ask any question, and FFS when you answer... tell the truth. She needs to know you are not attracted to men per say, just got horny as hell and looked around. And BTW...she has probably asked some other women around her if they have seen their husbands do it. So... other people already know. Just sayin.
I agree with this. It is something that you should talk about mainly to allay any fears or misconceptions she may be harbouring . I know I sound like a broken record here but communication is key to all relationships. Just because your Bi curious doesn't mean you want to jump into bed with the first guy you see. Its no different than say a Bi sexual person settling down with just one partner. Ie being Bi doesn't mean 2 relationships are on the go at the same time. These are the type of things you perhaps need to discuss with her.
It's only natural to be curious about Anything, including gay porn. My wife was the one who was into gay porn, and wanted me to watch with her. She used to watch Seka with me,decades ago. Since she peered in on a gay friend getting and giving a bj, she became facinated by gay porn. It was all out in the open and there was no embarrassment. It was not a big deal to watch it, or any other type of porn. Nobody is jumping out of the tv and having sex. Too bad Whatever gets you going.
I love to watch woman on woman as many guys do . Some would think of that as gay porn , other maby not . I have a few guy on guy videos , but its not really my thing . As your wife is cool with it I dont see a problem . PS , and there are tranny videos kinda a different ball game . There must be lots of people that like tranny videos as there lots on the torrent sites . Again not really my thing . I love the woman pee pee videos . Some one should start a who else loves pee pee videos . Some coupls watch porn togher .
Just talk with her about it, clear the air and get peace of mind and heart for both of you. otherwise it will hount you and stress you out. Who knows maybe it has peaked her curriosity, maybe she got turned on by it, and then maybe you can guess what you are gonna get for christmas or brithday gift. As long as you don't talk about it, the what if's are gonna linger and drive you and probably her too nuts
Yes time to discuss the real you. She may open herself up to her secrets too. My be a real good thing.
