why the fuck do people get married??

And that doesn't sound appealing how?

 

i'm totally against couples moving in together. even when they're married. if you're not living together, you actually have time to yourself and you don't get to where if someone touches you one more time you're going to scream. i'm thinking of going on a weeklong retreat BY MYSELF. somewhere that people don't talk or touch each other.

 

True. My parents dont live together and they are still married. When they are together for more than a week , they cant stop arguing. But they do love each other.

 

my parents hate each other, and they've been bludgeoning each other half to death for 22 years. THAT'S devotion.

i think it's because neither of them want to admit defeat and both of them realize no one else would have them.

 

haha.. yeah.. same here! best fucking doctor in the world, or.. no kids.. no thanks!

anyways if I have kids I won't a choice. no natural birth giving for me, whether I want it or not.

 

yknow, i used to swear up and down id never get married. that loving someone and living with them was the same thing in my head
and then i started dating this amazing guy, and about a month in realized i wanted to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him
but i dont think its different/meaningful until you make it meaningfull, utnil you get that urge to do and to make it different than just shacking up together. its a mental thing

 

Yeah, but not every doctor wants to perform a C section unless its needed.
Cause its risky - both for the mom and the baby.

 

Hahaha...Thats kinda cute.

 

I couldn't agree more! I mean living together is alright, but you gotta have your space, really. In each serious relationship I've had, I had to have my little breaks. And it just makes it so wonderful to miss the other.. the sex is better when you get back together again after being apart.. everything is better. I don't understand couples who are so needy of each other constantly.

 

they are. you just have to get up the balls to yell at them "SHUT AND GO TO BED! QUIT YOUR WHINING!" when they get outta control

 

Maybe if you conceive a midget?

 

well there's healthy argueing and plain fighting. argue a little is normal and healthy in every couple.. it means you care.. if you don't give a shit you simply never argue.. cause you don't give a shit.. but fighting all the time, that becomes violent etc. definitely is a warning sign you need to end it (or get some sort of counselling if you're willing to give the relationship a shot)

and little petty fights over stupid shit doesn't mean shit either.. I mean it's annoying if it's repetitive.. but.. it happens..

 

LOL.
To avoid that, I am gonna go to genetic counselling. And so will my husband.

 

I gave up being the family peace maker a long time ago.
I am the kid here !!!!!

 

How can you hate a midget baby?

Iam not sure how tiny will that be

 

this is gonna sound horrible but if I find out my baby's gonna be abnormal in some sort of way.. like.. there are no genetic syndromes or whatever in my family.. but if it should happen.. I'm getting an abortion.

I couldn't deal with it.. I mean I guess a midget wouldn't be bad but if they had Down's syndrome or missing an arm or serious stuff.. I wouldn't want to put my life on hold forever for them.. and I'm too sensitive to deal with abnormalities.

I truly admire parents who choose to raise kids with.. problems. But I couldn't. I don't even know if I want normal kids.. haha..

 

I agree. I feel the same way.
As I said - before me and my husband have the kid - genetic counselling !

 

i dunno. it's amazing how fast you end up loving that baby.

 

you gals are so racist.

 

yeah I guess you gotta experience having a kid to really understand what it's like having one.. it's like my mom says.. she doesn't get too excited around other people's babies.. like me.. I get scared even.. but as soon as she had me and my sisters, something happened.