why the fuck do people get married??

You're right! Again, you're right.

 

of course they can. and sometimes it's worth it to try and work things out if you really love each other.

 

Yeah, me too.

My parents dont live together, but they are happily married.

 

Well good

 

Good indeed. I wouldnt want that, but okay...

 

to be honst with you, i dont know
but i want to marry my boyfriend. i love him, and i plan on spending the rest of my life with him, so why not formalize it? whats wrong with that? its a way for us to declare our love and a statement that were gonna fight for each other. its not liek me marrying my boyfriend is going to hurt someone else

 

Why did they decide to live separate? I'm just curious. If they are separated not for any reasons except privacy, well..... that's kind of fascinating.

 

Well, I got married because I knew I wanted to spend the resto of my life with my husband, and so far, I have-22 years. Don't get me wrong, it's not all rainbows and butterflies-we've been through some very rough times. The thing is, the legal commitment helped hold us together until we could get through them. Living together, it might have been too easy to walk away. But, it's not for everyone. All of my husband's and my parents (except my mother) and our siblings have been divorced. My next door neighbors have been together over 15 years and they've never been married.

 

No, nothing like that.
Its kinda long story...

I am originally from Bosnia, so when the war began we moved to Croatia. My dad stayed in Bosnia for a while cause he was a war correspondant. Later he came to Croatia and we all lived there untill the war ended. Then my dad decided to return to Bosnia cause he was offered a job. We were suppose to come as well, but my mom thought that it was best for me and my sister to stay in Croatia cause honestly, post-war Bosnia is fucked up, the schools and the whole education system are awful. Its a country without many opportunities. So my mom decided to stay with us, and my dad wanted to return ( mainly for patriotic reasons ) . He visits us every two weeks and we spend our holidays in Bosnia.

 

Did you mean they are married to other people, or they are married but not 'together' ?

 

Married, but not living together.

 

Just curious, but where abouts in Croatia? Close to Zagreb or Split?
(I'm Canadian, but have Croatian roots)

 

I live in Zagreb.

 

I just don't understand how not being married could make it easier for someone to "walk away" from a relationship.. I don't know, I must be weird or something.. but to me.. it would make absolutely no difference.. the marriage and legal bonding wouldn't change my perception of the relationship, it would be like.. a detail, really.

 

cool, beautiful city.:worthy:

 

War sucks :\

Anyway marriage is pointless until you meet the one.

 

I think marriage is pretty lame. I don't like the idea i'm hooked with the same woman forever

 

Oh yeah, definately.
I dont ever wanna leave it.
So you've been to Zagreb ?

 

you're 13.. that makes sense.

I guess to successfully be with somebody for a long time you gotta not think about how it could be a long time.. you just are. And I guess another secret is to not be a boring, unchanging, unchallenging person. Routine kills long-term relationships.. and not just in love.

 

Ah well....War has certainly influenced me and shaped a big part of my personality.