Interesting article. I really do believe that the double standards are eroding over time. I keep hearing that among guys who are currently under 30, homosexual experimentation has become much more common and accepted than it was for older generations of men. Some younger women say that when two couples get together and the women are pleasuring each other, their guys will entertain each other too. I've never heard a woman over 35 say that, though I'm not saying it never happens.
Exactly. But... I still can't quite visualize my husband and boyfriend doing anything sexual to each other, no matter what it's called or how mainstream it becomes. It would take me a while to get adjusted to the idea.
I've always taken the general acceptance of two women having sex (especially two straight identified women) as something males "approved of" under male gaze. (The socio-political power holding gaze) Guys dabbling brought manliness (not masculinity) into question to some men, and that likely causes pushback. Because gay is catching....or something.
I think that's the "you're not gay unless you receive" justification. I remember readings a swingers advertisement from a women who declared she was not interested in any man that claimed bi or even bi curious, she perceives these traits to be of less masculinity. I bet that took a hit on certain guys on the site, probably changed all their preferences before contacting her.
Would turn me off completely. IMO...if two men have sex, they are not straight. if someone I was dating did that..."don't let the door hit ya in the ass on your way out" (unless you want the knob). :dizzy2:
IMO, if ur male and its something that if you did with a woman your girlfriend would think was cheating ... if do that with a man ... its gay.
But why the double standard? Most guys love to watch girls do each other. No negative labels associated with that. I know what the article says, but I want to know how other people see it.
Not really a double standard. When guys watch two girls, they're getting off on the girls doing it. Guys watching guys is gay.
Everything is about what guys want to see? That's a double standard. I'm just throwing this out for conversation. Watching two guys go at it doesn't do anything for me.