BF says he feels pressure when I play with his prostrate and it interferes with his orgasm. I jerk him off while I suck, lick and finger his ass. I play with his balls, suck them hard and suck his dick. He really really enjoys when I lick his asshole and stick my tongue in there a little. How can I help him relax so he can enjoy the powerful orgasm brought on by prostate play?
Hmm...not much to suggest Dianna except softer more gentle play....usually prostate play makes for more n longer convulsions/spasms n cum production. I have played with mine both from anus and using ureatheal sounding rods at the same time...of course only gently. Maybe u could see me how his sensation is if u were to fuck him wearing a strap on....or even soft dildo play. Sure others here will have more suggestions. Good luck Simon
I agree slow down be gentle use plenty of lube. Also maybe some alcohol to help him relax. It’s all about pleasure not pain or discomfort. Ask him if it’s too much or not enough. Go with how he feels.
OK. Longish post. So, yes, it's not uncommon to feel pressure when you play there. The prostate gets enlarged during stimulation just like his cock does and just like your sexual organs do as well. You're doing the right thing by giving him all that stimulation. Even more is good too. The handjob and blowjob part will keep his juices building up (I'm sure you are quite familiar with that) but take it slow. Also, make sure that when you enter his asshole you use enough lube so that he really only feels a slight intrusion into his bum as you work towards his prostate. Once you find it and stimulate that area, he WILL feel pressure because you've got a finger or two up his bottom and because you're directly stimulation his prostate. Since a prostate orgasm frequently differs from the orgasm he's likely more familiar with, it will definitely feel different to him and you may notice the difference as well. Some men will ejaculate a steady stream during a p orgasm. Less squirting...more of a long drain. Many men (I fall into this group) will feel an urgent need to pee and also to climax. Women often feel the need to pee just before a luscious climax and some will squirt so it's kind of like that. Many, many men will feel a little burning sensation either during or after their p orgasm. That's natural and I do as well. You get used to it and it's actually part of the orgasm that you learn to associate with pleasure. Many men will not get hard or fully hard during a prostate massage but will give up a release at the end and these men can get penis stimulation. If that's the case, you can suck him hard again and give him a release or he can fuck you before he cums again. He'll likely NOT want to be massaged in his behind again for that session. The swelling of his prostate during stimulation and release takes a while to relax. Finally, be sure you're doing it to him in the right position. If your goal is to let him release, he has to be in a very comfortable position. Think of a position you'd want to relax in while he's giving your oral to completion. You really just want to let him do you until you climax on his mouth. If you like odd positions to service him in, leave those for other handjobs or blowjobs and just let him relaxe comfortably when you're going in the other end. Hope this helps.
We have been experimenting with anal play for a few months already. We use a lot of lubricant and it wasn’t until recently that I was able to actually put a finger in there. I have been patiently working his ass for a while. I know when it starts feeling soft that I can go deeper. He has never had pain, he says he just feels pressure and the pressure distracts him and interferes with the orgasm. I am a little disappointed that he says anal play isn’t his favorite. I really want him to get into it.
Very helpful! Thank you so much. We have played while he’s laying face up, and also while he’s on all fours. He was actually the one who suggested we try running while he’s on all fours. I really enjoyed that position and so did he. He lays there’s very relaxed when he is facing up.
Just take it slow. Just like yourself when you play with yours you go slow. He will get into it just let him open up to it. The slower you go the better it will be for him. He just has to relax that’s all. The more relaxed he is the more he will enjoy it. But if he’s not into it he might just not be into it. Communication is key
Oh, trust me, I do. He is an excellent unselfish lover just like I am. We met two years ago and have realized we’ve been what the other has been looking for our whole lives. We are both married, in long term relationships with sexually selfish people. Working towards an end goal of being together in the near future.
An even simpler explanation is that when you push a finger or, really, anything else in there, you're also pushing air in there, too, and it doesn't go anywhere while stuff is going on in there and is why a lot of folks, um, fart when the object is removed; even a small "column of air" that precedes a finger going in there can cause someone some uncomfortable pressure. As far as I know, there's no way to not push air in there and wind up "compressing" it as you work to stimulate the prostate - and that pressure has to be gotten used to so as to not distract or feel like pain. Just my three cents worth
I kinda know that feeling. Touch base whenever you want. Appreciate your post and especially your honesty!
Simple, Its the equivilant of a womans G spot. Put your finger in aiming towards the belly button. Direct pressure against the prostate by massaging can actually push cum out, draining the prostate. It was done to me by a proctologist. Use the Flat of your finger and massage the prostate. I do it to myself with a dildo . The head has a perfect taper to it, so it massages rather than banging your prostate. My wife has done this to me with the Manhandler Dildo. She will put the dildo in my ass and make the head of the dildo do the job.
