Its been a month since my Boyfriend and I fooled around, and I brought it up to my parents, saying how I was frustrated that we hadn't done anything in a while. So then they told me, why don't you just go all the way and just have sexual intercourse? If you claim your a Virgin and your saying your doing stuff, Oral Sex Hand Jobs Fingering Groping each other Laying next to each other in underwear, bra, boxers etc. I am also into kinky stuff like bondage, spanking, etc. So I am fine with doing the kinky stuff and all of the other stuff I listed and sexual intercourse can be held off until marriage. If your doing all of this, then your aren't a Virgin and you should just have sexual intercourse, so why not go all the way. To me, I hear them tell me this, and it hurts, its what you do with your partner Boyfriend, Girlfriend, to be intimate and yes I know sexual intercourse is also included, but as I have pointed out I am saving myself for marriage to have sexual intercourse, so in the mean time, I want to do these things, until then. But they keep pushing sexual intercourse on me, and say that my Boyfriend or any other guy I date if I ever break up with this guy, may not want to wait around to have sexual intercourse or wait until marriage. No guy wants a Virgin, etc. I just don't know what to do or think anymore. I am getting tired of people pushing sex onto me.
THEY keep pushing the sex??? That sound's strange. I'm a 45 y/o male and I find their thinking to be against the norm. TONS of guys love virgins. If you are tired of people pushing sex on you then stand your ground and say No. Take things at your own pace and don't be manipulated. Good luck.
To me it doesn't seem like anyone is pushing sex on you, they're just pointing out that you draw lines in weird places.
Agreed, it's less that they're pushing you to have sex, and it's more that they're saying if you're willing to do everything but vaginal intercourse you're already having sex, aren't a virgin, and it's silly to pretend that you are. Personally, I say do whatever works for you. If you want to engage in sexual activity but don't want to engage in vaginal intercourse, that's entirely up to you and you shouldn't let anyone pressure you to change that if it's what you want and you have good reason for it. The idea of virginity is quite antiquated anyway and shouldn't be part of the equation. It's fine to do some sexual things and not do others. That said, if you do intend to have vaginal intercourse with a future partner, I'm not personally fond of the idea of saving yourself for that ideal partner and never doing it before then. Sex is something you have to practice to be good at, and people who save themselves until marriage tend to find themselves disappointed when they finally do it and it's not this magical experience because first times rarely are. If you approach it maturely and understand up front that it will take some time to reach its potential, that's fine, you should just realize that there are down sides to saving yourself for marriage as well. Given my advocacy for anal sex and anal only relationships, I feel obligated to suggest that if you haven't already you may wish to research and experiment with anal play and anal sex as an alternative to vaginal if you want to maintain your vaginal virginity but still experience intercourse with a partner.
A quick check of your other threads, you are 29? You left that part out in this thread, was going to tip toe, because I thought you were much younger Think thats why the parents are like that. If you were 16, guys would just think you are scared of getting pregnant, at 29, it will just look like you are trying to blackmail one into marrying you. Theyd have no idea if you are actually a virgin
