Why is it a cool thing? 2

Talking about sports, cars, guns, drinking beer... these are things that a lot of guys consider to be worthwhile conversation. That is small talk as well.

Just because the form of small talk may be different across genders, doesn't mean its not small talk.

 

Didn't say guys don't small-talk, and I can't stand "guy talk", either.

I was referring to sheer quantity, not quality. I think it's sexual sublimation.

 

I find the majority of what passes for communication is insincere. People do not want to discuss what is really on their minds because they are afraid of the solutions. It means giving up their illusions and face saving projections. The only talk that is worth a spit is pillow talk.

 

In everything, you see women as worse then men, so why would this issue be any different?

 

Its really nice to have friends whom you can be silent with.



Edit: Who, whom

 

You know, I think that is a hint into the whole small talk issue.

Most people are uncomfortable with themselves to start with, so when they sit around in silence, they seem to think that others are either thinking negative thoughts about them or plotting against them so they try to fill the space with any type of conversation that kills the silence.

 

i have no real talent for small talk. so i joke a lot and listen quite a bit.

 

This is how I am: I listen a lot, laugh, and interject with whatever I think. I'm not quite sure what small talk is. I'm sure it happens with my one good friend down here, but it doesn't matter because in a snap of our finger our conversations can grow way too deep and synchronicity occurs around us.

If small talk is just small talk though it certainly doesn't have to mean people are insecure. Maybe it means they're dumb though. But I do notice and agree that people start thinking very negatively in silence, which is a definite work of insecurity.

Girl talk at my age can get really really stupid. Of course. I really don't even need to elaborate.

 

1) YES! so true, and so unusual. (i can be silent with most people, but the rarity is for them to be silent back.)

2) i'm actually very good at english grammar (i know it doesn't always show here, but that's largely laziness), but i've never been able to reliably differentiate between who/whom appropriate situations.

 

Who vs Whom;

http://grammar.quickanddirtytips.com/who-versus-whom.aspx

 

That's what always interested me when I had to read shakespeare in high school.

When they talk, they scarcely waste words.
The characters conversations always seem insightful and stuff, even if it's about things just as unimportant as the things we commonly discuss today.

I like the people here, they're "deep".
Too bad the majority can't be that way.

 

thanks, she makes it seem so simple.

although knowing my history with who/whom, it probably went in one ear and out the other (or in my eyes and out my ass, or however that would work in this case...).

 

That is really going to suck passing the monitor....

 

I'm terrible at small talk and this prevents me from every meeting anyone which is why I have no friends.

 

Well, I obviously prefer their genitals and mammaries over men's.

 

Well, that makes sense

After all, you are just a representation of your own genitals...

a dick...

 

Thank you!

 

My day was filled with naughty girl scouts.

 

i said something along those lines to dave last night:

women with yawning mouths at both ends
men with dickheads at both ends...something along those lines.

 

Nice Mama