Why is cheating so fun?

Why is it so much fun?
That tells me there is a good chance you have not really cheated.
In 2000 I "cheated" on my first wife. Even at that point our marriage was pretty terrible for both of us, and we were separated at the time. Thus the " " around cheated.
At any rate, it was stressful. The sneaking, the panicked feeling when I thought she might know...etc.
I found the entire event to most certainly not be worth it.
I never cheated again, we divorced some years later and I have since re-married with zero chance of doing it again.

 

You might just be a one-woman kinda guy and that’s cool but that doesn’t make someone who cheats or has cheated a POS.

Society as a whole puts certain notions in people’s heads and most people are encouraged to follow those through without once questioning them or getting a chance to know who they really are as a person and where they stand on a certain matter. Examples would be a woman who never wants to have kids or a man who chooses to be more passive than aggressive but both examples haven’t grown enough to realize these things about themselves. Why do others have to look down on them, label them or shun them because they go against the norm? The point I’m trying to make is that maybe some people know exactly what they want and others haven’t gotten the chance to figure that out and rush into something like a marriage or a relationship before sorting things out within themselves. People cheat for all kinds of reasons, some “good” and some “bad” but it’s all subjective, just like everything else in life.

 

Everything is about choices.
And everyone makes good and bad ones, and a few make great or terrible ones.
Your statement brings a saying to mind I heard 20 years ago or so ... "one of the great tragedies of life is that the most important decisions you will make in your life, comes at a time when you are the least capable of making them".
At 53, I get the true meaning of that comment.
I myself married the wrong person the first time. And she married the wrong person as well. Like so many, we married because it is "what you are supposed to do"..as well as the thought of a guaranteed/regular fuck was pretty attractive to me. But, as the saying goes, I was totally incapable of choosing the right person at 24 years old and no real advice from anyone.
My point by all of this, is while I agree with you...still life is about choices. And that includes if you cannot stay faithful to someone who thinks you are - you should choose to either honor that person, or leave them.

 

On the contrary, I have cheated in the exact fashion in which you describe. It did get stressful after awhile. But man, I get a RUSH when I have sex with someone I am not supposed to, lol. A couple of years ago, me and my wife separated for a bit and I started hanging out with this one girl I knew from school. Lord, we fucked good. The fact that this girl was willing to fuck a married man was awesome to me. A few years before that, before I got married, for a little while I was "the other man" with a woman who was unhappily married herself. As we fucked, I thought about how cool it was that she was getting her rocks off with me while her husband waited for her to come home. I literally can't describe how good it felt to fill her full of cum.

I have contemplated the swinger lifestyle for years. But, it implies that your wife is okay with it, which for me would cool the thrill a bit after awhile.

 

It's not cheating, it's letting the other person trust you more than they should. If that turns you on you need to grow up.