Why doesn't he want to have sex?

Often when men have assertive sexual
partners they become a little threatened.

Also some men fear the intimacy a sexual
relationship can bring...and comittment
also.

I have found the best period in a relationship
is just before sex...the chase....for lots of
people is very erotic.

 

I hate the chase with all my might...I really do.

Anyway, I think the OP's boyfriend isn't willing to communicate the fact that he's fantasizing about other women, and happens to be bored by monogamy. It's perfectly reasonable for you to walk out. You deserve a communicative and open partner. Good luck.

 

I know you hate the chase...

But you would love to be the one
who is chased.....

Even if for a little while.....

Or wait...you are an Aries...
I WANT IT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Isnt that so?

 

Yes, I want it now. Now or never. If it's later, I prefer not to have it.

 

But sometimes in life we have
to exercise patience...

Oh my ..... dont I just know this,
its one of my most challenging
of lessons...

 

Men have hormone cycles it could be he is on a low cycle and the fact that you make a big deal out it him not wanting sex makes the situation even worse and makes upset.

Give him a break there is more to a relationship than just sex. Just be supportive and don't be so insecure about his lack of sex drive because it probley has nothing to do with you.

 

its been going on since september last year, so this is a pretty long cycle to me. I've done everything I can and when I do back off he gets upset...I just give up.

 

If you are not willing to work through it a just give up then you really don't have a good stable relationship. There are alot of things that could be going on. I didn't say back off either just be understanding when he is not in the mood.

 

But I am willing to work it out, he won't work with me...I mean a person can only take so much of "its nothing, I'll try harder" and nothing gets accomplished. I mean he's not even actively seeking a solution. If it were me he would want me to see my doctor, he would ask a bunch of questions and wouldn't stop until it was fixed. All I want is some sort of answer.

 

Erectile dysfunction disorder! Or maybe he's just gay.

 

I wish it were something that easy...but he won't say anything or seek help so the relationship is over I suppose.

 

maybe he has ED ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION and is embarrassed about owning up to it?

 

You can't help those that don't want to be helped. It sounds like this relationship is coming to a close. Find someone who will take your concerns seriously because it is a conerstone of a long relationship.

 

My thoughts exactly. You want to help him, he won't accept your help, it's hurting you both...what's the point? A relationship is supposed to be two-way. You both have to make the effort. If you're the only one making the effort for the both of you then you don't have much of a relationship.

 

downward spiral; find someone else, it doesn't get better.

 

have you put on weight?

 

he might be embarrassed if he is having problems .....to emit it might be looked apon as a weakness.

you will need to force him to talk about it ...

 

Honey, you've been plenty patient if this has been going on since September last year and he hasn't made an effort to find out what his problem is. He's made it pretty plain he doesn't care about your satisfaction. Time to move on. It's not going to get any better.

 

The problem is, no matter how much you force a person, if he truly doesn't want to do something he's not gonna do it.

 

Yes I agree with the above comments...

There is only so much one can tolerate..

Tell him you cannot be with him unless

a] he opens up to you or

b] he gets help

Good luck xx