Why do you choose top or bottom?

Sure, there is a girl, but don’t miss the four twinks!

As a teenager, I once went jogging with a cousin who was two or three years older. After returning, we showered and faced each other for a short time with a towel around our waists. I was tempted to rip the towel away from him.

In the past, I had once ordered my best friend to take off his clothes, but he refused my order. I think it was just boyish exploration, I didn't find his body or personality particularly attractive, he was an intellectual friend. When an older neighbour boy gave me the same order, I also refused – I found his body and also his personality unattractive.

I don't remember whether I had already recognised the beauty of young male bodies at school, or whether it was also just childhood curiosity when I was tempted to rip the towel away from my cousin. But I unfortunately decided against it – I didn't know how he would take it. Little did I know that he was gay. Had I been braver, I'm sure he would have carefully introduced me to the pleasures of homosexuality, with lots of lube.

My adolescence would then have been less that of a bookworm and more sexually appealing. I had long since discovered girls and had also indulged extensively in my hobby of onanism, but I still lacked sexual interaction with another body, and with my cousin it would have been homosexuality that would have won the race for the first practical experiences. A few years later, this cousin wrote me a letter that was most likely a love letter in disguise, but by then I just found him boring.

In the army, when I was 18/19 years old, I had extensively admired the boyishly slim body of a sergeant in the shower who was two to four years older and belonged to a different platoon. He was always kind to me, and once said after a lecture I had to give for the company that he had found the lesson very interesting. Another time he asked for my opinion on whether he should enlist longer, which I advised against. Normally men don’t say anything good about other men, unless they are drunk, and it is always remarkable when they behave differently.

Once, after returning from a long exercise, I must have showered for half an hour, I was so happy to be able to shower again at last. A lot of steam must have got into the corridor, because my special sergeant, who was on duty at the time, opened the door to look for the cause. At the latest, he saw me naked because there was no one else in the shower room. Not that nudity was anything special, but otherwise we were all in the shower together, and nobody can have their eyes everywhere.

Another time we were on guard duty together, and I was lying in uniform on a bed covered with a plastic sheet, and when we were alone, he lifted me up in the air by the belt as a joke. He was considered a ladies' man in the company, but I never saw a girlfriend.

Why this long preface?

If my cousin or my sergeant had introduced me to homosexuality, I probably would have started as a bottom because they were both older.

But my first boyfriend was a second lieutenant who was studying medicine. He claimed to be bisexual like me, but he never talked about women and was a pure bottom. At that time I still thought that all wanted to be tops and nobody wanted to bottom, so I was very happy with my bottom, especially since his blond and blue-eyed twink body matched my beauty expectations exactly, in contrast to his personality. But it didn't last long anyway.

His successors were all bottoms too, so topping became my standard for both sexes. Out of a need for completeness, I made a few attempts at bottoming, but nothing positive came of it. Maybe I'm not built for it, or needed early and regular training. Anyway, in the meantime I had learnt that bottoms make up the vast majority, contrary to claims to the contrary, made for the heterosexual world. It is easy to understand that it is much more popular to be massaged (anally etc.) than to be the masseur.

Gays should be less defensive and recommend anal massage for straight men, by whoever. Since I never had bottoming fantasies it was easy for me to follow the demand. Besides, passive anal sex is by far the most dangerous practice, even with a condom (of dubious quality). Anal or vaginal penetration – hardly a difference for me. Decreased dimorphism, that is less masculine and more feminine traits, may also be a factor that makes bottoming attractive.

 

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I agree that I would prefer someone who wasn't a total top, or bottom, as well. I don't begrudge someone their sexual preferences, though, as I don't think I'd be into making out with a man, or definitely not a stranger, at least?
Life is definitely more fun with a little give and take from both sides!

 

There's lots of guys out there who wear panties, and don't necessarily want to be a woman

 

I agree. I’m sorry if I gave the impression that I was saying all male panty wearers think that way. I should have made the comment for me only.

I enjoy wearing panties and women’s undies. I wish I could have been born a woman and have all three of my holes filled regularly.

I’m masculine when out and about but have no problem saying I’m a slutty cock loving bitch in the bedroom.

 

I like to please older men x

 

Yes I love dick

 

I love sucking on cock and having him bend me over and pound my ass deep and hard..

 

Can we chat? X

 

I wasn't offended by your original comment at all. Like you, I'm also masculine in appearance (even though I'm not the biggest guy out there), but definitely don't mind expressing my feminine side from time to time, including wearing cute bras and sexy panties at times. Lots of people I know would shocked if they knew some of the kinky things I'm into.
My wife (we've been married 15 years now) has always told me that I have a cute "feminine ass" that looks much better in a sexy pair of panties than it ever will in any pair of "boring" men's underwear.
To be honest, I'm a grower, not a show(er). When fully erect, I'm about 7"c and fairly thick, but when it's limp, "it" looks right at home locked in chastity (a cock cage) or a nice pair of panties. Or both at the same time.

 

Same! LOL!

 

Depending on my mood I guess being on top is hot.
But of late I have been craving the bottom more ans more

 

I chose bottom because I had to know how it would feel to be on the receiving end of a man's hard-driving sex-desire, his hard, slippery dick ramming into my violated asshole, getting harder & faster & deeper until his cock begins to swell & jerk and pump & spew his hot man-cum out deep inside me, just as though I were a woman. As incredible as the sexual pleasure & satisfaction of getting fucked up my ass is, the emotional euphoria I get from it lifts me even higher, and I will stay with my same-sex lover for as long as he keeps getting it up & reaching for me.

I love fucking a soft, sexy, yielding ass as much as I love getting mine fucked, but the ass I fuck will be a woman's ass every time ...!

 

Yes, this is me. I am crossdressed 24/7. Panties, pantyhose, slips. No desire to be a woman.

 

Nice! You're explanation was spot on. Sounds like you were definitely meant to be a bottom.
I'm very similar to you, but my wife ISN'T into receiving anal (though her boyfriend is trying to convince her to try it with him).
Taking it in the ass can be great, and my wife has no problem with pegging me, even though she doesn't want to receive anal herself.

 

I choose to bottom because I ABOSFUCKINGLUTY LOVE how it feels to be chased and wanted! It also feels good to have a dick deep inside me but the fact that a man gets hard for you and that every thrust of his hard cock is because YOU turn him on is such a mind fuck! It's a ego booster knowing that YOU made him the mad sex animal he is!!! OMG IT EVERY BIT DELICIOUS!!!!

 

Nice! Being "used" by a sexually dominant top guy can be a lot of fun.
I've only been with one guy who was truly sexually dominant (and selfish too). He got whatever he wanted sexually from me (blowjobs/face fucking, my ass, and cumming wherever he wanted in/on me) whenever he wanted. He never sucked my dick (which was ok with me), and very rarely touched my cock at all.
Knowing he was getting whatever he wanted from me also gave a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. As a submissive bottom with men, I'd much rather be "used" by a sexually dominant top guy, than I am worried about my own pleasure. I get plenty of pleasure while pleasing another guy who knows what he wants, and is assertive (maybe even a bit aggressive) in "using" me sexually in whatever way he wants

 

Your response was well thought out and very well written. I feel like I could've written it myself. Like you, I feel being submissive to another guy (especially sexually) just comes naturally.
Some of us have always known we were meant to be bottoms (myself included).
I give you a lot of credit for topping another guy, even though it was only once, and thought it was the most UNNATURAL thing you've ever done.
I've never had the desire to top another man, and don't think I could, no matter how hard another guy tried to "convince" me. It's not who I am, and like you, it would be very UNNATURAL to me.
That's not to say I can't admire and appreciate another guy's nice ass, because I can, but honestly, I'd only be interested in eating a nice clean ass and not much else.
Sucking dick, swallowing cum, getting my own ass fucked, and being "used" by a sexually dominant top guy has, and ALWAYS will be appealing and seem to come NATURALLY to me.
It's nice to see (here on the forum anyways) other guys who openly admit to being sexually submissive to sexually dominant top men.
So... Where's all those sexually dominant bi and gay top guy's? LOL

 

Trans women who top are still WOMEN. Not to mention, transgender women who only top are very RARE. Would you only be interested in a top trans woman, or would you want to make love to her as a woman too?
As a bisexual guy (who's a total bottom with men), I believe a beautiful transgender/transsexual WOMAN who's truly versatile would be a dream cum true and absolutely wonderful. I'd want it to go both ways with oral and anal. I'd still probably want to bottom more, but I certainly wouldn't say no to "topping" HER simply because she has a dick between her legs. That being said, I've never had the desire to top another guy, and honestly don't think I could, as I've ALWAYS been a total bottom with men. "Topping" a transgender/transsexual woman would be an option for sure, because in the end, SHE'S still a woman, even if she has a beautiful cock between her legs