Why do (some) Guys do that?

Do you really think that .....????

 

what? I dont think I need to score. I doubt he would word it as rape, just that he scored, and yes I feel he will NOT talk about hitting your sister in-law if he can avoid it. I mean I could be wrong but I am a guy, so i do know how many of us think.

 

are we making assumtions here... maybe he wasn't going to rape me maybe he just thought I was more into it then I was.. Dana said she was really going off on the guy but that doesn't mean I think he is like innocent or anything I'm just saying just because he was violent towards her doesn't mean I was going to be raped... like he had plans to do it .. I just don't understand why he seemed so nice earlier in the night and then he turned out to be a jerk.. (confused)

 

oh, i was making assumptions, I appologise. I was thinking of date rape and not violent , beat you into submission and kill you rape, but still I was making assumptions.

 

ok thats kind of funny ... I didn't mean to make it sound like that, I just have a hard time thinking the worst... you know what I mean?

 

I do, I just figured you are married and drunk and he was single and horny...just the scenario I was working with. he prolly would have understood NO. I was just using worst case scenario for discussion. well not WORST case, but you know what I mean...

 

ya .. I get you I guess I just didn't want to let my mind wonder in that direction...
I don't like to imagine being raped and I know that if it would have happened it would have been my own fault for getting that drunk.... and I definetly feel lucky to have had a friend there to help

 

it would not have been your fault if you did not willingly participate. there is no law against getting drunk. date rape is a different matter. however after the fact people like me could point out what you coulda done differently, but its not like you went out that night expecting to pass out near a strange and unhonorable man.

 

thanks for saying that... no I really never expected something like this to happen

 

I hope her eye heals quickly.

 

I think as long as there were two of you there he wouldn't ave been successful in raping you...but he could still have had time to beat you up bad. Yer lucky the police were around. I too hope that the wounds heal quickly. It also is very strange that he was acting so cool b4...

 

never trust men.

 

it's called alcohol.

That situation definately sucks though. I hope she heals fast and that you guys never run into him again... though he'd probably pretend he never met you if you did meet again since, as other people mentioned previously, it's not very braggable to have hit a girl for a guy.

 

men are jerks by default...HOWEVER some of us learn respect and many other favorable beviour paterns, so try not to hate us all out of hat.

 

I beat guys who beat girls.

No exceptions.

 

bet you dont.

 

That has got to be pretty much the best three word answer you could have given to that! lol

 

well ..I personally could not hate some one just because... they are a man... I have a son who makes my world go round he is beautiful and he makes me proud to be his mom.. he is only 3 but I hope some day I will be looking at a man who has been taught that love and respect make you feel way better then hating and fearing people...... I am glad that there are men in this world who do not think hitting a women is right... and I also believe that violent behavior like pushing gets us women into a lot of trouble... we need to be careful because there are men who believe if you act that way you deserve whats coming to you, and also not to say anything against Dana cause I love her so much but even she agrees that the pushing and shoving was not right for her to do... but then she didn't lie to the cops about it she was upfront and honest about going to far with trying to get him to leave me alone....in retrospect I am just so damn confused on how quickly it all went down... I remember him kissing me and I was thinking "oh no ... now I've gone and done it I need to get out of here"... so when Dana started to yell at him telling him I was married it was the last thing I expected was to have her get punched for being a little over zealous in her attempts to get him to leave.....All in All I am a grown women who should not be getting that intoxicated in public... and even though she could have handled it better I am so glad that Dana was there... this is just one of those times that you wish you could go back and do it over again... guess I'll just have to settle with a life lesson... and thank you everyone that had something supportive and decent to say

 

guys hit women because they were abused as children... well, thats probably part of it at least..

"ide never hit a woman... but ide shake the shit out of her!" chris rock

 

It's always good to have a freind around to help you out.