Why do I want to watch my wife fuck another guy?

Soapy sounds Japanese in origin----They had Toruko's (Turkish Baths), but Toruko also means Turkey in Japanese, so the Turkish were offended, and the Turkish government forced them to change tha name in the early 90's. They changed the name to Soapu Rando (Soap Land) which is what they are called today.

You have 1 or 2 naked Japanese girls soap you up and wash you off by rubbing their bodies against you. If you pay a little extra, it involves a hand job, if you pay for a Honban (main course) it involves actual intercourse. I used to know the names of several techniques, but I forget many of them. Tawa-arai is where they use their pubic hair as a sponge.

I wonder if the Thais were influenced by the Japanese in coming up with that. There were a lot of Sex Tours from Japan to Thailand.

 

Well, I finally got the ideal opportunity to raise the idea with my gf about another guy fucking her and her response was one of interest. After we talked about it some more she was virtually begging for us to try it!

However, she made it quite clear that she didn’t want me fucking another girl, she said that she was a bit selfish and wanted me all to herself. It mightn’t sound very fair, and it would be nice to fuck another girl, but to be honest it makes me much hornier thinking about another guy fucking her than me fucking another girl. I don’t know how it explain it, but the thought of another guying pounding her gorgeous little body then cumming in her or on her makes me feel so hot! The only problem now is finding the right guy. But at least the ball is rolling

 

Well that is great for you two that you talked about and want the same thing! Wish you luck in finding that extra man to make it happen.

Myself I don't really get the idea of being with someone that has no problem with being with others, but has a problem with the other way around, but it is not my life to judge and whatever works for you is all good.

 

I was a little disappointed with that, but perhaps I can persuade her after she has been with another guy. But if I can't then it's not really a deal breaker for me. It's the thought of another man fucking her that really turns me on.

 

Check out AFF. I had a summer about 5-6 years ago when I was with 4 different couples. It's not my preference to be with couples. My wife and I were having some issues sexually and that was the only reason I found myself on that website. I'm a pretty well hung black guy and there were so many couples trying to hook up with me...its a wonder I was only with 4 of them.

 

I understand that----it is the same with me. I would love to fuck another girl, but on the other hand----her fucking someone else has its own excitement which makes up for that.

 

Just be really, really, 100% certain this is what you want. Or it will fuck up your marriage. My current boyfriend and I are into 3somes and he loves watching another guy fuck me but I don't like watching him fuck other women. It turns me on for sure but I get insanely jealous and very angry. I don't say anything, I keep it inside but it eats at me.

I've been in plenty of 3somes and I've never felt this way before and I think it's because I have real feelings for this guy. It seems to open you up to all kinds of insecurities and possessiveness and worst of all it lets the evil of jealousy into your relationship.

The part that really gets to me is watching him really get into it with another woman. I just expected that it would be obvious that he doesn't enjoy fucking her as much as he does fucking me but I had doubts straight away. If he does like fucking me better it's not obvious.

I always tell him that I like fucking him better and make a big production of it so he knows for sure. He doesn't do the same. Maybe I'm not the great fuck I think I am but I doubt that. Hahaha.

You need to be prepared mentally and emotionally for the sight of your wife, who you love, really getting into it with another guy and really enjoying it. Eagerly and excitedly thrusting her hips and sucking his cock.

I think this kind of thing is risky when you have strong feelings for your partner.

 

While I agree with what you've said, might I suggest that in your situation the foundation for insecurity and uneasiness originated by thinking in terms of being a better or worse fuck than someone else?

As a guy, I would think that from his perspective is that each girl is unique and scratches their own niche in the bedroom, similar to a food craving one week versus another the following.

Unless its explicitly stated so and so is better you can't infer that's an accurate reading of the situation you are in.

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Regardless this doesn't invalidate your emotions, I'm just offerring insight here.

 

It was even worse for me. Quite a few years ago, my wife and I were in a threesome (for about six months) with a close male friend. It was great at first, but it quickly became obvious that she really, Really, REALLY wanted to fuck him more than she wanted to fuck me. (A lot of that was the dangerous feeling of fucking a man other than your husband, while your husband is watching, but I'm also convinced that she thought he was a better lover than me, even though she always denies that.) See, I didn't care if she enjoyed him as much as me, I was just jealous that she obviously enjoyed him MORE than me.

As you say, it almost ended our marriage. We were both in therapy for a couple years before things got sorted. After all these years, we both think that we could handle it now, but I know she'd never consider trying.

Oddly, she is completely OK with me finding other women to fuck. Ironically, now that I'm in my mid-50s and packing a few extra pounds, I'm just not that attractive to sexy women any more, plus I wouldn't even remember how to suggest a relationship like that (and would be too afraid of rejection to ask!)

 

That's my fear exactly - that he'll find another woman he likes fucking more than me. And that he'll think I like fucking some guy more than him. But I try hard to reassure him, although he doesn't seem to care, but he doesn't. He is TOTALLY fine with other guys fucking me and really and I mean really gets off on it.

But I'm thinking when you really love someone 3somes aren't a good idea. At least for me. But they are so fucking hot! Why is life so complicated?

 

Any time a loving couple gets into threesomes, or foursomes, they are treading on thin ice. Always be sure of what you're getting into.

 

Sweetheart, I wish I knew you personally, because I'd love to grab a coffee and talk to you about this for a couple of... days. I love my wife more than life itself and after all the years we've been married, I still lust after her as well. Even if I had the opportunity to fuck a different attractive woman every week, I'd still want to come home and fuck her. She knows it too, which is why (she says) she's OK with me fucking other women. (Me finding other women that want to fuck is a completely different, and more than a bit frustrating, story.)

I wish I were like your husband and didn't have any kind of problem with other guys fucking my wife. I guess I am like your husband in one respect; I absolutely loved watching my best friend fuck my wife cross-eyed. She would so totally lose control that she couldn't hardly wait for the next time he came over to stuff his cock in her. I think the turning point for me was when the two of them getting together stopped being "fucking" and started being more like "making love". That was something I wasn't willing to share with ANY OTHER MAN. After the disastrous way our threesome ended, I think my green-eyed monster isn't ever going to go completely away.

 

That's the problem. I thought I'd defined the parameters pretty well. We had a (short) list of "do's" and "don'ts" that were supposed to be absolute. Number one on the list was she doesn't fuck our other guy (there was only one) unless I'm there too. The first time she asked permission to break that rule, I knew things were starting to spiral out of control.

So, sometimes even thinking you know what you're getting into isn't enough. Sometimes you just have the guess and then ask yourself, "Am I willing to put up with the consequences of guessing wrong?"

I didn't do that and I paid dearly for it. I found out that, of the three of us, the one I was least prepared to deal with was ME.

 

I can understand that. It is probably easier the longer you have been with your partner. The first time my wife had sex with her lover, we had already been together for about 15 years. But it is also important to keep it just about sex.

That first night I knew when they were doing it, because she called my phone to let me know they were at the hotel (this was before we ever thought of letting me listen in). Being that it was our first time, I felt a bit of jealousy, but it was too exciting to get wrapped up in the jealousy part. I sat at home watching a porno of a girl that reminded me of her, and tried to picture what they were doing and experiencing.

When she got home, my son was still awake. Normally she preferred to have him asleep before we had sex, but she was too horney that night, and took me right back to the bedroom. Then she wanted to fuck, and to get right to it without giving me much details which frustrated me. This told me that it had been very good for her, which is why she was so horney. And then she kept calling out his name as we had sex--especially when she came, which on the one hand added to the exictement, but on the other hand all of this made me a bit jealous.

But on the other hand, her pussy was wet with his come, she was stretched open because of his dick, as long as I could keep it only about the sex, it was great.

After that, we slept for a while, and we woke up, I told her how important it was for me to hear the details, and so we re-enacted everything and I could keep it about the sex, and that was very hot.

There was a brief time when she stopped sharing things with me, and I got very jealous and extremely angry. We worked it out and shortly after went out to a nightclub. Some young kid in his early twenties saw her and became immediately infatuated. He even followed us out of the club to see if she was married or what. He complimented me on a hot wife, and was obviously very taken by her, I suddenly got the idea that another partner might keep things on a sexual level with her---in other words, keep her from getting to hung up over her lover. I could tell she was enjoying the attention from this kid. So I suggested he get her phone number, because sometimes she likes to have fun. She went out with him once, dressed in one of the most sexy outfits I had ever seen her in---a very very short skirt, fishnet stockings, thigh-high boots, and a low hung sleeveless blouse without a bra. This kid had been single for several months, and they did go out for about half an hour to a club, where he made out with her, and eve fingered her in a dark corner, but they didn't stay very long and were quickly at his apartment, where they had sex three times. The fact that he was a new lover, and that he was a new lover in addition to one that I was afraid she was becoming attached to, meant that I was not jealous. It turned into a very hot night for all of us.

She decided not to meet him again, because she didn't know enough about him, and she certainly didn't want to get sick ('you know how kids are,' she said). But I knew then that if things were getting to lovey-dovey between her and her lover, I could always suggest to shake it up a bit with someone else. And that also helped with the potential jealousy bit. What has actually happened though is that the routine with her lover has become somewhat mundane, and he is getting older and does not even perform as well. We have talked about adding a new lover into the mix, and she has a guy in his late twenties that always flirts with her at the gym she goes to, and he bought her dinner afterwards a while back, so we have been considering him.

I feel comfortable with that, and the more she enjoys it, the more I enjoy it. even that time a few years ago---I was able to hear a portion of her time with that young kid as she again pretended to charge her phone, and it was very hot. I could tell she enjoyed it immensely (in fact, his neighbors probably knew too), and it was very obvious when she got home that he had too (as well as the fact that he had not had sex for several months). This new kid at the gym she finds very handsome and strong, and I am sure she would love the sex with him. Now whenever we do it, she tells me the things she would do to him. She has been learning more about him, and she is confident that he is not carrying any disease.

Anyway, the trick is to keep it sexual. Jealousy can creep in. Perhaps with the younger kid before, as well as this one, I know they would never become emotionally attached, partly because of age difference, partly because I know my wife. So I would probably be more jealous with her current lover if I let myself get that way----but there was even a time recently where he could not get it up---which angered her, and she came home frustrated and horney---so I have less and less to worry about there too.

 

I talked my wife into a 3some with a male cousin whom I had been exchanging blowjobs w/ since we were both 15. I find it very erotic to watch a woman getting fucked & even more so since it was my wife. I'm not really Bi but I can enjoy sucking cock, especially if a womans watching. For me it's the Humililation that touches me so deep. To get a man hard so he can fuck my wife....... All 3 of us were very comfortable, so it went perfect. I'll never forget her holding his cock as I took him in my mouth. { she told me later that really turned her on.} He laid down on the bed & she came down so we could both suck on his Dick. Having her teasingly say " is it good baby" caused me to burn with desire. We changed positions so I could eat her pussy. To get her ready for him. As they began to make out. She could be a bit shy untill she became very aroused then she was a different woman. My wife had a smokey look in her eyes, I knew she was ready to get her some dick { He is some bigger than me } she swung her leg over him I took his dick in my hand started rubbing it in her slit { this was some yrs ago so no condom } I held her hips as he shoved his dick all the way into her wet pussy. I leaned in spread her cheeks started licking her asshole which drove her crazy, I kept that up untill she came all over his dick. Being between their legs was incredible. I licked all around where his dick was in her, the sight taste & smell of them fucking was the ultimate for me. We moved to where I could get on top of her, he knelt by my head. I was slowly fucking her as I was sucking his cock. I knew he was getting close to cumming. So I picked up the pace so I could suck him off. My wife was talking to me as he came in my mouth. Which triggered one of the most satisfying orgasms of my life. We crashed in the same bed & I woke up to him fucking her again. We did this about 6 - 8 times always had a great time. Some great sex !! She enjoyed having two hot young studs for her pleasure. Other times if there was a guy she wanted to fuck. I would stay home & watch our son as she went on her date, knowing it was about her giving a guy some pussy. I wanted to know all about what she did with him. I would feel so close to her.

 

because you're human.

 

I'm kind of interested in doing this with my lady, but it's just a fantasy for now. I haven't shared it with her, but she's into pleasing me and would probably do it if I wanted to. She's pretty sexual and I'm sure wouldn't have a problem attracting interested parties. Whether she wants to do it for herself so to speak I don't know. We have kind of joked about a threesome with another girl and but I got the impression she was up for that ;-)

BTW what do you guys think about sucking vs fucking? Although most people of think of fucking as the ultimate item, the most taboo, in some ways I think I could handle that more than sucking, because it would be about her getting stimulated and pleasure. I think of doggie where I could watch her face (and she could blow me) while the guy is just kind of anonymously filling (get it) his role in the back. Whereas sucking means she is focusing on the other guy's pleasure and if she really gets into it (as she does with me) that would seem to say she really likes him and his cock. It's more intimate in a way. What do you guys think?

 

I have the same fantasy. I actually have my own post similar in this nature going right now.

My fantasy involves the guy being well hung too. I'm not sure why this is, it could be the inadequate part, but again, I know I satisfy her because I have to work into her slowly and some positions really hurt her if I go all the way in.

With that being said, watching a huge cock make her pussy drip really gets me going

 

I have the same fantasy too, watching my girl being fucked by a big cock, even though I do have a big cock myself. Maybe it's because we want to re-live what we see in porn.

Having a guy do her from behind doggy style while she sucks me off would be incredibly hot!

 

Exactly the same situation for me. My wife cannot stand the thought of watching me with someone else but she is quite fine with me and another guy on her. She makes a big deal of letting me know I am number one and the other guy is just a "stunt cock" or "playtoy". She really likes getting dped and having two loads shot in her mouth and all the other attention.