I'm a 23 year old woman who is fairly inexperienced when it comes to sex. I just lost my virginity a few months ago and that was the last time I've had sex since this past weekend. I hooked up with a guy over the weekend and everything was going great until we went to actually have sex. As always, it started off as us watching Netflix and then he asked if he could kiss me. So we start making out and things are starting to get hot and heavy so he starts taking my clothes off. I've never been eaten out before so I was kinda nervous but he was very kind and understanding. So he does his thing and my whole body was shaking.At one point I had to tell him to stop because my vagina got so sensitive that he was hurting me. Long story short, I came and want to return the favor so I starting sucking his dick. Eventually he wants to fuck so we go to his room to do it on his bed. He puts the condom on and gets on top of me and puts his dick in me and I instantly say "ow!" and he pulls out. I was really embarrassed and apologized a bunch of times. But again he was very kind and gentle and said it was okay. So then he just ate me out again. And we cuddled after. So I guess what I'm asking is could is be possible that him eating me out and making me cum made my vagina more sensitive and caused it to hurt when he put his dick in me? Because even the first time I had sex I didn't hurt that much and the pain was over after a few seconds.
You might need to relax more you might need lots of foreplay he needs to be gentle it seems that you are on edge. I'm sure you will be fine
Was he rough when he did cunnilingus on you (sucking hard, nibbling hard)? Given your admitted inexperience, you just may be overly sensitive in your vulva area, especially post-orgasm. Also, after you orgasmed from him licking you the first time, it’s possible that your clit was hypersensitive to the point of not wanting vaginal penetration (the in and out motion of intercourse puts a lot of push/pull near the clitoris). A girlfriend I had (I was 19, she was 21) always orgasmed from oral. But after she orgasmed, I couldn’t go near her crotch for at least 10 minutes because she was too sensitive. I am curious, where exactly did it hurt? And was it really pain? Or discomfort? Did it hurt after you orgasmed, or just when he tried to enter you? And was there any discomfort when he performed cunnilingus on you the second title?
I’m not going to add much here, except to say let your body settle in to sex. It’s all new right now. It would be better to get some advise from other women around your age. You also may want to use some lube for a while.
It sounds like you had an orgasm and your vagina was more sensitive after that. That's very common. Is It Normal To Be Super Sensitive After An Orgasm? Panama Jack has good advice. Use lube go slow.
It sounds like this was only the second time you were penetrated by a penis. Is it possible that this guy is just bigger then the first guy and you need to grow accustomed to the size?
Lubrication. Use a lot of lubrication. After being stimulated to orgasm your vagina was probably swollen, sensitive, and maybe too dry. I know it sounds silly that after an orgasm your vagina could be dry. It can happen. Especially if the condom he used was not lubricated. Get some quality water based lubrication. Stay away from drug store offerings. Adult book stores usually carry high quality lube or but it online. Try again, go slow, let you partner please you, and relax. Then when you have orgasmed add the lube to both inside the condom before "You" put it on him and inside you. Have him insert his penis very slowly so you can adjust to him before he begins to move in and out. If you feel some pain have him back out and add some more lube right on the condom. Try again with his insertion slowly. Take a deep breath and as he enters and let it out. Hopefully once he is seated fully inside you there will be no pain, just pleasure. If none of this works see a doctor. Dyspareunia is the medical term for vaginal pain that occurs during intercourse. A doctor can perform a pelvic exam to find out if abnormalities, infections, or other problems with the pelvis or vagina could be causing the pain.
