Why can't I just like playing tie up ??!!

Will do. First however, is her ass. 55 years old and still a virgin back there. Well, a couple of fingers went in (and I have big hands) but no toys and def no cock yet. She wants that first. Slow but sure...

 

What's stopping you?

 

Her. Very nervous about it. Afraid of it hurting. She's willing to try a starter set of toys so we're going that route. She gets so horny being tongued and played with back there and she likes to watch porn of men and women getting ass fucked but she's real afraid of it hurting too much. I guess she had a man at some point that kept trying to force it and now it's both a turn on and a turn off. She takes two fingers well and almost all the way in with a lot of lube but is skittish of toys and real worried about a hard cock. Someday I'll leave a few hard squirts of swimmers back there but it will take time. Her girlfriend who loves it is pushing her to let me do it there. Not sure if that's a good thing or not.

 

Can't be bad. Just like going off the diving board for the first time. Close your eyes and jump! Then you'll realize it wasn't all that bad and can't understand what took you so long to do it.

 

My wife, at first, wanted nothing to do with anal sex. But when she did open up to the idea, we started with of course plenty of lube (not spit or saliva) and used a vibrating bullet/egg. Something to get her relaxed. Then she went to a small, 1/2"dia x 4" long vibrating anal dildo. After that a 1"dia x 6" long vibrator.

When it came time to me penetrating her, she placed a vibrator on her clit and I started to slowly slide in (doggy style). Oddly enough, it was her that leaned back pretty aggressively to get the rest of me inside her. Took me by complete surprise and I nearly lost my load in the moment!

Lube, relaxation and time helped her get into it. Now days she wants me in her ass most sex sessions. Not all the time, but definitely a majority of the times we have sex.

 

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Yes! Every time we have anal sex my wife moans about how much she loves it! 20 years ago was a solid "no way".

I think she likes it more when tied up though. When I have her bound she is essentially begging for it. That's when it gets real fun because I can tease the hell out of her and there's nothing she can do but beg and squirm.

 

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Call me silly but I find just being tied up (or restrained) by itself boring. I greatly prefer action. Tease me, spank me, make me want it so I'm begging. That's how to get me hot.
It's BDSM and I need all four.

 

Being tied up or restrained is usually accompanied by something else such as being blind folded and something dragged across the body like a flogger or ice play for example .

 

Mmmmm. Lovely.

 

I noticed my wife, then gf liked me pinning her arms back in missionary when she was about to orgasm. After we married she often wanted to be tied to the headboard like that, she was afraid to expose her pleasure of being restrained before we married. So then I asked who she was with when she was first restrained. Probably should have left well enough alone. I guess she had gone too far to resist but her first was pushed in after she told him she wasn’t ready. Apparently she was since the session continued that afternoon and again later that evening.
He held her arms back when he first entered her, she said she orgasmed after a minute or two and he did as well. She said she didn’t feel taken advantage of since she had held his penis against her pussy before and this time was too much intensity to resist.
She told me that she hardly had piv orgasms unless she pictured her first guy pinning her arms back, then she just started asking for it. Soon she could orgasm with anyone who could last a bit.