Marcie asked me why i let people push me around and make the plans and such things. like it's a disease. i'll not participate in anything that makes me unhappy. and thus far i've always managed to get my way. i'm wondering what about her life she thinks is so wonderful and what about mine is so offensive to her. i think she's lacking in understanding of subtlety. i'm not going to fight every single battle that comes my way. if someone puts forth a plan and it sounds good to me, why am i supposed to automatically gumm up the works with some different plan of my own? i leave that sort of thing to the people who are good at it, it's efficient. why does she think that it's a person's job to control their partner? dave's perfectly capable of running his life, i'm not his babysitter or his boss. in fact, he's a natural leader. i'm not, therefore it's all fine with me. on those rare occaisions when i don't like the plans, i'll put in my two-cents worth. but like i said, i always get my way. maybe i'm just sneaky.