Why are there so many rules for Dating?

I agree with soul, I would rather just hang out casually without any pressure. Traditional dates always felt forced and phony to me.

 

^ well there's never really "without any pressure," even when hanging out casually with someone you're interested in. but yeah, just doing something fun is way better than the standard dinner and a movie.

 

There are rules?

 

There's definitely a rule that if you get a girl's number and you wait too long to call, she's going to be pissed

 

When my marriage ended, I jumped back into the dating pool.

Social media, texting, video chat, online dating, etc didn't exist to like it did back then (not to the extent that it is now). I entered the dating scene as a 45+ year old, divorced, single parent.

I learned a lot during that first few years of dating.
Texting is definetly used more than actual calling/video chat.

My advice:
*BE YOURSELF!* If someone can't handle you--they aren't for you!
BE HONEST-if you aren't feeling it; tell the person. Ghosting someone sucks!
BE CLEAR WITH YOUR INTENTIONS-Looking for a FWB, hanging out, long term---know what you want before you ask for the date.

Through those few years, I met some nice guys; some assholes. I was able to figure out what I wanted...what I was willing to accept.

After kissing a lot of frogs, I met a good guy in July and we have been exclusive since.

Have fun, be respectful of yourself and the other person!

 

I really enjoyed having dinner with you last night. We must hook up again. I am free to pick you up from home on 4th December 2028. Do you already have anything in the diary for that evening.

 

I've never followed any of these rules, and have done exactly what I wanted, and done well

 

I want dinner.

 

I agree, feels like getting ready for a HS Prom. lol
Much better to just meet for a bit and see where it goes. To hell with the "rules".

 

You going "Dutch?" I think they should on a first date if you dine out.

 

I can pay for myself, of course.

 

Was thinking the same thing.

I've been single and out of it for so long.

 

Well, what do you know, neither am I. I always say that my dog is twice as romantic (and cute) as me.

 

I never followed any of those rules. Just act naturally and be yourself.

 

I tire of these games... I'm too old now to even remember how I played them in my twenties.

At this point, I've had so many disappointments in the dating scene and in my love life, that if you don't call/text, who gives a d*ck. There's the door, don't let it hit your ass on the way out.

 

In this day and age of technology and the social media culture there has to be rules to beat and stay ahead of the competition.

If one maintains a fundamentally sound and good set of rules of dating without social media, one can easily eliminate any competition and win the heart and mind of the lady one seeks.