Nah... That guy has some cartoon chick as his avatar... He's the one with the thread asking who we should bully.
There is a site that i feel is a great place to start. It's called lifeasmen.home.blog. Go to the lifestyle section and the guy who wrote it posted a few of his ideas on how a man should be and things to follow to be a great man. There is also a contact page so you could send him an email and ask him to post something more direct to your question. The page is new and he updated his blog post today so i know he'd respond. I read it myself, obviously, and nearly follow it to the letter and it has helped so much.
Hard to find a person of influence. Seems like a very lonely path. Even our world leaders are just kids in adult bodies.
I agree with a lot if what's been said and the rest of it Is just smack talk. You've got a long way to go mate dont rush your life. At 42 Im still working on myself. Don't be too hard on yourself.