Who is the more sexually adventurous ?

Who has the least hangups and is more adventurous, You or your partner? Do you meet each others needs and desires? What have you discovered from each other and has it improved your happiness?

 

Who said that in a relationship, sex should be adventurous. It is love between two people and that is why it is called love making and not let’s have a sex adventure. Desire comes from within, and you cannot find desire down there, and through polite communication and respect to each other it can be achieved. It is not an adventure, love making is to keep the relationship intact and have happiness for both.

 

One finds one's own level of adventurism by natural progression. I think my wife would agree to the suggestion that I am more adventurous than her, however, there have been many occasions where she has surprised me with her actions to meets like "MFM" or swinging or even outright exhibitionism on nudist beaches. (I could go on)

 

I am definitely the more “adventurous”. … Vanilla has never been my favorite flavor.
Fortunately my wife tolerates, and even sometimes enjoys my (very soft) kinks.
Over time, I have learned that there are some no-nos (and “no” definitely means “no”), however …”nothing ventured, nothing gained”.

 

She started out slow, but when she came around, made up for lost time. She was more of a flirt and exhibitionist in public. She liked pushing people's button. especially girls she hung out with, to see their reactions.

 

Who cares

 

Sounds like my house except for the part on the nudist beach .

 

I’m the most adventurous without doubt
She was reserved when we first started dating. It took me pursuing her for a date for over two weeks and then it took almost a month of dating several times a week to hit the home run. But as I was seeking a partner in life sex was not the only factor in what I was looking for. Our sex life is good for the most part; would I like more? What guy wouldn’t? She’s opened up and has been adventurous numerous times but she has boundaries. Like stated above, no means no, it doesn’t mean I quit asking for it though!
The relationship with my wife and I is not based on sex but on mutual love and respect for each other. Sex is just the gravy on the biscuit.

 

We are a senior couple and we have always had sexual discussions daily. That said, I am more sexually adventurous. My wife has always known I am a nudist. So, after we retired I introduced her to clothing optional camping and she immediately embraced it. This opened “her” adventurous side. We now are a Lifestyle couple.

 

@Panama Jack, bravo for you Sir! I’ve been a nudist for years and have only got her to embrace it in the last year or so. It seems that once we put the pool in skinny dipping and nude sunbathing became ok as long as it was in the back yard!

 

It truly is a relationship journey of love for one another. We do lead an adventurous life in other aspects of our life. We do everything together, and I mean everything! When we play with others, it is to enhance our sex life… not replace it.
It takes time to develop what we have and you and your wife can do it as well. Start by inviting a “new couple”(not old friends) to your pool and let them know it will be a nude swim/cook out. We are very comfortable around nude couples and body shape and size are unimportant to us. We are nonjudgmental.

 

After Hubby convinced me to open up and seduce his friend We are all 3 doing Great!

 

Alice, My wife and I have a attitude that “if our friends want to play” we will. We are not into a random pick up. Our friend list has changed over the years. Most of them are Lifestyler’s that embrace nude life.

 

I would say we would both rate as 10 out of 10 for being sexually adventurous. We both love trying new things and there's very little now we haven't done together including quite extreme stuff. Experimenting and being adventurous together always makes us happy. To accommodate where we don't quite meet others needs and desires we allow each other unlimited fun, sometimes away from each other, but as her additional needs mostly centre around bisexuality additional fun is often sharing the company of another lady, although I have my desires too. Being nudists often leads to fun with friends anyway and neither of us are shy when showing we admire someone which often leads to fun.

 

I don't think that we were really what you would call swingers.
I did a couple guys to just explore.
After we moved back home I became very close with a friend of hubby's and myself. His wife told me that she didn't enjoy sex and wished that Bill could find someone to take care of him.
With that she patted my leg and winked at me!

 

We don’t consider ourselves swingers. We are not hitting the clubs every weekend searching for hook ups. It’s more about quality friendships with like minded couples.

 

I’m definitely more adventurous. My wife was pretty vanilla in bed at first (great sex but nothing really out there). I eventually got her to be more open to new things. Those were good times.

Now NOTHING!

 

We've been together over 30 years and still Make love/Play 3 or 4 times a week. I'm still not as comfortable talking about Sex openly with Hubby. I'm not sure why, It's just the way I am I guess. Over the years he has always taken the lead when it comes to introducing new things in the bedroom and I like it that way. It is me that usually initiates the lovemaking though. He would still want to have Sex every day & several times at that! By letting me initiate it, he doesn't feel rejected If I say I am too tired.
So to sum up lol. He is definitely more adventurous in suggestions at least.

 

In our younger days, my wife was definitely more adventurous, having sex with others and wanting to try new things. In our 40's, I became the more adventurous one. Now there isn't much adventure at all.

 

My partner is most definitely the more adventurous and passionate one. I can honestly say everything I learned about sex I learned from her. She is the first to surrender to play!