Who has found TRUE love??

My condolences, my friend. No platitudes or reassurances here. I know how horrid it feels, and know that's the last thing you want to hear.

I hope things ease for you soon, and I hope that you find the one who won't hurt you.

 

I think everyone who thinks they're in love will say they have. I think "true" love is a bullshit term anyway. I've thought I was in love many times, I've been in love twice. But every one of those times, I would've told you I found my true love. I now hate that term because I know only time will tell if I have actually found "true" love or if it just wasn't meant to be. Situations change, people change, and while it would suck complete ass if I lost my love of 3 years, I'd move on, get over him, and find love anew. I'm sorry I don't live in the fairytale world of "true loves" and "soulmates", but that world set me up and left me with a lot more heartbreak than I ever want to experience again. And even though my world would temporarily end should my relationship status change negatively, I'd much rather accept that it's always a possibility and just enjoy what I've got while I've got it, then expect a lifelong commitment. We have all of life to decide that.

 

I don't know that you can actually "find" true love since love is an action not a feeling. That being said My sig o and I have been together over 7 years and we are happier, more intimate, and closer than we've ever been. And the sex.......we have explored things in this last year that has turned our sex life upside down.

 

I have. It took me 23 years to do it but.. i did.
We're getting married on January next year and i can't wait to share my life with him.
He's perfect and he's the best man on earth. Im sorry for you gals, but he's taken.
jk! i love him so muchhhh

 

That's a relatively short time compared to a lot of people's search.

 

Well, I think me and mine are done, sadly enough. The ball's in her court, but I'm not holding my breath. She got scared, pulled back and has gotten angry, bitter, spiteful and cruel. I love her, and I hope she snaps out of it, before we both get very hurt.

 

My sympathies. Good luck with all. Remember to keep and open mind and do not forget all the possible beginnings. Hopefully she'll come around, but I wish you the best either way.

 

that's probably the most helpful thing anyone's said to me about the situation. Seems like everybody else has an opinion, whether I asked for it or not.

thanks.

My emotional investment in this has really left me emotionally burnt out and feeling all kinds of screwed up.
(shrugs)

I've been sleeping too much, not eating enough, and just kind of wandering about in a daze. I think I just need to be numb for a while..better numb than angry, though. that's when people do stupid shit.

 

Eh, my girlfriend's foot got numb sitting outside a concert and when she tried to stand, it stand to go inside, it broke.

You really can't force anything, but make sure not to wallow too much, ya know?
Don't forget the small happiness just because the big happiness is missing right now.


And anger is fine - it's rage that's bad.
For now, just force yourself to eat now and then when your appetite won't work, and keep in mind that the sadness and the pain is good in the end. Builds character and allows for the happiness to exist.

 

I'm tired of building character. (wry laugh)

Yeah, I'm trying not to wallow. I'm going back to college in the fall, and trying to get my life in order. Just treat shit like it's done. Maybe she'll make up her mind, maybe she won't, but...I had hopes for this one. (shrugs) Nothing I can do but just go on.

 

Yup, seems like you have everything set. Again, good luck, and allow yourself to feel a moment of pride for a second, you seem to be handling it as best as you can.

 

I survive. It's what I do.
Thanks.

 

I don't know if I have. And I think that's the point. You are not able to know it for sure but when you believe in it - that's the true love. When you believe you have found someone to spend the rest of your life..
And I believe I have found him.

 

I've found the perfect girl to fall in love with, she loves me, and I've told her that I want to love her but I need some more time. But reading some of the posts here makes me happy for all you and it reminds me of how strong love is. thanks guys!

 

I HAVE. ITS AWSOME!

i thought realizing you could die for someone would be depressing, but really it makes you realize what is perfect and true in your life. we are honest, pure, and the best combination of people known to man!

 

i think i might have. i've known this guy for 4 years. i never in a million years would have thought i would have a chance with him. we dated and then we broke up because he felt bad for dating me when he wasnt completly over his last girlfriend. which i understood. but we kept talking. i had stuff on my mind i thought he should've known while we were dating. like i told him i wish he had been my first. and that i loved him...i had said it to two other people before him. a guy and a girl. but i guess it wa just different this time. and i told him that it scared me to think that i might love him because that meant he could break my heart.

we're going to get back together sooon because after i said that he told me to stay single until the next time we could hang out and he kept hinting that he wanted me back and he didnt care about whatshername.

i know im only 14(bout to be 15) but the reason i know im in love is because i know i'd love him weather he were my friend or more than that. and i cant stop thinking about him. i can drink or smoke all i want but i still think about him. and even though i think he may have given up on me i dont care if he's with someone else as long as he's happy. if he is with someone else i think i could wait.

 

i have. :]
i've found it all
in one amazing guy.
:]

 

I don't know what you mean by TRUE love, if its finding a soulmate one person who was made for you? then I really don't believe in that, there are hundreds of people one could love and be perfectly happy with for life.