where you whipped/spanked as a kid?

I think kids need to be smacked, honestly.

 

uh, okay...

 

Well I was smacked quite a lot and I turned out okay.

 

Hmmm.

 

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Once. Pretty shocking. I don't remember what I did. I think it was my whole Oedipal period of naughtiness: circa 7 y.o.

But my mother, unfortunately, was an adherent to the constant criticism style of parenting.

Here she was: a woman; trying to single-handedly make a man out of the boy.

 

hell yeah, as the youngest of 5 kids I was the one who actually made my dad break his leather belt at 14! after that I started running away and you dont want to know what other kinds of things I got into.

Or maybe you do. I was so resentful that it pushed me to behave badly out of anger.

 

My one case was a flip flop in the tata.

 

My second grade teacher got on me worse than that. She was fierce

 

I think that certain people need to be smacked, yet I have no right to smack them... or do I?

 

What difference does it make? Hitting is hitting, regardless.
i.e. A grown man beating his wife vs. Parents beating their kids.
It's all unnecessary hitting ( aka. abuse ).
Abuse is abuse, it doesn't matter how you look at it.
So, beating your kids in public is "acceptable", then why don't husbands beat their wives in public?
Ooh, ooh! I know why: because it's considered domestic abuse.
But beating your kids is okay... ... I don't think so.
What about people beating their dogs and other pets?
Why should kids be left out of what is right and what is justice.
Abuse is abuse and that is all there is to it.
Givin' your kids a whuppin' because they are crying isn't going to make them stop crying. There are others things to do, without making your kids turn spoiled. Some people shouldn't allowed to reproduce and others... need to take a practical approach to certain things. Just because YOUR daddy beat the living shit out of you for whatever reason... doesn't give YOU the right to beat YOUR kids for whatever reason.

Here's a tidbit. Quit taking your kids to the grocery store with you. The beatings usually all take place in the goddamn cereal aisle.

 

No, take your kids to the grocery store. And when they have fits, ignore it, dont feed into it. And I dont think anyone should be 'beat'. But sometimes, kids need a smack.

 

I don't think "smacking" your kids is really any different then beating just because it not hard.. I was beat daily, just for talking.. sometimes it was a slap in the face others it was a nice leather belt, regardless, I was a kid and didn't no any better, kids are innocent they have to learn by your actions...

 

:cheers2:

 

You know I agree with you, shroom. I may come off a little harsh with the 'smack talk' . But.... well I just believe in spankings is all. Not all the time. But they have their place.

 

Of course, let them cry and ignore, sure. You could do that, too.
But you can also leave them at home with someone to watch them, too.
It's a win-win situation, either way, I just think certain measures should be taken.
I don't think anyone needs to be smacked.
If the kids are crying and won't go to bed... give them some benadryl.
In fact, give them bendaryl whenever they're wrecking havoc.
I'd rather have my kids grow up wanting to feel good all the time, instead of having only memories of beatings with railroad spikes and power tools.

 

oh no I mean people can do with their kids what they want, my parents were just mean, I'm not saying people who spank their kids are mean or bad parents, I was just stating my thoughts in general...I can't even say because I don't have kids...

 

They will learn by your inactions too. I believe kids need corrective action here and there. no beatings just a smack on the bum hard enough to get their attention.

 

uhhh...i feel like....you are working with extreme scenarios only, and there no balance. hahaha... ehhh.....yikesss

 

like a dog