Where Do You Meet Men In Their 20S?

I meet them on Myspace.

 

Hippy festivals such as Rainbow, Burning Man if you are America. What about a course at night school? Are there any Yahoo groups for alternative gatherings for America like we have in Australia?

 

Are you suggesting that I should message ones I am not attracted to? Lol, that's not a recipe for disaster or anything... I've dated super nice guys that don't do much for me physically and I've dated pretty, sexy guys that are pieces of shit. I'm just looking for a happy medium here. Don't think that's being too unreasonable.

Also, meat market goes both ways. I am just as uncomfortable putting myself up on the block as I am "shopping" for my next relationship. That was the point I was trying to make, and the way you've clipped my post conveniently cuts that out. My point was that it takes more than looks for me to know if I'm attracted to someone, and you can write anything in a profile. With some clever marketing, a guy could write himself up as a driven individual that emphasizes quality and ambition, when really he's just an intolerant, pushy and entitled asshole. When you meet someone, usually you can get a whiff of that before you've become too involved in conversation.

 

Well, you complain its a meat market, but when it comes to messaging them, you do the exact same thing, you'll only message the ones that look good on the eye

And here comes the part where you back track and claim, no you dont go by their appearance first, you go through their whole profile, try find common interests blah blah blah....only really so you dont come off sounding shallow in this context now.

But you'll still continue to message the ones, start the little fanatsy....based on their physical appearnce first

As for the good looking ones being pieces of shit. A curious difference between the sexes, the guys will get angry after a reaction, call the girl a bitch if shes not nice to them...but the girls will get angry before he even opens his mouth....which to them actually comes off making you look more boyish as you are aggressive

It is as simple as the short hair, especially with the hot guys, short hair, you are already more outspoken than most , combined with you getting instantly angry at them before they even open their mouth...does come off making you look lesbo ...well when they are younger at least, closer to you age , so they wont bite ......whereas if older, they've worked out its the opposite and either get you angry to try take advantage or wont bite because angry gets you horny and you are going to be too much noise

I know its stupid, but it is the way it is

Online dating is useless unless you are actually looking for a companion, pretty much free of hormones, you are going to talk for months, then meet up, a year after, settle in the suburbs

In real life, if you are really looking for that one last hot fling, before aforementioned settling down and rotting. They want girly and feminine, no bruises to their sensitive male egos.

Conform or dont get laid....or find a nice girl yourself that loves the 5 finger death punch

 

So right off the bat you've assumed two things that I'm going to correct you on: first that I've actually sent messages (I said I WOULD in the beginning of a hypothetical statement- sorry if that wasn't clear), and second that I'm only complaining for myself that it's a meat market. I'm complaining for everyone. It's no more fair that I'm basing my judgement off of looks than it is for them to do it to me. My reluctance to get involved is due to this. Not because I think I'm somehow above my biological urges (I may be a romantic but I'm more realistic than that), which are the same as everyone else's, but because I can't be bothered- there's just not enough information. I got a profile to see what was out there and to see what happened. And this is what has happened. I have drawn these conclusions. I'm probably deleting my profile soon anyway.

Also, how do they know I'm angry? I think I've only responded to a handful of messages, mostly early on when I was young and naive and thought that you could actually get away with "just talking." Which you can't by the way. Just saying. Like ever. Even if you strictly say "I only want people with a certain percentage match to message me, serious inquiries only, serious relationship wanted," someone will try to get you to skypterbate.

I agree that I'm probably not the demographic that has the most success with online dating. Which is why I do not take it seriously. It's become a curiosity at this point.

I'm not even getting into the short hair bullshit. You just sound like an old man telling me I look like a boy and I'll never find a husband. *yawn*

 

well, guys know that the requirement list is bullshit anyway. 90% of women's profiles are centered around making a list of who may or may not message them, yet if you meet every requirement given and send them a message, they never ever respond. so i assume that they're only actually responding to people who are pretty much the opposite of what they say they require.

 

That's so easy....just go to college.

 

It is true though, on this instance anyway, the short hair thing, I am just reporting how, yeah, pretty much all of them think, dont shoot the messenger

And no, not just finding a husband, but one night stands as well. Extremely rare is the girl that can actually pull off short hair, or more precisely looks more feminine with short hair. Definitely a no no if a girl has no curves, they will just look like a boy. Even if they have big boobs and a latino backside, the short hair will make everything disproportionate and make them look frumpier.

As for angry, was talking about IRL, not online. Despite all the improvements in womens lib over the last half century. When it comes to a wife, most of them will want a girl that needs them, isnt going to slut around, too girly too function, but be able to function in the kitchen....then 5 to 7 years later theyll complain the wife is all that.

Thats all about the sensitive little male ego, not about your right to get a construction job if you want. Again, dont shoot the messenger

 

Hahaha thank you! Maybe i just approach it the wrong way. I'm also not the most stereotypical attractive girl and i'm probably approaching guys way out of my league lol

 

I went to college.
I also went to university.
Most of that time was spent dating my ex.

 

Maybe your problem is that you're looking for guys in their 20s. In my experience, they're mostly immature as hell and only want sex. I still think that online is the best place to find a mate. You can weed out the guys who only want sex easily. You talk to them for a week or so and if they get tired of talking to you without meeting to "hook up", then they're duds. If they still want to get to know you, then the chances are better that they're not morons. Then you only meet up with the guys who are promising and already kind of know you. You're more comfortable and don't waste your time and fuck with guys who don't care about you.

 

There are some in european refugee centres

 

And ISIL have an over supply of 20 something guys, for at least another 6months or so anyway