Where’s all the women that like bisexual men

It’s hard to find a woman that wants a bi guy. I don’t even tell them anymore. When I do they don’t want anything to do with me.

 

I had to click and check this out.
THe title just reminded me of a bit that Gene Wilder and Cleavon Little did in Blazing Saddles

 

This might be worth a shot:

Meet a woman without sharing, "I'm bi!"

After (and IF, obviously) your relationship becomes sexual, invite a bi FB over. Don't mention the bi.

Let a friendship develop between you two as a couple and him as an individual.

At some point he flirts with her. You get into it. She gets into it. It becomes a threesome, orgasms all around!

She'll welcome your bisexuality.

It's a slow process, but many things are. Don't try to rush it, you're playing the long game. You'll need to react in realtime to the unexpected, so always pay attention. I presented it here like it's easy-to-follow steps. It's not. But something in that vein could well work.

I have seen many a gal who likes bi guys. That leads me to suspect your delivery is faulty. Only tell (or demonstrate, as above) at an opportune time. A lot of guys reveal too much too soon, which is off-putting.

Good luck, Grasshopper.

 

Articles and surveys show 60-66% of women want nothing to do with bi guys,or even guys who even experimented! In marriages where the guy later comes out,1/3 end right away and another 1/3 within 2 years per Dr. Joe Korte.
They didn't specify if that was only men who were bi, are also included men who declared they were really gay? Those are some sad & horrifying numbers!

It's looking up for the current generation where about 21% of late teens, early 20's said they were 'not straight' in various forms.

I think a big fear for women in the past was to be abandoned for another man and be stuck alone raising kids? And the HIV/ AIDS epidemic villified bi / secretly gay guys for transmission to women.

The reality, I think, is most bi men would never leave their wives if they accepted them & still had sex with them. & only them. No numbers were given of the third of women accepting of bi male partners, as to how many were ok with the guy having sex with other guys, either alone, or together as a couple, vs requiring monogamy?

 

I can relate to Suburbanray’s post. I got into a shit storm when my wife found out I was bisexual. If she had caught me cheating on her in real life, our marriage would have been toast. Interrestingly not because of me being with a man but because of the STD issue. She is totally terrorized by it. Luckily I was “only” chatting with a man. It was however very erotic and explicitely gay. She had no clue before and it took her a while to accept my homosexual side. I can easily believe that not so many women would accept to share their husband with another man.

 

I've not been a fan of statistics since my college stat courses. They can be used to prove just about anything for anyone with an agenda.

Were these meta studies of research? If so, how old might some of their studies be? And from where? And was the methodology sound? And so on.

I maintain that more women are, than are not, open to bisexual men.

I further maintain that any rejection that comes from a man's revelation of his bisexuality results more from how he did it than from the bisexuality itself.

So much depends on the delivery.

And always remember, especially regarding activities that might be considered outside the norm, that it's the failures that garner attention. It's the fuckups that make the news, in other words. People quietly enjoying their successes do not reach courtrooms or therapist's offices or the headlines.

People tend to self-sort, so it's entirely possible that my own observations are skewed. Perhaps my life has been a perfect storm of the erotic. But I'll still say most women (at least in my observations) like bisexual men.

 

(From another thread)

YES!!!

 

Women that accept a bisexual man and are over the age of 40 are like unicorns, few and far between. I would think far more women in their 20's-30's now a days may be more accepting. A woman doesn't want their man having sex with others as they see that person as a threat whether a man or a woman. Many married men connect with other married men wanting to explore mutual oral sex with each other. These men don't consider it cheating, it's just a blowjob in their minds. However, the woman would say can I run around sucking other guys cocks too? Men and women are wired differently so it's very understandable why women would not want any interest in a bisexual man. My first wife would have never accepted the fact that I was sucking other married guys cocks and allowing them to suck mine. However, my present wife is perfectly fine with it. She does not see him as a threat, she sees him as a friendly ally.

 

That is one of the reasons my range is limited, very limited. There has only been one person . First, old gay friend, then someone we knew close, which was only one bj encounter and my present buddy who is in the same boat as I am, but our availability is limited to being seasonal, rather than weekly /whatever. My wife knows that Im just in it for the sex fun. Fear for anyone should be HIV/Aids, etc. We really don't know about any other women and their attitude, except they all /most seem to be done with sex. Some of the husbands look defeated and a few seem vibrant ans vigorous. Gotta play it by ear..

 

I've mentioned this before...before my wife and I got married I told her I had a sexual experience with a guy. Telling her was a scary experience as I didn't know how she would react. I'm so glad I told her because we fantasize a lot about a guy joining us. I'm sure that previous woman in my life would have freaked out about it if I had told them so I never did. I don't know if my wife and I will ever have someone join us but it sure is nice to dream about with her.

 

My wife couldn't be happier that I have a friend that could help out. She is very open minded and encouraging in seeing that I get the physical need taken care of. I don't run around or even think about cheating and accept the alternative. I certainly would like to enjoy more, but since I don't like most guys, its tough. If I was back in the garment industry, I would be tripping over opportunities. My wife was acceptable and believes its a good solution for taking care of our needs. My buddys wife feels the same. A female bartender friend also felt the same.

 

For anyone who's looking for those bi-lovin' gals:

If you live near a major metro area, look for any sort of sex-positive center. Google them, ask at adult shops (especially those that are women run), or peruse your weekly alternative paper (probably just online these days).

With any luck you still have such a group. (Covid smacked the shit out of that business model.)

Or look online for such groups. Local is better because you could attend meetups, workshops, parties and the like. You'll find 'em there.

Or, as Suburbanray listed above, try online personals. Add Adult Friend Finder if he didn't mention that one.

 

I’m married 16 years I’m 55 and I enjoy seeing any directed beautiful penis turns me on and my wife knows it turns me on. She told me if I came out and said I was bisexual or gay. She would be OK with it and she let me still live with her and the kids, and she wouldn’t have a problem with it , Been with a man I’m not attracted to men, but when I see you a big dick, it gets me hot, First to play with a toy and she’d watch me and she said I would turn her on and then we were in therapy and she said it didn’t turn her on and that’s not what she wanted, but she kept changing her story so I don’t know

 

I also believe that the vast majority of straight women over 30, certainly at least 95%, would say no to dating a bi guy if they knew. I've been on hip and other forums for a long time, and can safely say that the vast majority of bi men on them are, first of all, married, and second of all hiding their oral sex with men from their wives in fear of their wives leaving them if they found out. The wives that are okay with it are rare. And everybody says those guys are very fortunate, something that we can all agree with for sure.

Having said that, I ended up being kind of one of those fortunate guys, with a woman I was dating in 2016. Before we had sex, I felt that I needed to tell her about my bisexual past, and with her many questions, ended up giving her all the details of all the vast amount of sex I've had with guys (oral with hundreds of guys, anal with a few). It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. To my utter surprise, she still wanted to stay with me, as long as I stopped everything gay. But I had to get all the STD tests, including HIV of course, before we had sex. Since the last guy I had sex with (it had been oral and rimming him) had only been a week before, we had to wait three months for the test results--all negative.

We ended up being together for three years, albeit a very rocky three years, with her breaking up with me many times, during which I did a lot of gay porn and these forums. She found out about that and was not happy. In the end it was my overwhelming gay desires that forced me to break up with her in the end, permanently. I knew that I could never be in a relationship with a woman again, because it would be impossible for me to give up having sex with men.

Finally, I wanted to mention that even though finding such women who can accept a bi guy is rare, it never stopped me from having my biggest fantasy for the longest time (decades)--to be married to a bisexual woman, where once a month we would get together with another bi couple, but only homosexual sex can happen during that get-together, with the four of us lying together, side-by-side, but me having sex with the guy and she having sex with a girl, without anybody being allowed to touch anyone of the opposite sex. So I always imagined looking over at the two women having hot lesbian sex together, while I was having hot gay sex with my male lover. And then getting right back to giving him all my attention once again.

 

I think most women would disapprove of their husbands being Bi, I am not a expert but unless when the the two were dating and were actually honest and said their true feelings toward sex, and relationships then being Bi might be more acceptable