When Your Man Isn't 'Eating'.....When Your Woman Isn't 'Sucking'

I probably wouldnt have that much of a problem with it as long as he didnt expect me to do it for him without him doing it. If that was the case I would have to slap him... although things would probably get boring pretty fast

 

Nope. I'd totally fuckin leave. Oral is cool, not even as weird as I can get *g*
Its like why not do it if it really feels good when done right.

 

I would leave. I can't live w/o the oral.

 

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One of my exes...

He was a real bummer. He performed oral sex on the first date and then never again.

*lol*

 

I dont think I could be in an intimate relationship with someone that wasnt into oral, giving or recieving. I had a fuck buddy that just didnt like to be pleased orally...EVER! So that was short lived.

 

I'd be upset for the first few weeks. But if I liked the guy enough I'd get over it.

 

Same here. It would not be a matter of doing without it, or "straying." I simply would not be partnered with such a person for very long after finding out that they didn't have a sexual appetite that meshed well with mine.

-Jeffrey

 

You're not being "cold-hearted." I think it's a mistake to "stick around if there was hope to get them to become more open-minded." I believe that for the most part, we ARE the sexual creatures we are GOING to be. What I mean by that is that I don't think tremendous changes go on in a person sexually. I think that if you are open-minded, you'll remain that way; and if you're closed-minded sexually, you are not likely to ever become sexually open-minded and adventurous.

There are those who like verrrrry vanilla sex, and anything "kinky" throws them and turns them off. (In a different thread, dhs I believe said that he gets turned off by anything much more than "regular sex"). Then there are those who are just SO TOTALLY INTO the human experience of lovemaking in as many forms as they can get -- the "sexual gourmands". I am of that variety. I thrive on the idea of experiencing as much sexual intimacy in as many forms as I can possibly indulge in. It's a huge part of what makes life a joy.

I have known people in my life who seemed to never be thinking sexual thoughts. A good friend of mine just always seemed so very parochial about sex. He never mentioned anything about a hot girl and wanting to do this or that with her (not that that's particularly "coothe"). I never got the impression that he was much of a sexual creature. It didn't gibe with what I knew of myself, who walked (walks) around perpetually horny and interested in experiencing sexual intimacy. ("Interested" and "able to get it" are two different things, you know. I'm not saying I'm going around fucking everything with a heartbeat, either.)

I have read so many letters to Dear Abby from people (often women) who tell her they just wish their men would leave them alone, they have little or no interest in sex. I think of that as a brain imbalance, like people who suffer from some chemical problem that leaves them with insomnia. In our natural state of balance, as human beings, if our bodies are in good working order we DO WANT SEX. A person who doesn't want sex seems to me to be running low on something that the body is supposed to have that makes it want sex and love.

I don't think that such people can be brought around to being strongly sexual people. I think you either luck into it or you don't. I feel fortunate that I did.

-Jeffrey

 

Isn't it great when you are crazy about going down on a person ("I like giving even more than receiving.") and your lover is the same way?!

I love the closeness I can feel with a girl who is just like I am, sexually.
We can have fun just sharing our outlook on loving to suck and lick the other! There's a bond there.

It doesn't end up being a competition. Instead, it ends up being, one person gets to enjoy receiving while knowing how crazy the other is about giving, and then that person gets to give, and enjoy the hell out of that, all the while conscious of the fact that the receiver is enjoying not only the head but the knowing that you're loving to give it!

Two people who love to give head are very compatible. Each one can enjoy getting head, which feels great, at the same time as they get the satisfaction of knowing that the giver is loving the hell out of giving (and not just doing it perfunctorily, for as long as they "have to").

-Jeffrey

 

Love conquers all, they say.

I honestly don't know how I would react to a situation like that, as the only experience I have is with my husband. We both love giving and receiving. So I'm used to having those luxuries.