When your best bud is straight (but you're not).......

For many years, my best friend (who truly regarded me as not only his best friend, but also, as the brother he never had) and I had the tightest, strongest, closest bond between us.

This big fellow was one in a million, believe me.

In fact, I "came out" to him even before I came out to my own family; to say he was totally supportive of me would be a gross understatement.

Even though he was 100% straight (myself, 100% gay) he never judged me, or looked down on me because I was gay.

His children were grown and married, and he was nearly 20 years older than I was.

We even worked together for a number of years, before he retired.

After that, I visited him and his lovely wife often, often spending a part of my vacation with them.

We were like two big teenagers, always joking, ribbing one another, and having a lot of crazy adventures.

When he passed away due to a rare form of blood cancer 13 years ago, I was beyond devasted.

I lost not only my best friend, but also, my surrogate "big brother".

I still feel the loss deeply today.

He HAD to have been a VERY exceptional man; unlike many straight men, he didn't think of "male bonding" as being too "queer" or "gay"; we simply enjoyed each others' company, and bonded deeply over the course of many years.

Though I did have some straight friends (co-workers) that I was fairly close to, I never had the same deep "bond" that I had with Jim.

In fact, I once confided in him that I was greatly attracted to him; he laughed, put his arm around me, and told me without hesitation: "If I were on the 'dark side' like you (he always good-naturedly joked that if you were gay, you were on the "dark side") you'd be the guy for me."

Elated?

Proud?

You have NO idea how great I felt hearing that from my 100% straight best friend.

I wish that every gay (or bi) man could have a straight friend like this; I could trust him TOTALLY, and, like any good "big brother", he was always watching out for me and my well-being.

Am just curious if any other gay or bi males here have (or had) a best bud who was totally straight?

The more I reflect on my friendship with Jim (RIP) I realize not just how exceptional a man he was, but also, how very fortunate and blessed I was.

He truly was one in a million.......

"LIve long and prosper"

 

If ANY gay or bisexual men here are fortunate enough (and blessed enough) to have a straight best buddy who ACCEPTS them for what they ARE, and truly CHERISHES their friendship, NEVER take it for granted.

With my late best friend, I certainly never took one moment for granted....how truly blessed and fortunate I was......

"Live long and prosper"