Yes, in a way. I knew she had sex with multiple partners in college, and I wondered if she missed the variety after several years of marriage. So we talked about it, and I gave her permission to try other men. She had a couple of experiences and that was all she needed to realize one man was enough.
It's a thin line between wanting them to be happy or them doing something that makes you happy. Wanting something versus accepting something is the difference. You want them to have sex with others. But they may not care to. They may only do so to please you. So when "you" want your mate to (fill in the blank) it is what you want. Not what your partner wants. If you change the statement to "when your mate wants to" and you accept it then you are showing your love for them.
I agree. It gets a bit into the psychological aspect of the human mind here. In my situation I want for her whatever makes her a content human being, whatever it takes within my abilities. We've discussed this several times and she almost had an affair with another woman but she gave it some serious thought and she stopped. She said even thought she knew my position and feelings about her, her feelings were the same about me. She said if she had an affair with a woman she would be in danger of becoming emotionally involved with her and that just might change the entire paradigm of our relationship. She said what we have is special and pretty perfect. If by chance her affair but a crack in our relationship she would have to rely on the woman to provide the same or similar foundation that we have. And that scared her. She said I think you should have an affair because for you it would be just sex without any attachment. And if you do, she said I want to be there to watch without involvement or for you to video everything. I asked why? She said watching would be the greatest thrill she could ever encounter. So I gave it some thought and decided that our relationship ids perfect without a third person. We just love reliving our sex experience past in stories and sometimes telling make up stories that enhance our pleasures.
Great question. There is a word for this, it’s called “Compersion”. The complete feeling of joy you receive when knowing your spouse is enjoying themselves with another sex partner. You have to release yourself of all fear, anxiety, and jealousy. Your only emotion should be a deep happiness. My wife and I are practicing this. It is a work in progress.
