When you have mixed feelings about people....

What do u do?
Like you get on ok with em sometimes , but you've got sort of a nagging feeling about em.Say u arent sure if u can trust em.Or u get the odd negative vibe from em.

Do you just look at the positive?The negatives .Or something else?

 

Usually look for positives in people, but wont get too close.

 

I tend to look for positives too.
And just record the negatives clocking up , but keep a careful eye on them.

Occasionally I'm wrong about people , and they turn out to be fine.

Sometimes ,a gut feeling is right.
But it might be years , before I say "ok I dont trust this person any more".

 

this reminds me i need to call CPS and get a different worker.. the one i have now is a bold faced liar.

 

I drop people if they breathe the wrong way.

 

its really hard because im fickle.. everyone has negatives and positives.. i guess to figure out who you want to be close to, you have to define your personal morals to see what you will tolerate and what you wont. dont get too close until it is proven worthy.. at the same time dont be mean.. i dunno.. i have trouble with this too

 

I've known a friend 15 or 16 years.But the last 4 he became progrssively more of an arsehole.

Its hard breaking off contact when they still have a "good side".But it was the double standards that eventually did it for me.

And I find it with people all the time.Sort of "yeah I could have great fun with so and so... but there's this thing..."
But I give em a "benefit of the doubt"...

 

I generally take everybody as a good person until they prove otherwise, but I have learnt to trust those nagging doubts. They usually(95%) are right.

 

I try to find the good in everyone and work with that.
I mean, even my best of friends annoy the shit out of me sometimes, but I love them, so I deal.

 

I come off as a bit creepy. I appreciate people who give me a chance anyway.

... So I can punish their naivety.

 

I can tell if a person is worth my time right after meeting them.

Few are worth my time.

 

Sometimes family, work and study obligations means that you are forced to live and work alongside people that really kind of suck, or at least no matter how much you like them in theory, they zap your energy, irk you or your best instincts tell you that they need to be avoided. A lot of the time you can do nothing at all to change these people. Its hard, and I am not always good at it, but I generally try to used these situations to force myself to be a better person. Because the pain from having to deal with these people is unavoidable, I try to find ways that I can iron out my own bad habits in order to make the relationship more bearable.

In the instance that I have a choice as to whether to hang around somebody or not, I just play it by ear. As pavel said, it doesn't take long to figure out whether somebody is worth your time or not.

 

Hmm I think its complicated.
Sometimes I think its the people *and* the circumstances.

Option 3 is just the way I am.
Sometimes I regret that but....

 

People work hard to let you down!

 

Some people just see how far they can go.I think that is arseholish.
I'm really easy going socially and then BANNNGG!!!
I go mad.
*Thats* not the best way to be.

Workwise , I dont let a problem happen in the 1st place.
But work colleagues aint friends that often