When you find out you are in someones will.

That is rather more responsibility as it means that you can act on their behalf and at their request.

 

power of attorney is way better....I have a cousin who used that to wipe out my grandma before she died ..that way there was nothing left for anyone to fight over since he took it all :mickey:

 

Haha, no, I said the thing in parentheses as an attempt to stress that they are NOT on the same side of the family...I just have drama all around, lol.

 

My mom had that for her parents, which was a good thing because my grandma had Alzheimer's when she died.
Then when my grandpa was in the hospital dying of cancer, they gave him too much medication and he got violent and didn't know who anybody was...My sister (who works at the hospital) found him tied to a chair and called my mom.

My mom is very responsible though. You have to be careful who you pick for that shit.

 

My dad is my grandma's power of attorney, but he's kind enough to give my oldest uncle say in important matters. My dad is terrible with his own money, but excellent with other people's money, so he's really the right one for that responsibility. He has her checkbook and is on her bank account, and it really makes me proud of him to see how responsibly he keeps up with her money after he was so fucking terrible with his money when I was growing up. Haha. So far there haven't been many major medical decisions to be made since they decided to put her in a nursing home, but it amazes me how my dad takes care of that stuff so well.