When she is content without sex, what next?

My wife and I have had several conversations over the past few weeks about our sex life. We are together 10 years now and I noticed she doesn't desire what I desire much anymore. She said it's not as important to her as it is to me but did say "You're bisexual and have a regular guy", you'll be just fine so focus less on me and more on yourself". WOW!

She went on to say that she knows my sexual desires far exceed hers as she turns 64 tomorrow and I am 59. She said, "You are lucky to have Carol & Tom to sexually interact with when you need to, and I want you to be satisfied sexually but I am losing my abilities to do so with my bad knees. She has only ever orgasmed through oral sex which I do for her all the time but not always with success. She's always been able to satisfy me to orgasm, sometime two but has given me the green light to spend time with Tom & Carol as often as I need to. In the past I always kept her in the loop but now she told me to just do as I please and if a moment comes along and I have the desire for sex with you...you will know.

WOW, this woman is so terrific and understanding. What is frustrating to me through all of this is she gives the best oral any woman has ever provided me as she always focuses under and around my always shaved balls and ass. I will miss her doing so, but Tom & Carol also provide the very same oral service.

I hope I don't lose her. I've not had sex with anyone for two weeks which is rare, but I am going to refrain through the holidays as we prepare everything here for the upcoming holidays. I love my wife so much.

 

Dittos to Papa's post LowHangers. You have a great wife. You are the envy of many of us here. She obviously loves you as much as you love her.

 

Lowhangers, you are the envy of many of us for sure. I would imagine your wife’s attitude toward sex makes you love her more. My guess is that you show her your love out of the bedroom as well since its relatively a small part of your relationship. She allows you to get your sexual needs met without guilt or judgment and that is huge. Don’t take her for granted my friend. Most of us are not as fortunate as you are and have to get our needs met hidden from our wife’s view.

 

LowHangers, sending you a DM with support!

 

I doubt you will loose such a good and understanding woman. My wife no longer has desires for herself, but like you, I have been able to explore other options,however without any female involvement. She is loosing her interest with the strapon and toys, which she says I can use on myself or find a "friend". They know we are perpetually horny and willing to try anything acceptable. As long as they are not neglected, it all works. We have to get it out of our system somehow . You are very lucky to have "friends " that you can share with and even luckier to have your wife.

 

Well not all is lost if she is happy for you to hookup with your regular friends.
If she's not up to it or not up for it at least she's to old you and also given approval for you to get what you need.
If she's content but not up to o it be happy she's content. I understand you want sex with her too and it seems she might when the time is right.
You are lucky you have experienced all you have with her involvement and support.
It's not the end of the road it's just a detour.
Tom and Carol seem to be there for you, Carol has a hot sister and Tom will plough your ass anytime you want.
There might be options so long as you come home at night.
If your wife's in the mood she might just wanna watch from the sidelines if she's in the mood.
You have probably still got the best of a bad situation and not many are as lucky as you to have been able to share or be themselves.
All the best and if anything interesting happens we are happy to read about it.

 

Speaking of Carol’ sister, what is your relationship with her at this time?
Might she be someone to help fill in when your wife isn’t in the mood?

 

I'm trying to get my wife on board having a threesome with her, but my wife is not very receptive to having her over. Carol had a falling out with her and it seems my wife is on board with Carol as well. I want her to engage sexually with us and she's open to it as well, but the wives are not so I have dropped the subject for now.

 

Adjusting is tough, but where there is a will, there is a way. Willl you wife still give you a few min. to help you satisfy yourself with Masturbation? Other women have always been off base, but toys and masturbation have filled the void. Past bi partners are history and honestly , while I enjoyed by bi experiences, I dont have the desire to be with a stranger, just for a little fun. My wife still(thank goodness) likes to see me getting my asshole worked over and all covered with cum. This posseses a challenge to get a rise out of her, with being as outrageous as possible. Being older, the desire for the chase, or hunt, is gone.The thrill and feelings of a dildo and a strong orgasm are still there, all the time. I love performing my aquired skills of taking it in the ass and lavishing in my hot cum . I have learned not to be boring, or I am on my own. She/they just doesn't want for themselves anymore and are don't feel threatened by sex. You are lucky to have an open minded wife. I learned not to let my sexual desires get in the way .You are also lucky to have a couple that you ccan have fun with. Women are still off limits, but Im allowed to suck all of the cock I want, if I discover another old horny like minded individual. If I do, she wants to know about it and more than likely want to watch. Hang in there and make the best out of it until you find a solution, to your situation.

 

Sorry to hear that the sisters are not getting along at the moment.
What was it that caused the fall out?

Dangerous to get in between two fighting sisters, but if you could help mend fences in anyway, it might help you out. If the sisters can work out their differences and be friends again, Then maybe your wife would be more open to a threesome.
Plus no one likes it when sisters don’t get along. Just some thoughts that I’d help you and help everyone.

 

I would steer away from close relationships like Sisters.
Is your wife totally Done with Sex altogether or will she help you out a little or what does she suggest. My only partners are my dildos at the moment. I thought you were blowing guys on a regular basis. Did that stop with this marraige?

 

Yeah I was wondering about all those straight guys that were getting blown on Poker night.
The sisters problem, well now that's come up at the wrong time now.

 

And they wonder why so many senior men are Bi, or at least, Bi Curious. There is always a cock in need of sucking. Some are lucky to have women who support their needs in different ways.

 

I honestly don't think women have any idea how strong the sex drive is in most men. I know mine has no idea. My belief is she thinks sex is purely recreational like riding a bike or kayaking. I have even tried to describe it in terms like chocolate. I told her to go without chocolate until I get laid . Well we have a fridge overflowing with chocolate from the Hollidays and I still have blue balls so I guess that didn't sink in.
I guess I shouldn’t feel guilty for getting sex from men since the chocolate didn’t come from me. Lol.

 

When the change came and medical issues over the years brought sex to a screeching halt, Something had to be done to make us both happy . If all I wanted was someone to suck my cock, just let our gay friend do it. Irs no big deal and she wasn't jealous in the least bit, in fact, relieved. Its all about change in attitude. Our horizons were broadened and we are survivors.

 

I agree Papa, there is definitely some biology at work in this but there is also some thought process at work. My wife is in every other regard a very loving and giving woman. And there are other options besides vaginal sex. She just cant wrap her head around the need that I have for some sort of intimacy.
It can never come to light that men are an option for me. It would end my marriage and affect my relationship with a dozen grandkids. I cant let that happen I value it too much.

 

I noticed a few years ago that more women would firmly push and rub their boobs into me with their hug and kiss. I soak in the affection like Sunshine I don't know how it would go if I rubbed my cock against them. ?