I'm curious as to what actually goes on in a child's mind? what makes them do the terrible and stupid things that they do? ages 4 to 8 years old, i have a 4 year old niece who's out of control...literally. she gets into shit all the time, every single day, and be wondering why her mouth gets open, ass whoopings don't do anything, she gets those all day, well..when her mother pops her, she cries, but when i finally do it? she laughs at me and keeps on doing what i specifically told her not to do, no matter how much i pop her, it doesn't hurt her, but only when her mom does it, she shows actual emotion, idk what's her problem with me.. but i could be dead ass serious and she'll assume that i'm playing around with her, when clearly i'm not, she should be able to tell in my voice, like with her mother, she knows when her mom's not playing by the tone of her voice and she chills out.. earlier, she randomly walked over to me while i was on my phone and threw a small bottle of water on me, all over my shirt and pants, and it got on my phone (iphone 7) good thing it's not damaged, because if it was, her mother would be handing over some money, but any who, i told her she better not do it or i'll whoop her ass.. a few mins later she does it, which was the wrong choice.
Children mimic and learn from their parents (their first teachers).... whooping and hitting little ones is NOT the answer... I wonder what has happened to the older Kids that are doing worse and they are older... I'm older and looking back over my life, everything went downhill start with TV... So so many should never bring children into the world....they don't know how to be parents, and todays times are horrid.
No one will be able to tell you how a 4 yr olds mind works, no one remembers correctly Even if they believe they do
kids need to know that actions have consequences, and I don't just mean physical punishments, taking stuff off them can be quite effective as a learning tool especially if it's something they like or use a lot such as the mobile phone or video game, some kids have little or no empathy, in other words they don't see how their actions affect other people, like if they break something belonging to someone else they don't seem to realise that it will make that person feel sad or upset, yet if something happens to their stuff they get upset and think everyone else should feel sorry for them. I really don't understand kids today, they have a lot more than we had, yet they are less well behaved, I remember my uncle, he had seven kids and if they had a bag of sweets they'd offer them round to everyone present, even if it meant they would end up not getting one themselves, and they only got one bag a week, now kids quite often get sweets every day and yet they hardly ever offer them around, it just shows the more they have the more selfish they become. I think kids get stuff so easy these days that they don't value stuff, it's like Christmas, if we got twenty quid spent on us we thought we'd done well, now a kids Christmas list usually adds up to hundreds of pounds, yet they don't look after stuff, it's like a lot of parents, we've got kids today of 12 or 13 years old with no respect for the police, or authority in general, but if you look at their parents most of them have no respect for authority either, so what do you expect. There was an incident not too far from me over the weekend, a large group of young teens causing mayhem in a park, the police arrived and were met with abuse and violence, if I had my way when police attend incidents like this one of them would carry something like the old flamethrowers they had during the war, but instead of flames it would throw out a purple dye that took ages to get off the skin and didn't come off clothing. Perhaps little Johnny would think twice about causing trouble if his best clothes and trainers would get wrecked and perhaps the shame of walking around with a purple headed child would make his parents start doing something about his behaviour.
curiosity. what would it feel like? more then what will it cost me to find out. the latter they learn the hard way to take into account. but when this hasn't happened yet. its natural to be curious about everything.
Kids are not raised by parents today they are raised by what they are seeing on electronic devices, How many parents give their children their cellphones or iPads to keep them occupied. No communication or social skills are being developed by watching videos playing games on computers. When is the last time you heard please, thank-you, or excuse me from someone 20 years old for example.
Kids are new people, you can't expect them to be anywhere near the level you are on, emotionally or in terms of discipline. They need guidance and sometimes they only accept the guidance from their parents or someone they consider their Alpha of sorts. You just may not be a figure of authority to your niece, no matter how you try. I'm not around my nieces near enough to try to assume any role of authority to either but I do try to make a good example for them when I am around. They are both very good children, the oldest is 7 and makes plenty of mistakes but she's still learning, and the youngest is 2 and she is DEFINITELY still learning the ropes. She's a little wild child but its just indicative of a strong personality that will absolutely take her far in life with the right direction. Kids are still learning the world and they are still learning how to process their emotions. Try to have patience with your niece, OP, she's still learning.
I hope she smashes that bottle in your face the next time. I’m talking stitched like Frankenstein. Beating a kid bravo! She will grow up to hate you both. My step dad used to do that..... Then we grew big. He eventually ended up being throttled with a knife to his throat. If not for my step sister, I’d be a murderer. He left. Entertain the fucking kid! Then they will not be left to do stupid things. That’s the responsible actions of a grown arse man. (Or woman!)
They have child brains. They aren't developed yet and to hold them to similar standards as adults is futile. I was a fucking idiot at 4 years old. All of us were. Except my kids, they are all simply brilliant Just joking they are assholes. But they don't understand what an asshole is or why they do the things they do or say what they say. It's our job as their elders to help guide them along their way, not punish them for not knowing how to read a map.
mostly that there are already more humans then are sustainable for the planet. yes there's room for plenty more, but ultimately, all life depends on the diversity of all life. when one form starts to crowd everything else out, nature makes corrections, in the same sense that word is used in relation to the stock market. the current pandemic is an example of one of them. consideration has to be learned, along with survival. that is why nearly all species start with a period of being dependent on and learning from parents and older peers.
