what's the hardest thing for you about being gay?

i know exactly what you mean there! so many of my straight male friends go out of their way to reinforce their manliness in front of me and remind me that theyre straight.....its as if they would like it if i did try it on lol!

 

Agreed. I hate having to give in to them. I wanna bat comments like that down because it would only be so easy! I'm just afraid that they'll suspect...

 

I was just thinking about this the other day at work. I'm now very comfortable with my sexuality and I have no worries about people knowing. The idea of reproving someone because of a homophobic comment is something that has recently become a very real possibility in my mind. While these comments no longer have any effect on my personally, I do feel that it is my duty to try and dissuade people from making them because there are doubtless other closetted individuals who are hearing them and feeling how I once did (afraid, powerless, helpless, lonely, etc.). People need to know that such reprehensible behaviour will is unacceptable.

Forunately there have not been any homophobic comments at work lately but there have been a few in the past. If any such comments spring up in the future I would have a talk with that individual warning them to refrain from saying such things and then notifying my supervisor if they fail to heed my warning. That's one nice thing about working for such a large comany, they usually have very strong harassment policies and if my supervisor doesn't do anything, there is always someone above, and then above that person, and so-on that will come crashing down on their subordinates for not punishing such behaviour.

 

I could think of a hundred things that are hard when you're gay, but what I hate most about it in relation to the social world is straight guys who have such ego problems. I swear, if you could harness the power of the heterosexual male ego, we'd have an alternative energy source for the next 95 billion generations of people.

I guess there is just something about me that guys can sense I'm not completely straight, and therefore I MUST be attracted to them, I MUST be staring at them every second their back is turned, and they MUST keep an eye on me at all times. If a straight guy sits in front of me in class, 99.9% of the time he will keep turning his head to make sure I'm not staring. 99.9% of the time, I am NOT looking at him, but because straight men often have huge egos, they think because I'm gay, I'm automatically attracted to anything with a penis. Pft. I'll admit, when I see a hot guy, even if I'm sure he's straight I might look him over once, but I'm also realistic, so when I know a guy is straight I don't oogle him.

And then, as he keeps looking back to make sure I'm not looking, he catches me looking, because of COURSE I'm going to look at somebody who keeps fucking looking back at me, and so he's like A HA! And it just continues. Get. Over. Yourself. You'd be surprised, even the most unattractive guys do this, and I consider myself to be pretty attractive so there's no need for me to be desperate. If nothing else, take it as a fucking compliment that anyone would even think about looking at you, knowing damn well your ego is the size of a small planet. Fuck off.

 

The Hardest Thing Ab0ut Being Gay.
There Are So Many Things But I W0uld Have To Say The Hardest Thing Is Dealing With Peoples Ign0rance And Pe0ple Judging Y0u And Trying To "change" Y0u. I D0nt Understand Why People Can't Just Live And Let Live.
I Mean. . What D0es It Matter To An0ther Pers0n Whether I Like Females 0r Males?!. . And Then There Are The People Wh0 Claim That We "polute" The Earth And Push Our Belifs 0n Pe0ple. . Blah Blah! What Ab0ut The Murderers, Killers And Drug Dealers?!
We Are N0t Hurting Anyb0dy. And I Hate Pe0ple Who Can't Grasp That.

 

The hardest thing is knowing that there are probably millions of people who hate me for what I am and will continue to hate me no matter what.

 

The hardest thing for me as a gay man-personally-
Is knowing that so many other gay men and women---and not only gay people-But so many human beings-period-
Still live in fear.
I definitely understand.....
Ive been through my own...........
Yet-
simply put-
That is still the most difficult thought/concept for me to wrap my mind around...as we near the year 2008....
most recently-anyway............

 

The Hardest Parts Of Being Gay Suddenly Get A Whole Lot Softer...(bad choice of words glen) After You Accept Yourself For Who You Are...Suddenly The Hurdles That Life Erects(another bad choice) In Front Of Us Appear A Whole Lot Easier To Jump (yes another..groan).........I Realise It Looks Easy For A Guy My Age (sob) To Say This To Teens...Twenty..Thirty Somethings etc. But Trust Me, Accepting Yourself For Who And What You Are, In My Mind Is The Most Important Step Any Young Gay Guy Can Take In Life........Cheers Glen.

 

There are all these cute guys everywhere but most of them are straight.

 

Probably not being able to have the same mentality as my straight friends. Mind you I haven't got a chance to make friends with other gays. Anyway, that would be the hardest.

 

I think I'm going to have to change my earlier answer which referred to struggling to meet guys. I think something I don't like about being gay is that I won't ever be able to have my own children, but it isn't a real biggy.

 

What about surrogate mothers? That is what I am planning to do, should I choose that I want a child.

 

Yeah, but still then it wouldn't really be your partner's kid would it? I mean...even if you get a surrogate mother, it would be different to having a kid with your partner (if you were straight). But still - just because you didn't have the child with your partner doesn't mean that you should be any less happy with having an adopted child or anything.

 

being in the closet and afraid to come out

 

What are you afraid of? Why not make a topic in the "Coming Out and Confused" section and we can discuss your "problems"?

 

The hardest thing for me is meeting other guys. Im not very good at talking to people at the best of times, plus I live in the middle of nowhere. And also cute guys being straight.

 

hiding it (coz i live in a predominantly muslim country)
being not able to find another gay guy (living in a small city)
being without knowledge of love (that's the worst if you're at high school)

 

Ditto

 

Being in love with my best friend and being to scared to say anything to him for fear of loosing him as a friend...

 

Being another exploited minority, by the heterosexual, heteronormative majority.

These companies reap profits from our 'pride' parades
These companies reap profits from our portrayal in the media
These companies market products to the LGBTI community, when none of the money goes back into it.

Think twice before you buy pride shirt, what does 'pride' actually mean anymore?

I'm more up for gay shame, to think we've allowed our world and community to become so exploited.

It's sad, you'll be shunned from the straight world because you don't conform to their sexual persuasions,
yet, i'll be shunned from the queer world because i won't conform to their ideals of what it 'is' to be a fag.

I'm a faggot, i like cock, i like arse, and i love boys, but unless i don't have a lisp, limp wrist and 3000 pairs of shoes, i'm not in the club