What's the benefit of being judgmental?

In a normal everyday conversation, in the real world, everyone would have known what Mama meant.

Now let's go through this post so some of you can feel like you got the upper hand:

"mimic, isn't the internet part of the real world?", "how do you define normal?", "surely not literally everyone would know.", "'through' can take on many meanings", "do you mean 'can' as in able or as in a can of beans? ", "who's mama are you referring too?"

Come on people!

 

being a little judgmental there, aren't we. :afro:

why do you feel the need to divide the posts into those "who get it" and those "who need to feel as if they got the upper hand"?

sounds as if you are making arbitrary divisions and passing judgement based solely on your own perceptions all geared towards setting your self "above" others in the group.

 

I find it impossible to go through life without forming lots of opinions, but I keep most of them to myself. If I pass someone on the sidewalk and think, "I don't like that shirt", I don't feel any desire to communicate that to anyone. Everybody has the right to wear shirts that look bad to me.

What I think is most annoying is when people don't know how to choose their battles, and think it is worthwhile to share so many opinions about unimportant things and expect others to care. That shows a lack of social skills, and maybe an overly inflated view of one's own importance. Maybe they just love to argue, or hear themselves talk. Whatever the reason, it's annoying.

I think some people spend a lot more time comparing themselves to others.

 

Here I thought you understood the point of the thread, and the TYPE of judgment I'm referring to.

 

Oh who cares what kind of judgment everyone is talking about...its a discussion thread, let the discussion go where it will.

No offense. Just seems kind of silly half this thread was wasted arguing over what types of judgments are appropriate to discuss in the thread.

 

ooops

 

Instead of "judgment" I should have said, "what's the point of being assholes to each other." That's what I really meant to discuss.

 

I'm not sure it was at all to build her up but more to keep everything smooth a silky like butter as she wanted it but one slip of the tongue even from a newbie and we were all in shit, it was like her whole world came crashing down because every little thing she did or said was right in her mind so people didn't usually step even near her toes, but yet it was a bird site and everyone seemed to think they needed to do what she liked or put up with miles of reading her woes and forget we were there to discuss our birds.
She PMed me a few times to ask why I wasn't supporting her, I told her I was here for the birds and I have no feelings either way on the issue being discussed, that kind of made her mad too. Couldn't even be neutral with her, she wanted everyone on Her side. It was kind of a turn off to the site so I eventually found another one.
When someone can't take judgment as it is, positive and negative they aren't looking for judgement, they are looking for Koodos and a pat on the back. They should stick to who ever in their lives gives them that only and stay away from places like work, sites, and public life that may show all walks of life seeing things in many more ways then themselves, to protect themselves.

 

That's kind of like saying, "Why do some people have no social skills?"

Maybe they grew up where everybody acted that way.

 

I think everyone gets it. Not saying the ones who are picking posts apart are bad. They do distract from what threads are about though. They would also soon be excluded from conversations in real life.

 

This right here, showing that you don't want other opinions. You want us all to see it as you said it. Your next post kinda proves this.

How can you judge us and call us assholes for speaking?

 

Good point.

Indeed. I'm not against going off topic, but there's little to no conversation about the topic. Welcome to hip forums.

\_(''.)_/

 

Probably would have been a good idea - but only because of the stinkers in here.

Fuck, I'm judging.

Mama is leading us to a good point. What benefits are derived from acting as if others are bad because of who they are, or how they express themselves. I hope I didn't subtract from or add to your point Mama.

 

I'm pretty sure I specifically asked for opinions on the topic. I didn't very many on the specific topic. I'm not asking for agreement, I'm asking for discussion.

I'm not calling you an asshole. I'm asking what's to gain from it? Why do people feel the need to tear each other down?

 

No, you're right on point.

 

I hope I didn't subtract or add either, hee hee.

 

Or,,,, why do they feel the need to add to the conversation while being honest about themselves? Really did someone tear You apart or did they give an honest opinion you didn't care for? Where they an asshole while giving their opinion? Did they call you names while doing this, if so let's call them an asshole then because they are if they are actually slamming you like so then I agree totally. But I missed it.
Now I think just before this thread started someone on another thread said over weight women shouldn't wear yoga pants and it wasn't liked for some reason, but it was that person's honest feelings and it was said. Shouldn't do that? Should not be honest how we feel? Ok done. No one expresses their feelings on HF. I hope I have helped. Now if I seemed mean I am kidding and I am only trying to place a point here, not slam anyone. Really we are here together trying to express ourselves and it won't suit us all. Lots I read I don't like, tis why you see I am not in some forums very often or if at all but am in certain others I enjoy a lot.

 

Maybe an expression of their personal frustrations?

 

I'm not referring to a single situation. I'm taking about in general, in real life, and on the internet.

 

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