What's it like to be attractive?

everyone knows that beautiful people get treated better

 

its because we are better people

 

Like this?

 

great point/post

 

they look Italian....they do that to every girl...even the ugly ones

 

Me too.

"Ya, I know I am decent" made me laugh.

I spent many years not feeling "attractive," because I was surrounded by people that it wasn't in their interests to tell me so.
Looking back - if Mr Cs video is anything to go by (and him too ) - I am attractive...heck...bloody sexy.
But, I am a realist, so I don't think it is true....
Some of those people were not "pretty"...but had raised their confidence enough to be, well, confident...especially with their looks.
Perhaps that is all that matters...
I'd say 90% of the worlds population are bloody ugly fuckers...so raising your bar to be above the heard isn't all that difficult.

What's it like being attractive? Ask me again in a year...when my confidence has been raised enough to answer.

Perhaps feeling attractive makes you more attractive...it raises your confidence and therefore you tend to achieve more in your life.
There is always the excetion to the rule, though.

 

Somehow, I doubt an Oprah-looking female would get the same treatment. I might be wrong...

 

Let's redefine "attractive". "Attractive" means that someone is attracted to you. It could be for something completely disconnected from your popularly agreed upon "beautiful" appearance. In fact, the appearance isn't always the closer. It has more to do with other factors, like smell, vocal characteristics, even the ability to relax. What an "attractive appearance" guarantees is that there are certain items that would otherwise be deal killers that you don't have. An attractive appearance simply removes one of the potentials for failure, in making THAT connection.

Some deal killers might be, for instance, bad or missing teeth (unless one has replaced those with, say, gold teeth, which with some might be attractive). Bad breath also. Poor hygiene, smelly (again, depending on the smell, and the reason for the smell. People are actually attracted to certain body odors, due to the pheremones involved). People who take good care of themselves are more attractive than those who do not, except to those in the medical profession.

With everything in life, one ought not look at it as something that somehow "happened" to me, he, she, or it, but as something to be used, something of an opportunity. We all need to be aware of what we've been given, what cards we've been dealt. "Good looks", or "bad looks" can both be used, if one has a "business sense". Some people have a poor self-image, and could use the services of one who can help them to see the advantages, or how to turn what they consider to be defects or disadvantages INTO advantages. It helps if one sees things as opportunities, rather than "cruel fate". It's a positive outlook, rather than a negative.

The physically advantaged, or "fortunate" are truly fortunate, but the good fortune does nothing for those who shirk or despise the opportunities involved, in order to "make a statement". It's not evil to make gain from one's advantages. It may be evil, however, to hoard the gain. One can be genuinely attractive, and genuinely generous simultaneously. If one has the advantage, the good fortune to be "good looking", then why not use it to one's advantage, make a profit, and spread the wealth?

But again, factors of attraction go beyond the superficial. The mere sound of one's voice can be a huge turn on, or a turn off, depending.

So, as I said, it would help each one to learn how to utilize one's traits, even get some training in what traits are useful, and which are not, and should be discarded.

But there will always be those who say "Oh, I'm going to be whatever I want to be, just myself". That can be releasing, or it can be just a cop-out. But one thing is certain. If you are attractive to someone just by "being yourself", you may be on the road to happiness, unless you don't like who you are.

I feel like I just wrote some fucking magazine article. What a fucking piece of bullshit,,haha.

 

Dad you're so smart, thank goodness for a Dad like you.

 

I've had people tell me I'm attractive, but then again... nobody's going to walk up to you and say "Hey, you're ugly!".

 

Love you dear. Now where's that homework?

 

The dog ate it.

 

i really wouldn't know

i'm pretty fugly

 

Most attractive people are more insecure than people who aren't as a attractive or don't see themselves as attractive. Maybe they have learned not to care about something so mundane.

 

i am not told everyday that i am pretty. i have issues about the way i look, even if i know that i am way more good looking than many other people. and in a matter of fact this has always been my bigges mental problem, i have always managed to make it a problem for myself. but i realized that what you think thats what you are. and still sometimes i hate my appearance and i feel bad about it.
anyway i am sure if i was uglier a lot more things would be different for me, just like if i was more beautiful a lot more things would be different for me, but i don`t know how, i don`t want to know. right now what i am is the only possible thing for me to be

 

i wouldnt know im ugly as fucking sin

 

I am attractive. I get attention, compliments, lots of free stuff. I've been invited into clubs to draw in patrons and gotten free booze night after night.

But when you're told constantly that you are really, really ridiculously good looking, you start to care a great deal about your appearance and it causes insecurities. I know this is so petty and it's tough to admit, but it's always been a pattern for me that the fitter and more fashionable and attractive I am, the harsher I am on myself and the more I strive for some sort of impossible physical perfection. I understand why women get surgery. I would never do it, but I truly understand it.

And people do assume things about your personality. Not all models are dumb, but the vast majority of them are. I am not dumb; I'm actually rather smart and creative and original, but in some ways I am very shallow. I blame the way society conditions attractive people. And it is very easy to use my appearance and style to manipulate my reality.

Long response, but I have a lot to say on this subject.

Awesome vid Cherea... I get to the end like "yep, yep, she is really gonna cry cause she's pretty."

 

It's a daily struggle. Oh, to be plain.

 

you're full of yourself

 

Who else would I be full of?